Im not okay with it after all!

After lots and lots of thinking about whether I would be comfortable seeing FH before the ceremony, I thought I convinced myself to be okay with it. But IM NOT! After reading Fall Bride's post about the gripefest (one of the guests said it was anticlimactic when the bride came down the aisle) I dont know anymore
My ceremony is at the RH and we dont have a gap and I know if we dont take pics before, well miss the cocktail hour and force our bridal party to miss out on some of it too. But my dream was always to be seen for the first time on the aisle. WHAT SHOULD I DO?! Maybe I can have my photographer take pics with the bridal party and parents before and then FH and I will take the pics after the ceremony. Thomas Paul is so quick, so maybe it wont be a problem.

I'm not letting FH see me before the ceremony. I really want to be seen the first time as I walk down the aisle.

One of my friends just recently got married this summer, got married at the RH, and took pictures before the ceremony.

Her photographer had her DH turn around so he couldn't see as she walked up to him, and told him not to turn around until she tapped his shoulder. It was nice. . . her DH cried a little when he saw how beautiful she was, and they had a small moment together, without crowds of people watching them, where he could spill his guts and say how he felt. That was something that FH and I won't have the chance to do at the church, we won't have an alone moment until we get into the limo after the ceremony.

That being said, it was a little more anticlimatic when she walked down the aisle, but I think it is all personal preference. She still had that moment when DH saw her for the first time and everyone still thought she was gorgeous walking down the aisle.

You should do what makes you feel comfortable!!

Yeah I know. But if the guests found it anticlimactic, I would think the same would go for FH. Im gonna try and figure something out. Its really been bothering me. But like you said, if time doesnt permit it, then Ill have to sacrifice.

Im not at all okay with seeing my FH before I walk down the aisle.
Luckily we planned so we have time to take pictures but even if I didn't I would take 15 minutes and take pictures during the cocktail hour.

Sweetie think about it missing 15 minutes and seeing your FH face when you turn the corner or open the doors or whatever you do during your ceremony to me its worth it.

Dont see each other before let it all build up till the big moment thats a moment you guys will never forget

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Posted by Songstress1212

Yeah I know. But if the guests found it anticlimactic, I would think the same would go for FH. Im gonna try and figure something out. Its really been bothering me. But like you said, if time doesnt permit it, then Ill have to sacrifice.

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I wasn't a guest, I was in the BP. . .no one else saw her before the ceremony but us. . . .Sorry, should have clarified. It was a little different to watch because I'm usually watching for the groom's reaction. . . maybe that is why it was different for me. . . I think its fine either way

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Posted by Bellez95

Im not at all okay with seeing my FH before I walk down the aisle.
Luckily we planned so we have time to take pictures but even if I didn't I would take 15 minutes and take pictures during the cocktail hour.

Sweetie think about it missing 15 minutes and seeing your FH face when you turn the corner or open the doors or whatever you do during your ceremony to me its worth it.

Dont see each other before let it all build up till the big moment thats a moment you guys will never forget

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Thats how I feel. Isnt the cocktail hour mostly for the guests anyway??? Im gonna talk to TP about it. I know he recommended getting the pics taken beforehand but I just feel like Ill regret it forever if I dont do what I always dreamed about doing. It seems so much more romantic. And lately FH has even been saying it.

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Posted by Bellez95

Im not at all okay with seeing my FH before I walk down the aisle.
Luckily we planned so we have time to take pictures but even if I didn't I would take 15 minutes and take pictures during the cocktail hour.

Sweetie think about it missing 15 minutes and seeing your FH face when you turn the corner or open the doors or whatever you do during your ceremony to me its worth it.

Dont see each other before let it all build up till the big moment thats a moment you guys will never forget

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I am not giving an opinion, because I think that no matter what anyone says you have to do what feels right to you, but just wanted to say that portraits take way longer than 15 minutes. You will miss your entire cocktail hour and still not have enough time to get all of the shots you want. DH and I saw each other before the ceremony and for me that was the right decision, but only you know what is right for you.

I have the same problem.. but I have no choice because we at renting our clothes and the day of were getting ready there...

I'm going to get ready 1st then FH is gonna come in later and I guess the photographer will be there..? that is what I'm thinking right now... >_<

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Posted by JayLi2007

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Posted by Bellez95

Im not at all okay with seeing my FH before I walk down the aisle.
Luckily we planned so we have time to take pictures but even if I didn't I would take 15 minutes and take pictures during the cocktail hour.

Sweetie think about it missing 15 minutes and seeing your FH face when you turn the corner or open the doors or whatever you do during your ceremony to me its worth it.

Dont see each other before let it all build up till the big moment thats a moment you guys will never forget

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I am not giving an opinion, because I think that no matter what anyone says you have to do what feels right to you, but just wanted to say that portraits take way longer than 15 minutes. You will miss your entire cocktail hour and still not have enough time to get all of the shots you want. DH and I saw each other before the ceremony and for me that was the right decision, but only you know what is right for you.

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I might be okay missing the cocktail hour. Do you think it will cut into our reception time too?

I just spoke to FH and he said he doesnt want to see me before the ceremony. I think thats our final answer.

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Posted by Songstress1212

I just spoke to FH and he said he doesnt want to see me before the ceremony. I think thats our final answer.

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Haha yea Fh said no way also when I suggested it. Do what you feel comfortable with

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Posted by Bellez95

just let your bridal party know how important it is to you to get the pics as fast as possible so you miss as little as possible. do you have a large bridal party??

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Not at all. I have 4 girls on my side he has 5 guys. I dont think theyll have a problem with it at all but I will talk to everyone beforehand and let them know.

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Posted by kimNanthony

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Posted by Songstress1212

I just spoke to FH and he said he doesnt want to see me before the ceremony. I think thats our final answer.

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Haha yea Fh said no way also when I suggested it. Do what you feel comfortable with

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Yeah most of the time I dont care what he thinks but this time Ill listen to him

I told my FH that we were getting one limo and he got all mad rambling on about how he wont see me before the wedding no way in hell and i had to explain to him that he was getting picked up n brought to the church n then i was getting picked up.

They dont care about most of it but they can be cute sometimes.
Its sweet that he wants to see you for the first time when you walk down the aisle so def do it that way

Hmm....its a tough one....none of our guests will know that FH and I saw eachother before the cermeony except for our bridal party and parents....so im not too worried about any of our guests thinking that.....

me and FH discussed it alot and he said that he rather see me before the ceremony because at least it will be a private moment between just the two of us - he doesnt want to have to hide his emotions because he is front of people and he said that he might be more nervous that everyone is watching to see his expression when he sees me that he might forget to focus on me.....FH video taped a lot of ceremonies for work so he has seen it happen to grooms before. we are also both going to be nervous so i think that we both will be much much more relaxed and calm if we see eachother beforehand. i think it will still be exciting. he will still go to the RH before me and wait in the ceremony room part while i freshen up and hang out with the girls in the bridal suite until its time to walk down the aisle!!