im a terrible person

im a terrible person

my good friend who i love dearly got engaged mabout 2 months after i did and they r getting married 3 weeks after i am..now dont get me wrong i am truly happy for her and at first i was like ok kinda close to us but i got over it..so tonight we all went out to dinner just the girls(we basically have the same bp) and all everyone talked bout was her wedding..they have been together for 12 yrs fh and i only 7 lol so this is like the wedding that is going to finally happen..i swear it was like i was not even engaged or anything..i really am happy for her but i left dinner a bit sad...i know i sound like a complete biotch but i just needed to vent..i mean they r my freinds too

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no your not a terrible person, if anything they are not cool for making you feel like your wedding isnt just as important as hers.

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I hear ya. I got engaged last december and my best friend got engaged in April...and her wedding is 8 months before mine (They've been together 6 years)...so it's all the talk cause it's coming up before mine. And I'm a little bummed.

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i think 7 years together is incredible. and shame on them.

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No you are not! That was not fair of them at all..and I would have been just as upset or insulted. FH laughs at me cause whenever someone we know now gets engaged (if they are not a good friend) i get mad cause I say 'NO ITS OUR TURN NOT THEIRS' lol

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I think its normal to feel that way.

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You're not terrible. Its normal to feellike that. Its nto normal for them to completely ignore the fact that you are getting marred as well! And what about the girl gettingmarried shame on her for not at least trying to share the spot light! Thats terrible!

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DATE TWIN!!! If I was you I would have felt a little left out too.
You both should have had equal conversation for both of your weddings!!!!

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thanks girls....im trying so hard not to be mad fh was really mad when they mad the wedding three weeks after ours...people just go oh finally they r gettign married after all this time and weve been waiting for u two to finally get married..i dont know im just a bit bummed today and fh had some choice words for them lol just ***** cause they r my friends too and i just feel like im the wedding they have to go to b4 they get to hers..im nuts i know

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you said this couple JUST got engaged/set their date - its new, it just happened and people are excited for them - that will wear off - im assuming that you have been engaged awhile already since your date has been set (2 months i think you said) - so your engagement (and i dont mean this in a mean way) is kind of old news - KWIM? and your friend just got engaged so its new news....see what i am getting at - i just think its a normal reaction....people are excited in the beginning when you get engaged but when you have a year long engagement the excitment sort of dies down for awhile - im sure you had your time with friends and family to celebrate your engagement so give your friend time too - its normal for everyone to be excited since it just happened and they just set their date - i remember how excited everyone was when we set our date.....unless im completely wrong and you both just got engaged in the same week, but in any event you are NOT terrible - its normal to have those feelings, the closer it gets to your wedding the less and less you'll care - there were things that irked me but i am 20 days away and nothing anyone else does or says could bother me - at this point all i care about is FH and myself the people who shocked us and RSVP'd no - oh well, im over it - if we have No-Shows - oh well, you can't let that stuff get to you - in the end its about you and your FH thats what i tell myself when start getting mopey

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My friend is in a similar situation. You are not terrible at all for feeling like that. After all it is YOUR day too and you have every right to feel as if the limelight should be on you too. I would be bummed also.

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so she got engaged in august and you got enaged 2 months before - in like june? or am i getting confused....

hmmm was the first time all of you guys got together since her engagement in august? maybe thats why all the hooplah?

dont be sad - im sure there are tons of people besides that group of friends that are VERY excited for you - try not to let it get you down....but you arent terrible and i would have been upset too - but try not to let it get to you - your wedding will be fabulous no matter who else gets married before or after you

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i dont think you are terrible at all .. I think your friends are!!! I mean they are in BP and all they talked about was her BP? thats not very friendly or nice.. thats plain rude, IMO

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i got engaged in june..her in august.. we r friends so we see each other all the time..we decided to go ut to eat no big deal and everyone talked bout her wedding thats it in a nutshell lol..

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No, not at all. I think it's natural to have feeling like that. Just remember that on your day it will be all about you and that's what matters. Plan a special event with your BP so they can be there for you. Like a BP dinner and a movie at your house.

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Oh, honey, you're not a terrible person!!! Debi, Donna's Sis went through some similar feelings with her cousin. Mary MOB

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You are NOT a terrible person... not at all. Was this the first time that all of you got together since you were already both engaged? This may just be new to everyone still, so they may not have even realized that it bothered you at all. Sometimes people act before they think. I wouldn't take it too personal...less it stays that way from now till your wedding...then I would say something... JMO