As some of you may know, I have yet to do any sort of hair trial because I am in the process of growing out a very butchy short hair cut. This hair cut, I had when FH and I met. It was rather complimentary and feminine. I enjoyed it because it required little (if any) maintenance on a daily basis. I COULD actually vary how it looked - slick it back, spike it up, pull it over to one side etc.
UNTIL ONE DAY as we were getting closer to engagement, when FH said 'Id love to see what your hair would look like long - you may want it long for a wedding someday. Well me in all of my stupidity, started to let it all grow out. If any of you have ever grown out a short hair cut, you know it could take years before you can do anything substantial with it.
Picture of me this past summer (e-pic) while still growing:
My hair now (I am the one in pink all the way to the right)
So this is where I am right now. I went to my hairdresser today to discuss pacing my hair coloring before the wedding. I would dye it now and then one week before the wedding. As long as my hair is long, it will be highlighted blonde. As a short haired woman, it is red. any of you ladies who dye their hair red know that red hair dye oxidizes and looks brassy in a short period of time. It simply does not look good long AND red. The hair dresser told me that my hair is still nto quite long enough to do what she would like to do for my hair. She said that either my hair should be short (the way I want it) or up (which I am not happy with) because of the severe nature of my dress:
I am in complete agreement that my hair should NOT be down. However, in order to put my hair up and have it look full (as my hair is very fine and not full on its own. she suggested an extension. Some of you know I am anti-extension. If it aint coming from my head, I dont want it. It is simply not natural to me. So this long up-do hair thing that FH wants so bad wouldnt even be my hair and I am likely to have a 'double-whammy' if you will. 1) An up-do that I hate and 2)An extension - just to please him.
I have yet to see any bridal hairstyle that I like. I am rather unconventional in my dress choice and I would like to be with my hairstyle choice. At the same time, I want FH to love what I look like on our wedding day AND know that I am happy with what I look like. It is easy to say 'Do what makes you happy' or 'You will be beautiful no matter what' I know this on an intellectual level.
The issue is, if I cut the hair, I will feel that some part of him will wish I looked different but I want to be happy too.
Sorry so long. I am very frustrated.
