if you put your FI's parents' names on your invite...

Kara and Todd Posted: Mar 23, 2007 11:37 AM

if you put your FI's parents' names on your invite...

How did you word it?

We have

Mr. and Mrs. First Middle Last name
request the honor of your presence at the marriage of their daughter
Kara [middle name]
to
Todd [middle name]
son of
Mr. and Mrs. First Middle Last name

However, I originally wanted

Mr. and Mrs. First Middle Last name
request the honor of your presence at the marriage of their daughter
Kara [middle name]
to
Mr. Todd Middle Last name
son of
Mr. and Mrs. First Middle Last name

The invitation store said it wasn't done that way, to leave my FI's last name off. I understand their reasoning, but I have seen SO many invites written that way.

Your thoughts?

I mean, I get that it's repetitive... but which way have you seen it?

thelastresort Posted: Mar 23, 2007 11:39 AM

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I believe I have only seen it with the groom's first and middle name unless his last name is different from that of his parents i.e. mom is remarried and biological dad not involved/included.

CrisiDrue Posted: Mar 23, 2007 11:52 AM

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Actually, the groom can use his last name on the invite in any situation. I had a long discussion about this with my invite lady b/c we're both our parents are paying & he's a Jr, so it makes things complicated. It's also in the book of wedding etiquette by Emily Post.

GinaZ Posted: Mar 23, 2007 12:05 PM

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They cant tell you how to do them- do what you want. It will be fine whichever way.

LaurenluvsTJ Posted: Mar 23, 2007 12:37 PM

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We did it the second way. Worked fine for us.

jenafee Posted: Mar 23, 2007 12:47 PM

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This is our invite:

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ant n tilde Posted: Mar 23, 2007 12:53 PM

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i have never seen it with the groom's last name but if you want to put his last name why wouldnt you put yours too?

fallinlove91407 Posted: Mar 23, 2007 12:56 PM

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I am using my first & middle names and for Fh using his first & last name cause he doesn't have a middle name and it looked kinda off-center without using his last name.

ant n tilde Posted: Mar 23, 2007 01:00 PM

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Posted by fallinlove91407

I am using my first & middle names and for Fh using his first & last name cause he doesn't have a middle name and it looked kinda off-center without using his last name.

LOL that makes sense to me bc i get crazy about stuff like that! that is the same reason we are NOT putting FH's middle name - bc i dont have one

jeanla4c Posted: Mar 23, 2007 01:13 PM

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I've gotten invitations both ways so do whichever you want!!!

Smiles111 Posted: Mar 23, 2007 01:14 PM

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We put his first middle and last name even with his Mom's name.

My cousin put just first and middle
and people actually wrote out checks to
Mr. and Mrs. His MIDDLE name!

fallinlove91407 Posted: Mar 23, 2007 01:16 PM

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here's the link to the post I put on the 07 board -- we just got our design samples back from smashing cards, maybe this will help

smashing cards designs

Heather11207 Posted: Mar 23, 2007 04:22 PM

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We didn't put DH's last name on our invite because we had 'son of Mr. & Mrs. ___'
The only time I would think you would put the grooms full name is if the parents' names aren't on there.

faithandkevin Posted: Mar 23, 2007 04:28 PM

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Ours said his whole name because he has a different last name as his mother. But if they had the same last name I would've just written 'Kevin Charles'

Meaghan729 Posted: Mar 23, 2007 04:39 PM

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We are doing:

Ms. XXXXXXX (my mom)

and

Mr. and Mrs. XXX (his parents)

request the honour of your present at the nuptial mass uniting their children

Meaghan

and

Michael John

eta: when I was searching for wording, it normally had FH's full name (including last name) but I dont like the way that looks!

Mrs.A2006 Posted: Mar 23, 2007 06:11 PM

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You can write it however you want.

My invite read:
Mr. and Mrs. My Parents
together with
Mr. and Mrs. DH Parents
request the honour of your presence
as their children
Christine Middle Last
and
Keith Middle Last

We both had our last name written on the invite, for no particular reason. It was just how we wanted it to look and read.

donegal419 Posted: Mar 23, 2007 06:52 PM

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I did it the way you first had it... i didn't want his last name repeated twice...

KandR419 Posted: Mar 23, 2007 07:36 PM

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We did:

Mr. & Mrs. Bride's parents
and
Mr. & Mrs. Groom's parents
request the honor of your presence at the
marriage of their children
Bride's name
and
groom's name

then the date, time, place

ETA: for bride's name and groom's name, we did first and middle names, no last names

Goldi1021 Posted: Mar 23, 2007 07:50 PM

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I did it the second way you posted:

I really didnt care what people thought. It looked fine.

chatxleau24 Posted: Mar 23, 2007 08:19 PM

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mines like:

Mr. and Mrs. First Middle Last name
request the honor of your presence at the marriage of their daughter
Kara [middle name]
to
Todd [middle name]
son of
Mr. and Mrs. First Middle Last name