If you were invited to a wedding and couldn't go...

DeeDee1013 Posted: Nov 22, 2007 05:33 PM

If you were invited to a wedding and couldn't go...

would you send a card or a card & a gift?

If not, why?

TIA

GinaZ Posted: Nov 22, 2007 06:06 PM

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I would send a card with a check. Or a gift with a card. You should still send something...

beachbum05 Posted: Nov 22, 2007 06:09 PM

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Posted by GinaZ

I would send a card with a check. Or a gift with a card. You should still send something...

i totally agree.

JoesFutureWife Posted: Nov 22, 2007 06:12 PM

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I agree too...

skinny237 Posted: Nov 22, 2007 06:42 PM

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I agree too!

BoxOfRocks Posted: Nov 22, 2007 07:17 PM

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Yes, I would send something.

PegaLega Posted: Nov 22, 2007 07:32 PM

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Normally I would NOT have sent a gift, but recently a friend of mine told me that they always thought that was what you are supposed to do. And considering the amount of gifts we received from people who RSVPed No, I would send a gift, whether it be a check or a gift card

evnme Posted: Nov 22, 2007 10:00 PM

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i usually send something from their registry or a card w/ a check

MeaganAndJoeC Posted: Nov 22, 2007 10:15 PM

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I agree with everyone you should send something

Miblove Posted: Nov 22, 2007 10:17 PM

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But what if the person's wedding you were invited to, wasnt a good friend - more of an aquaintance?

Mici n KC Posted: Nov 22, 2007 10:28 PM

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Posted by Nc82

But what if the person's wedding you were invited to, wasnt a good friend - more of an aquaintance?

My parents were invited to a wedding and don't know why they were invited. I told them it probably was because the bride and groom were looking for a gift. They replied NO and didn't send a gift. It really depends. If you're not close with the person and don't intend to invite them to your wedding then don't give a gift. They might just be looking for one.

lonal Posted: Nov 22, 2007 11:55 PM

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I would send a crad and a gift. If it was family or a close friend I would send a check. If it was someone I wasn't close to, I would send a token gift like a wedding frame or something.

angl2001 Posted: Nov 22, 2007 11:56 PM

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i would send a card with a little something!

nycgirl79 Posted: Nov 23, 2007 03:12 AM

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Definitely send something. Check, gift card...even if you purchase something smallish off of their registry, it will be appreciated.

mariaobride Posted: Nov 23, 2007 08:51 AM

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depends on my relationship with the person if it is family or a close friend then I would send a card w/ a check or a nice gift if it is a long distance cousin or someone you are no really close to I don't think it is a bad thing if you dont send something

Future Mulligan Posted: Nov 23, 2007 08:56 AM

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it would depend on the person who invited me.

i dont think i would not be able to attend a wedding for someone that i am close too - i make sure that i can attend for close family/friends so i cant really see that situation happening unless it was a last minute cancellation on my part and i would def still give a gift.....

if i was invited to say a random persons wedding and didnt go - than i probably wouldnt send a gift - it really depends on my relationship with the couple.....im not going to send someone i barely know a gift - thats stupid to me & im probably not attending your wedding because i dont like you/or know you that well in the first place

SusiBtoM Posted: Nov 23, 2007 09:10 AM

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Posted by GinaZ

I would send a card with a check. Or a gift with a card. You should still send something...

ditto.

I've always done that, being wedding, christening, communion, etc.

Tori9299 Posted: Nov 23, 2007 09:20 AM

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Card and a gift.

BoxOfRocks Posted: Nov 23, 2007 09:52 AM

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if i was invited to say a random persons wedding and didnt go - than i probably wouldnt send a gift - it really depends on my relationship with the couple.....im not going to send someone i barely know a gift - thats stupid to me & im probably not attending your wedding because i dont like you/or know you that well in the first place

Good point!

Summer07Bride Posted: Nov 23, 2007 09:56 AM

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Card and gift/check. Actually we just got invited to a wedding and will not be going to it, so this is what I was planning on doing. Many people did the same thing for us.