I think we spoke about this before in a previous post. But why do I feel as though my family is not into my wedding planning. My mom says to me the other day you have a year, you are not getting married until next year. I was talking to her about STD, she is so annoying and everyone else. I don't want to be planning this stuff at the last minute. I made up my mind to do what I need to do by myself and if others want to help me it is their decision.
My FH is worried about everything except this wedding. He keeps saying whatever you want and planning this wedding is a girl thing.
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My family and his family are the exact same way. My parents couldn't care less about all of this wedding planning, I have to practically beg my mom to do stuff with me, so believe me, you aren't alone!
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My family is the same way also, no interest at all. My mother would not even go with me for my gown. When I showed her a pic of the gown I ordered she told me she liked another one I tried on better which made me feel real good.
I get upset also, you are not alone. Sometimes they make me feel like I don't deserve a nice wedding...oh well, I am doing to do it anyway.
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FH's parents dont seem too into the wedding - they just cant wait for FH to leave the house so they can move!
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I understand your frustration. Planning a wedding can be stressful enough. It would be nice to have everyone in your corner cheering you on and helping you out.
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my fiance said at first that wedding was all for me, and a girl thing, and he was a pain in the arse about doing wedding planning... but he's totally into it and loving it now. I just needed to keep asking his opinion on things, and telling him how excited I am for this marriage, and to spend our lives together, and bit by bit he started to get into it.
as for the others... I think you have the right attitude. You've go to do what you need to do, and just hope that as things get closer and closer, others will get more excited and want to do more with you. A year does feel like a long time, and so it's not crazy exciting right now. But it will be later.
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My fmil is toooo into wedding planning she had her dress before i had mine haha.. i think she was disappointed i planned it all in 4 weeks and she has nothign to get her hands on hahaha.. .
but im kinda glad noone in the familes are really too concerned i like to do my own thing and if people kept putting in opinions then id have a problem... just think you can have stress free plannign with little input!
you have all the girls at LIW to be interested in everything down to the petal cones! haha
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Awww date twin don't worry. If they do not want to be involved right now and think its too early I say do it yourself. You need time because before you know it July 21, 2007 will be here. U know we are all here to help you so if you need anything just let us know.
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See my family is different. My brother is getting married next year as well and all of the families are way TOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOO excited. It's good in many ways, but they also ask you a million questions-usually the same ones over and over again. But I love my family and FH's family more than anything so I really don;t mind. Don't worry if the families aren't too excited sometimes it can be a good thing.
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Thanks for the pep talk everyone I feel better.
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Posted by mrsh2b
My family and his family are the exact same way. My parents couldn't care less about all of this wedding planning, I have to practically beg my mom to do stuff with me, so believe me, you aren't alone!
OMG I THOUGHT I WAS ALONE!!! I guess im not... My mother tells me whats the rush you can't wait to leave .. LOL im like no I can;t wait to Marry My FH DUHHHHHH...
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I can feel your pain. My FBIL is getting married in Feb. 2007 and since it is before ours (07/07/07), anytime I talk about my wedding, FI's mother always says, 'Oh, They better get their act together' or 'I have to worry about A____'s wedding' or things like that. UGH! Its so annoying isn't it. Hang in there.
I'll pass my mom's advice on to you about the situation - stop talking about your wedding. I know it is hard, but when you stop talking about it, they will start to ask and then the ball is in your court. (My mom's actual advice to me was to stop talking about it to them period!)
Good Luck. We care about your wedding so post your news and you will get the responses you are looking for!!!!
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I understand. I am feeling more and more like this. I am all most at the 9 month mark and I am still hearing you have soooo much time. Just hang in there. It will all work out in the end.
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I know how you feel. I was getting the same thing from my FH and my family, saying that Im palnning to early.. Then all of a sudden my family came around, and now my mom is the one pushing me to do things more quickly.. Hopefully they will come around soon.. I know its frustrating!!
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My mom did this in the beginning...she couldn't figure out why I was rushing to get everything done...then the girl at Flowerfield mentioned it was less than 11 months away...and then it finally hit them...that is was close....I think it took someone else telling them how much time I really didn't have.
I've booked a lot of things, and she couldn't see why I was doing it so early, until I would come back and say, can't use them, they're booked. Then she realized also that you have to book things early.
Hang in there and good luck!
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Awww hang in there, perhaps you mom is nervous, or sidetracked with other things at the moment. I had the same issue. It's hard at first but they will come around and if not, it's your day, who cares what others think? As long as in the end your happy with your choices!!
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My mom is being a bit neurotic with the planning. She says ok to one thing then turns around and changes her mind. !! And FH is never around due to work, and I've been getting the same answer of 'whatever you want' and then he turns around and tells me we should be doing this together! Hang in there, they'll get more excited once you start the planning.
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I think we spoke about this before in a previous post. But why do I feel as though my family is not into my wedding planning. My mom says to me the other day you have a year, you are not getting married until next year. I was talking to her about STD, she is so annoying and everyone else. I don't want to be planning this stuff at the last minute. I made up my mind to do what I need to do by myself and if others want to help me it is their decision.
My FH is worried about everything except this wedding. He keeps saying whatever you want and planning this wedding is a girl thing.
Don't worry what everyone else tells you! You'll have less stress when time gets closer!!! XOXOXO Kitty
