I'm in a funk....what can I do to get out?

I am so down in the dumps lately....I hate that we live at the in-laws, I hate that we are waiting for this stupid car accident settlement money.....I hate that I don't 'feel' like a wife...I don't cook in their house, we can't change the room we stay in at all....

what can I do to get out of this??? Sometimes it's so bad that I just cry over it all

eat some chocolate or buy yourself a present.
HECK, eat some chocolate AND buy yourself a present!!

and remember, this too shall pass. i'll be thinking of you.

Well, although I am not married yet, JT and I live with my parents, which is helpful for me because it's my own parents, but I know it can be hard for JT. My parents are particular about things and he is always doing something 'the wrong' way, and it's hard for him to not snap at them sometimes. It's a tough situation for you because I'm sure you'd like to be in your own place with your new husband. My suggestion would be to A) Make time to do things with DH outside the house. Go out to dinner, see a movie or take a ride and B) Do things for yourself! Get a manicure, a pedicure, go shopping, go for a walk, exercise, etc. Just take care of yourself. And know that it's ok to be down and that sometimes you need to cry to feel better. But if you feel like it's consistent and not going away, maybe you might want to go see a therapist to work through some of the major things going on in your life.
Oh, and definitely talk through how you feel with DH. Sometimes it feels better just to get it all out. Even if he has nothing to say back,use him as a sounding board!

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its ok... once it pays out, you will be enjoying everything. not that it's a good situation, make the best out of it by saving money and what not. i had the option of staying with family but we wanted our own space. they would of charged us little or no rent. had we saved for at least a year..we would of had a good amount to work with for a down payment on a house. Make the best of it...
you will be a wife for the rest of your life..remember that and you will be happy

From what you've been posting lately it seemed like you are 'restless' ... take a step back and look around you. You just got married, that's wonderful!
Are you looking to move out of the in-laws soon? And why can't you change the room at all? Why don't you offer to cook a few nights a week for the entire family? How about going out to dinner with just DH? Or sending the in-laws out to dinner as a thank you and you and DH stay home and cook a nice meal and stay in alone? A lot of questions, you don't have to answer them, they are mostly retorical!

First of all, I want to give you lots of

I'm sorry you are down in the dumps .. I know how it can feel, I've been there a lot lately myself for some reason , and I know that its hard to think of the positives.

As the other girls said, just take some time to do things for YOU .. pamper yourself a bit, try to find little activities outside the house for you and DH to do alone, try to see your girlfriends when DH isn't around, just become a LITTLE bit selfish and do whatever it takes to make yourself feel a little better. I know it won't change everything you are feeling, but its a start. And remember things will eventually get better, so as hard as it is right now just try to remain patient!

Oh yes, and your LIW girls and guys are here for ya !!

I assume that you live with DH's family as a way of saving money for your own house. At the very least, try to think of every day you live with them as one more day closer to your dream home. You are sacrificing your privacy and personal expression right now, but it will have a BIG payoff in the near future, when you can cook for your DH every night and decorate every room the way you want to.
It WILL be worth it.
Hang in there, sweetie.

Thanks ladies.....
I made a 'date' for dinner tomorrow with my pregnant bridesmaid...I haven't seen her since the wedding!

And tomorrow night when DH gets home, we'll be enjoying our top tier since it's our 1 month

my goodness. one month already.
where does the time go?

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Posted by BMD'sPeanut

my goodness. one month already.
where does the time go?

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No Clue....and I still haven't seen everyone!! And I get to do it all over again with the professional proofs!!

I'm glad to be back to normal and just hanging out with everyone and not it being about weddings.....

Sorry you are down lately. Maybe a weekend getaway for you two. Like at a hotel with an indoor pool and spa...

Everyone's already given great advice, but I'm sorry that you're feeling blue!

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Posted by btrflygrl

I am so down in the dumps lately....I hate that we live at the in-laws, I hate that we are waiting for this stupid car accident settlement money.....I hate that I don't 'feel' like a wife...I don't cook in their house, we can't change the room we stay in at all....

what can I do to get out of this??? Sometimes it's so bad that I just cry over it all

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OMG!!
You and I are in the SAME boat!
I live with my inlaws in the 'front room'. I can't cook in the house because Jim's grandmother sort of stares at me and since we don't speak the same language I can't even have small talk with her. It's very uncomfortable.

I never leave our room. I go home, take my shower quickly and stay in the room. Jim goes out and gets our dinner and such. I NEVER leave the room for ANYTHING other than the bathroom or to leave the house.

Forget arranging the room. First off there's no space and secondly it's not 'ours' to change. We've been married since Last Oct but living like this since last May!!

We can't move out until FEB of 2005 cause we can't afford it.

What do I do? Just think about the money Im saving for our wedding.. work late so Im home less often and use LIW as an escape on weekends (that and going out anywhere) and the TV for escape on Weekdays but it's still VERY VERY hard.

His brother is a Moron. If we dont bolt lock our bedroom door he just pushes the door and comes on in. Not that he's ever caught us in an inappropriate manner but STILL. He once came in and just started talking to me for a half hour and all I had on was a t-Shirt!!! thank god I had the blankets!

It's hard. Very hard.

I feel for you!

Hang in there!!!!!!
Just think about your future and the sacrifices you are making . You will be able to tell your kids about it and laugh one day.
Don't worry- stay busy and think long term you will be in a better place.
I know its tough but just hang tight!

Hey girl
Hang in there... You will have all that you want soon. Ya just need to be a little patient
right now to get what you want later...It will all be worth it. TRUST ME

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Posted by Jan05Bride

From what you've been posting lately it seemed like you are 'restless' ... take a step back and look around you. You just got married, that's wonderful!
Are you looking to move out of the in-laws soon? And why can't you change the room at all? Why don't you offer to cook a few nights a week for the entire family? How about going out to dinner with just DH? Or sending the in-laws out to dinner as a thank you and you and DH stay home and cook a nice meal and stay in alone? A lot of questions, you don't have to answer them, they are mostly retorical!

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I agree~!~