im 43 days from wedding and ready to drop a BM VENTTTT

Original post by amandamichael

Jan 20, 2011 09:24 PM

so one of my bms has been giving me problems from the begining and ive just sooo had ittt

shes a friend of the family and she basically assumed she was in the wedding so i just went along with it
shes been a headache with the dresses with the shoes, shes made whatever comments she possibly could-- she doesnt like my besttttt friend bc her friend dated my bf brother, so she started with that when we booked jamaica on some i dont wanna be in her room bc shes a clepto-- ps- shes not, shes got nothing against her other than her friends doesnt like her brother---so i went off and explained that was my best friend since we were kids and if she had a problem she could walk away from the wedding- its just been one thing after another and its constant bs and nonsense

one of her friends wante dto go away for her bday which was also my bparty weekend- i heard that she asked them or told them to come to jamaica-- uhh really? i let that go that never happened

last week we were in a fb thread trying to figure out how we were going to get to the airport since we have a 6am flight and fh was supposed to drive us but hell be in fl for his bparty-- everyones trying to figure it out and she writes, oh my bf wants to take me so ill se you there- no oh im driving if anyone wants to come with me? like really? so im like nice of you to not offer it to anyone else like what the?

maybe im crazyyyy

today on fb i see her write on this same girls wall:

i feel terrible taht im not going to b here for you birthday bc i have to go on the f---ing trip?

for realllllll? have you lost your damn mind? i didnt know going to jamaica was a chore- and if you didnt wanna go--- stay the f home

what the hell is wrong with this girl

ladies, i have sooo had it-- i just messaged her and told her to stay home with her firend for her birthday since its a f---ing trip and its such a horrible terrible thing

waht the hell is wrong with girls?
im soooooooooooo doneeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeee

VCanizalez Posted: Jan 20, 2011 11:07 PM

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MG
I AM SO SORRY

I will def. KICK HER OUT
She is just CAUSIN U TOO MUCH STRESS!!!

Do u have anyone who can replace her?

If not, Here I am

VCanizalez Posted: Jan 20, 2011 11:08 PM

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Posted by amandamichael

not a word

am i over reacting like really? im sooo maddddd

relax Amanda...

THIS IS UR YEAR...
U DONT NEED THIS

Listen to me chica (well read this)
YOU DONT NEED THIS!!!!!!!!!!

What if she pulls up some BULLCRAP ON UR WEDING DATE?!!!!!!!!!

U DONT NEED DA!

Im getting Married Posted: Jan 20, 2011 11:10 PM

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Wow that is crazy..I would have kicked her to the curb too

LoveyDovey Posted: Jan 21, 2011 12:16 AM

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wow! im so glad you were honest with her....you go girl!!!!!

I do not think you are overreacting at all

BMs are supposed to be supportive and helpful and genuinely happy for you!!! she clearly is none of those things!

did she write back??

lisam1113 Posted: Jan 21, 2011 06:28 AM

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I don't think your overreacting at all!!! it's your wedding day. you don't need some1 like her to ruin it on you!

FutureJOC Posted: Jan 21, 2011 07:16 AM

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that's ridic! I think for your own sanity you should definitely give her the boot from the BP and honestly, boot her out all together from the wedding. You don't need someone like that there on you and FH's big day.

amandamichael Posted: Jan 21, 2011 08:44 AM

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Posted by LoveyDovey

wow! im so glad you were honest with her....you go girl!!!!!

I do not think you are overreacting at all

BMs are supposed to be supportive and helpful and genuinely happy for you!!! she clearly is none of those things!

did she write back??

not a word-- wahts left to say that you didnt mean it? its just the principle

like enoughhhhhhhhhh

chris1082 Posted: Jan 21, 2011 09:00 AM

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That is completely ridiculous! What a biotch!!!

I would have done the same!! Let us know what she says!

I can't believe that!!

Cataverri Posted: Jan 21, 2011 09:17 AM

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Cut her off...and quickly too!!!!!!!

evita2781 Posted: Jan 21, 2011 09:18 AM

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wow you're totally not overreacting and good for you for speaking up. she's obvs not hiding how she's feeling - what a brat!

rosatemp Posted: Jan 21, 2011 09:42 AM

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kick her out..the fact that she hasnt even answered your text shows shes a b!tch and you dont need her or the stress..I am so sure she feels like an idiot for posting stuff on fb..who does that..unless she wanted you to see so you would look like the bad one for kicking her out...ughh she is annoying me and i dont even know her!!!

CrazyLove11 Posted: Jan 21, 2011 09:44 AM

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I think you under-reacted...i would have b*%@h slapped her!

rosatemp Posted: Jan 21, 2011 09:47 AM

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Posted by CrazyLove11

I think you under-reacted...i would have b*%@h slapped her!

Me 2!!!!!!!!

FutureMrsPanuch Posted: Jan 21, 2011 09:51 AM

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Get rid of her... you dont need this sooo close to your wedding... you didnt technically want her in the BP to begin with... F it. Its sooo not worth the drama!

SoonToBeMrsCali Posted: Jan 21, 2011 09:54 AM

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oh my gosh!! I'm sorry you have to go through this.. but the girls are right.. You need to drop her!

Moonmist09 Posted: Jan 21, 2011 10:02 AM

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Posted by LoveyDovey

yikes!!!!

can i give you some advice?

I was sort of in a reverse situation...i was the MOH and BFF for my friends wedding 2? years ago.

She was a major bridezilla, not happy with her relationship and we had some personality issues altho we were best friends, we always got past it, we just bickered a lot like a married couple

well, we went to vegas for her bach party and what ended up happening was that SHE flew home bc she was upset with me

i know its not the same situation but my best advice to you is to nip that sh*t in the bud now!!!! bc you do not want your trip ruined!!!

I think you did the right thing by confronting her...I wish in my situation, I had confronted my friend before the bparty, I feel bad for her that her bparty was ruined and ulimately her wedding as well bc i stepped down as an MOH and she had a work friend fill in.

( i know you prob think im a crazy b*tch friend/moh lol but i gave you the shortened story)

i hope you can work this out...you dont need or want some crazy chick upsetting ANY part of your special time in your life!!!!

this sounds like such a juice story - sorry, but i'm nosy like that

Moonmist09 Posted: Jan 21, 2011 10:03 AM

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Amanda, at this point, I would just ask her to drop from the bridal party. maybe reimburse her for her dress but not to partake in any of the events. its not worth this kind of stress!