I'm bummed...

I always get like this before a big 'party'. I get this insecurity that people just wont show up.

Now I'm alittle annoyed...I know my sister is planning my shower and bachelorette party as a surprise. She wanted to do a weekend getaway, but some of my bridesmaids said it was too much money. That's fine...but the part that annoyed me is that the two people complaining are supposed to be my closest friends. and when one of them got married last year, i went to vegas for her bachelorette party for a weekend and spent like $1000 total. and the other wants to go to vegas for her bachelorette party. but my $400 weekend getaway is too expensive!!

this just adds to that insecurity that people aren't going to show up or b!tch about things.

am i the only one who thinks like this??? and im so sick of doing things for other people but they cant do it for me!!!

ok...vent over. thanks.

Sorry to hear this. It's really frustrating when you expect ppl to return the favor when it's your turn and they let you down. But just try to rock out w/ the girls who do come!!! You'll have a blast! And you never know, you may be surprised w/ the turn out!!!

ETA: Cant wait to see pics!!

Hang in there, I know it is hard, so many of us are dealing with the same issues and some are very hard to digest, especially after so many of us have been so good to our friends through out all these years and now its our turn. But just let the good times roll, dont even worry about any one else except you and your hubby, as everything and everyone else will follow suit and all will be just perfect. Just keep your head up high and smile and dont let anyone get you down.... yeah.....

thanks guys!

I totally agree. I also hate how my friends who aren't married don't get it
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I cannot even get into how much I agree with you!!!!

I don't really want to get into it, but YES, I've totally felt that way and have really felt that way since the wedding began to kick into gear. If people can't financially swing something or can't get away from work, fine. It's understandable. But for others to expect you to do it! UGH! And they are you're closest friends...

Just try not to think about people b*tching either. It's your party and you worry about you! Have fun and block all those negative vibes

Ugh! People can be such a dissapointment sometimes!! Hang in their Dee! As far as the anxiety of people coming to your shower and bachelorette party... don't sweat it! The people who love you will make sure they are there! It ***** that people can be so selfish sometimes and really think about themselves, but what is said about weddings is true: people show their true colors! Try not to focus on the parties and just let them happen. Don't let anyone take your happiness of your wedding activities away.

AMEN!

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Posted by qtdimps23

AMEN!

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haha...when r we goin for coffee girl??

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Posted by Queensbebe

I hear ya babe!! I'm always going outta my way for ppl and I feel like a lot of ppl won't pull through for me. In the end...enjoy ureself, and screw them!! Just think twice in the future b4 u get walked all over!!

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I'm with ya on that one. I go out of my way all the time and now that it's my turn I want to see who does it for me. It's sad, but I know few people may not even show up at the wedding. That's ok, because I know whoever does show is truly the people that care about me the most and who want to celebrate my day.

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Posted by Queensbebe

I hear ya babe!! I'm always going outta my way for ppl and I feel like a lot of ppl won't pull through for me. In the end...enjoy ureself, and screw them!! Just think twice in the future b4 u get walked all over!!

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I'm with ya on that one. I go out of my way all the time and now that it's my turn I want to see who does it for me. It's sad, but I know few people may not even show up at the wedding. That's ok, because I know whoever does show is truly the people that care about me the most and who want to celebrate my day.

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Very True...I'm not a fan of the Best man...then he calls and tells us he's not staying over the night of the wedding at the hotel. He gives no reason. It's not about money, he has more than I do...and work can't be a problem...you had a year notice. So y would u not stay over for ure best friend's wedding?? UUGHHH..everyone else is staying and we're doing a brunch the next day. I feel bad for FH bc ppl are dickin out on him and he would never do that to them!!! Maybe I'm crazy thinking that it's rude, but I can't help it!!! ENFURIATING!!! It just gives me more of a reason not to like him!

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Posted by Queensbebe

Very True...I'm not a fan of the Best man...then he calls and tells us he's not staying over the night of the wedding at the hotel. He gives no reason. It's not about money, he has more than I do...and work can't be a problem...you had a year notice. So y would u not stay over for ure best friend's wedding?? UUGHHH..everyone else is staying and we're doing a brunch the next day. I feel bad for FH bc ppl are dickin out on him and he would never do that to them!!! Maybe I'm crazy thinking that it's rude, but I can't help it!!! ENFURIATING!!! It just gives me more of a reason not to like him!

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dont you just hate people??

Side note...Kat, since we canceled the GTG, make sure you make the next one!

I totally get how you feel!

It's tough to always give and when it's time for you, no one seems to be interested. I've now resorted to making everything I do a BIG deal because I always feel like if I don't, then everyone will either not do anything or do something like buy take-out and invite me to a movie.

Hang in there though...it'll be okay and it'll work out.

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Posted by qtdimps23

I always get like this before a big 'party'. I get this insecurity that people just wont show up.

Now I'm alittle annoyed...I know my sister is planning my shower and bachelorette party as a surprise. She wanted to do a weekend getaway, but some of my bridesmaids said it was too much money. That's fine...but the part that annoyed me is that the two people complaining are supposed to be my closest friends. and when one of them got married last year, i went to vegas for her bachelorette party for a weekend and spent like $1000 total. and the other wants to go to vegas for her bachelorette party. but my $400 weekend getaway is too expensive!!

this just adds to that insecurity that people aren't going to show up or b!tch about things.

am i the only one who thinks like this??? and im so sick of doing things for other people but they cant do it for me!!!

ok...vent over. thanks.

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i agree with you. i am tired of always being there for people and when you need them they all seem to run. if there not runing they always have some ecuse to why they can't do something or can't afford to go somewhere.

p.s mooshyboo your not like that yur a great friend