If you knew that...

esb980 Posted: Jan 18, 2006 05:02 PM

If you knew that...

someone who you just met (but like a lot) dh was cheating on them, would you tell them? Would you want to be told?

ChrissynRicky Posted: Jan 18, 2006 05:03 PM

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Yes, I would tell them if I had solid evidence.

Yes, I would want to be told if someone else had solid evidence that my FH was cheating.

anne1rules Posted: Jan 18, 2006 05:03 PM

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That is a tough one. I would say that since you just met this person, I would stay out of it.
Things have a way of working themselves out and you don't want to be caught in the crossfire.

smara Posted: Jan 18, 2006 05:04 PM

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Posted by esb980

someone who you just met (but like a lot) dh was cheating on them, would you tell them? Would you want to be told?

I wouldn't tell them.. especially since you just met them. I would stay out of it.

I would def want to be told, but the percentage of woman who wouldnt want to know is higher!!

Poor friend...

Suzannebride Posted: Jan 18, 2006 05:04 PM

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Ooh...that is a hard one. It would hurt, but I WOULD want to know. I'd rather not be made a fool of and have no idea of what's going on. But be prepared that the person might kind of hate you for being the bearer of bad news.

roxyspark Posted: Jan 18, 2006 05:05 PM

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I wouldn't say anything.
I am in that situation right now and I am staying out of it. It is none of my business.

Naunie Posted: Jan 18, 2006 05:06 PM

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As long as you are willing to lose them as a friend for it.
Unfortunately, people tend to hate that messenger...

Edited to add- you should confront HIM, and give hima chance to stop or come clean. Give him a cut off date, when you will tell her.

Preshy7 Posted: Jan 18, 2006 05:06 PM

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id never say anything

if i was wrong id be hated for life...
not my business at ALL

SomethingBlu Posted: Jan 18, 2006 05:07 PM

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Posted by Naunie

As long as you are willing to lose them as a friend for it.
Unfortunately, people tend to hate that messenger...

This is true.

If there's real and accurate proof and I could back up my allegations, I would tell.

ETA: I would also like to be told.

Katie&Chris2006 Posted: Jan 18, 2006 05:13 PM

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I would probably confront him and see what he has to say. Maybe he will come clean on his own. Poor girl.

stephanief Posted: Jan 18, 2006 05:15 PM

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I would not say anything unless the girl was a friend. Karma is a ***** and the cheater will get his. Stay out of it....JMHO

mtdr1106 Posted: Jan 18, 2006 05:55 PM

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i wouldn't tell that friend - especially if the friendship is new. i couldnt sleep @ night knowing i caused disruption in someone elses marriage.

and i wouldnt want anyone telling me if my dh was cheating.

i truly feel that most people know (or @ least suspect) and push that feeling aside for whatever reason until they are ready to confront it. i think if someone brought something to my attention about my husband - my instinct would be to protect my husband - not take what you are saying seriously.

Mrs. Powell Posted: Jan 18, 2006 05:57 PM

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Posted by Preshy7

id never say anything

if i was wrong id be hated for life...
not my business at ALL

I so agree with this. I have learned not to meddle in people's affair.

Faith Posted: Jan 18, 2006 08:06 PM

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Absolutely not. I wouldn't touch it that with a ten foot pole.

diluvchu Posted: Jan 18, 2006 11:18 PM

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Posted by Faith

Absolutely not. I wouldn't touch it that with a ten foot pole.

I agree. If I hardly know them, then it is not my business to get involved with their affairs.

glinda_goodwitch Posted: Jan 19, 2006 12:43 AM

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Sometimes it is just not your place to say anything. Especially if you know the person cheating better than you know the girlfriend being cheated on.

jes81276 Posted: Jan 19, 2006 06:18 AM

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Posted by roxyspark

I wouldn't say anything.
I am in that situation right now and I am staying out of it. It is none of my business.

I agree, and if someone I just met told me that I would probably not believe them.

AlliNMatt06 Posted: Jan 19, 2006 07:56 AM

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You never know, the person might already now about it. ALot of people just close there eyes to these sort of things.

Stay out of it!! It is not your good friend, you just met them.

SIBride06 Posted: Jan 19, 2006 08:22 AM

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Posted by anne1rules

That is a tough one. I would say that since you just met this person, I would stay out of it.
Things have a way of working themselves out and you don't want to be caught in the crossfire.

I agree 100%

Soon2bMrs.MC Posted: Jan 19, 2006 08:34 AM

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Posted by SIBride06

Posted by anne1rules

That is a tough one. I would say that since you just met this person, I would stay out of it.
Things have a way of working themselves out and you don't want to be caught in the crossfire.

I agree 100%

Ditto.

If you've known them for a while, then its a different story.