i'm done with it all

i can't take it anymore!!!!

i am not doing one more thing for the 'wedding'. that is if it even happens

i've put this stupid wedding together ALL BY MYSELF!!! my mother is a selfish woman who has not helped to do a single thing and then cries to relatives about how i'm leaving her out of the process.

my bp is all out of state and can not help for very much.

and today, i told fh (maybe not) that i've had it. every single day, i come home from work, to bust my a$$ to put this wedding together. all he does is make jokes about it all. the FEW times i've asked him to do something, he doesn't. i got to the point that i started to threaten that it would be over if he didn't help me. that was the only way i could get him to do the smallest of things.

i'm tired of having to beg people to help me. i KNOW that i am not asking for too much. i just want him to make a phone call every now and then. and it's such a hassel.

i have not done a damn thing for this friggin wedding today, and i'm not going to. i'm not even sure that i want to get married anymore. i don't want a marriage like what i'm living right now. if this is how things are during something 'fun', how are things going to be when things get 'tough'?

i can't do this.

right this minute, all i want to do is pack my bags and leave. i want to walk out that door and never see him or my mother ever again.

i don't know what i'm going to do

sweetheart, you have days left. i planned the entire wedding myself as well. even DH has had to start admitting that to people! you are down to the wire and it's frustrating...just breathe and this weekend, PAMPER the hades out of yourself!

I am soo sorry you have to deal with this! Is he helpful with other things beside the wedding planning? Have you told him exactly how you feel. I wouldnt throw it all away maybe do something smaller?



O sorry i didnt realize you had DAYS left....looked at the date wrong.....its almost over....everything will work out many brides plan it themselves its just the stress your going through with everything that makes it worse it will all pay off in the end

I am so sorry to hear all of this. The only thing I can say is try to take a deep breath and try to relax a bit. I know that wedding planning is stressful but maybe you can try to ask people to help. If they won't then don't worry about it. Try not to take on any more projects. I hope that helps! Sorry!

My advice is don't walk out, at least not yet. Wait a few days and if u still feel the same. try talking to FH and if he doesn't want to talk then its time to go. But if he is willing to listen tell him how close u are to ending things, maybe then he'll see ur serious. I know it shouldn't have to come to this, but a lot of men think women love planning the wedding and thats not always true. Maybe he'll see where ur coming from and he'll pitch in. good luck!!

If you are running out of time, prioritize and cut off unecessary projects.

You have 2 weeks to go.... I know it's difficult. Hang in there!

also, you got through a crazy problem just last week i think maybe that has caught up to you!

You handled your caterer disappearing phenomenally....I can assure you that is the first time something so major has happened on this board and I've NOT seen/read the bride go totally nuts/bridezilla over it.


I admire you for that.

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Posted by CLMon7906

also, you got through a crazy problem just last week i think maybe that has caught up to you!

You handled your caterer disappearing phenomenally....I can assure you that is the first time something so major has happened on this board and I've NOT seen/read the bride go totally nuts/bridezilla over it.


I admire you for that.

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thank you... and thank you all for your kind words.

i just don't know if i can do this.

it's not a matter of projects. it's that he doesn't keep his word to me. i can't live like this

OOhh. Please know that the last few days are the most stressfull. You have planned and plotted for this. Please dont let the stress build up to the point where you are not enjoying this event. You have a wonderful FH that loves you and a mother who clearly doesnt remember how important and stressful this is. '

We love you and are here to support you for these last couple of days!

This too shall pass.

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Posted by CLMon7906

also, you got through a crazy problem just last week i think maybe that has caught up to you!

You handled your caterer disappearing phenomenally....I can assure you that is the first time something so major has happened on this board and I've NOT seen/read the bride go totally nuts/bridezilla over it.


I admire you for that.

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thank you... and thank you all for your kind words.

i just don't know if i can do this.

it's not a matter of projects. it's that he doesn't keep his word to me. i can't live like this

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Take a deep breath. Wait to be relaxed and then talk to your FH. Tell him how you feel and that this was a chance for both of you to work together through this. That you were hoping that he would have helped more. Ask him 'calmly' why he did not get involved. See what he says.

Take a really hot bath with some bubbles and destress. Its fustrating...I know. We all do. It will all be worth it one day.

ladies... thank you so much for taking time out of your own planning to listen to my issues.

i'm going to listen to ALL of you. i just wanted to post, so you don't worry (we women are such worriers ).

i'm going to take a long hot bath and get some sleep... some MUCH NEEDED sleep.

we'll see how things are when the sun comes up.

again, thank you so much for your time and attention.

lizbeth

Honestly, I was so stressed with all the wedding planning to the point where I had heartburn for 4 straight says and had to sleep sitting up. It's a stressful time, and I promise you that after the wedding is over, you feel so much more relaxed. During the planning, you are just full of all these emotions, and sometimes it gets so overwhelming. But it's just a feeling that we all go through, and it will pass. It sounds to me like you're more frustrated with the whole wedding than with your relationship with your FH. Take a few days to relax, and get some perspective on things. I really do promise that things will get better, and that most of us brides have gone through exactly what you are feeling. You're not alone! You have us.

allthe good advice has already been said so i only have this to offer

You only have a couple weeks left...the only reason to walk out is if you aren't sure you want to be married, not because you are stressed out due to wedding planning...My advice, just BREATHE, and dream of the honeymoon!!!

awww!! you poor thing!!


i agree with cheryl--i think the caterer pressure finally caught up with you! you took it all in stride...and now it's down to the wire, and it's allllll crashing down on you!

you have made it this far, and you can make it to the end! just remember when you get so many compliments that day when people are saying 'wow! this was an amazing wedding' and you can take pride in knowing that you did it all!