If you parents paid for your reception, did they go with you to do the menu?

If you parents paid for your reception, did they go with you to do the menu?

My parents are paying for my reception (they are great!) and they want to come with us when we pick our menu. I think they should be there, but FH was surprised when I told him they were coming. They should be there, right?

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I think it's a good idea to have a few different opinions when it comes to the menu. I know that for me, my FI and I are picky eaters, and it will help to have my parents there, who will try things that I know most people like.

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Even if they werent paying for the reception, plenty of brides bring both sets of parents if the hall will allow it.

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My parents are paying for the reception and I brought them to the tasting and they liked all the choices I made but I would have definately taken their opinions into consideration if there were differences.

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I think that sounds fair.

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It's really up to you and your FH, having a few opnions is always a good idea. I have the menu from my place and ask both sets of parents for imput, but only Mike and I will go on the final day.

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My FIL'S arent paying for our reception and we brought them to our tasting. They werent there to pick our menu but help us decide on certain things... also fh's family makes up most the people who will be at the wedding and his parents know what everyone will like more then anyone. FH and I are also alergic to seafood and we needed people there who could eat it for us and tell us how it was!!

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I think it would be nice if they went, especially its good for more opinions. I went last week and it was FH. me and my parents. They have helped us out with some of the wedding and I really wanted my moms opinion on what were good selections so we had a good assortment of everything for the guests.

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I don't think you are being mean and snotty at all. I think your parents were generous to concede to the invitation from both families. I am sure I am going to have that same issue and have a hard time telling my parents (who are spending $$$$$$$) that they are not the only hosts. Anyway, my cousin is getting married soon and I thought what they did was a nice compromise. They brought the menus to both parents and asked for their preferences. Then they took both sides into consideration and chose themselves. You could do this with his parents, let them know that you are only asking for opinions, and then bring your parents with you so that they feel more involved. At least then his parents will think they had a say. Hope that doesn't sound underhanded!

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My parents are paying for the reception and I think my dad will probably be calling most of the shots when it comes to the menu. Since he used to be a maitre'd he thinks he knows everything. I let him think he's planning the menu, but if he wants something FH and I don't, we will have to pull an 'it's our wedding.' I don't expect it to be a problem though. I think he'll do a good job and probably pick everything I want anyway.

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You aren't being snotty at all. I feel that because your parents - and your parents only - are paying for the reception, they should be honored by being invited to help pick out the menu.

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I'm a little confused. We had a tasting to which brought my parents (his live in Iowa)and then we will pick the menu at a later date. Are you talking about the tasting or actually the final pick. Do you try the food on the day you pick the menu? If there is a seperate tasting I would invite both. I don't see the harm in that. You can alway give the menu to both sets of parent to look over and give opinions, without actually having both come to do the final menu.

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My parents are paying for the reception and of course I asked them to come - we did the menu this past Monday night. Not only did I think they deserved to come, but I wanted them there because I wanted their opinions. My FH may have thought it was strange but didn't object at all. My parents didn't dictate the menu though, they let me make the ultimate choices. Every family's relationship is different though - I am very close to my parents so maybe that also weighed in.

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I guess I will just have to wait and see what FH says. If he asks if his parents can come, I will ask my mom how she feels.

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