I'm REALLY getting Annoyed...new ideas?

I know I posted something along the lines of this the other day, but I am in desperate need of new ideas.

So...I am four months away (to the day -- today -- woo hoo!) and I can't get a final guest list from FILs. They keep telling me its done, but handwritten. I tell them no problem -- fax it as is. They keep giving me a date that it will be done by -- that date passes and still no guest list.

I'm at the point where I am purposely emailing them everyday to be a pain in the you-know-what, hoping it will make them give me the list to get me off their back. That doesn't work either.

Last night, FMIL was at dinner with me & FH and she called FFIL to have him fax the list. He told her he was going to bed, yet he was up two hours later talking to FH about something. FH doesn't know what to do.

When I spoke to FMIL about it, I told her that I would sincerely like for all of our invites to go out together but I won't hold mine up on her account. She said no, no, they'd go out together. I said, 'well, I don't have your list. No addresses, no invitations.' She said nothing.

Any new ideas???? I don't know how to get thru to them. I even sent an email today saying I would pick the list up from them...but I know they'll never respond to that. I offered to do that last night and FMIL said no. Can I make this any easier????? What do I do?

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Posted by dianadrw

Tell FH to get off his butt and get it. You have dealt w/ enough stress from these people. Sorry if this sounds harsh, but he needs to start pulling his weight.

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Well said!

Just forget it. Send invitations to your guest list and those of their side that you know, and send them early.

And-send one to your FILS-early. When they receive their invite, and realize that the invitations are out but not to their side they will either get in gear quickly or realize that they will have no guests because they never gave you the list.

your FH is the one that has to say something... this is putting you in a VERY stressful and uncomfortable situation. It's VERY rude of your FIL's to hold you up like this! Your FH just has to put his foot down.

And it's not up to your FMIL as to when your side of the family's invitations go out... tell her they're going out regardless, but you would rather them go out at the same time. Tell her that this is causing a lot of stress for you and a lot more WORK since you'll now have to split the work up. Ask her if there's a problem with the invitation list, because this is the umpteenth time I've asked for them, and we're down to the wire now. ugh... I'M aggravated... can't imagine how you must feel!

Give me her #... lol

Send invites without their guest list. You can't wait on them any longer.

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Posted by sarahradio5

your FH is the one that has to say something... this is putting you in a VERY stressful and uncomfortable situation. It's VERY rude of your FIL's to hold you up like this! Your FH just has to put his foot down.

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I agree.

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Posted by JanuaryBride06

Send invites without their guest list. You can't wait on them any longer.

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Posted by sarahradio5

your FH is the one that has to say something... this is putting you in a VERY stressful and uncomfortable situation. It's VERY rude of your FIL's to hold you up like this! Your FH just has to put his foot down.

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I agree.

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me too

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Posted by FallBride05

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Posted by JanuaryBride06

Send invites without their guest list. You can't wait on them any longer.

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Posted by sarahradio5

your FH is the one that has to say something... this is putting you in a VERY stressful and uncomfortable situation. It's VERY rude of your FIL's to hold you up like this! Your FH just has to put his foot down.

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I agree.

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me too

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I agree with this too.

The only other thing I could think about is if you are close to you IL's maybe offer to sit down with them with your FH and help put the list together, while you are there.

Though it sounds like you already went through a lot for that list...so I agree with the majority of the ladies that your FH should really step it up or just send them. They definitly will have to get an idea then.

gotta agree with the ladies here--your FH is dropping the ball. it's HIS job to handle this problem...you shouldn't have to be the pain....he should be doing the leg work.

i agree--that to teach them a lesson.....call them and say 'Well since you didn't give me your guest list, I went ahead and send out the invites from MY side. I guess you should give me that list soon--since those invites will now be late.'

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Posted by dianadrw

Tell FH to get off his butt and get it. You have dealt w/ enough stress from these people. Sorry if this sounds harsh, but he needs to start pulling his weight.

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I second this. Your FH needs to put his foot down and help you instead of creating more stress!!

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Posted by BlueTulip

Just forget it. Send invitations to your guest list and those of their side that you know, and send them early.

And-send one to your FILS-early. When they receive their invite, and realize that the invitations are out but not to their side they will either get in gear quickly or realize that they will have no guests because they never gave you the list.

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I agree with this. FH obviously know that you do not have the list for his side yet and if he's not going to do anything about it then oh well.

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Posted by dianadrw

Tell FH to get off his butt and get it. You have dealt w/ enough stress from these people. Sorry if this sounds harsh, but he needs to start pulling his weight.

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hell yes, can i say hell??

this is just me (bad temper) but I would say 'this is the date the invites are being mailed out, I sure hope the guests you want to invite are part of the mailing'

Since you have already given them deadlines, which they have ignored, I would just go ahead and send out the invites to all the people that you have names and addresses for.

Stop calling FILs, stop harrassing them. They will get the message when they receive their invite. When they call and ask, tell them you asked several times, they ignored you, and you weren't playing.

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Posted by October Bliss

Since you have already given them deadlines, which they have ignored, I would just go ahead and send out the invites to all the people that you have names and addresses for.

Stop calling FILs, stop harrassing them. They will get the message when they receive their invite. When they call and ask, tell them you asked several times, they ignored you, and you weren't playing.

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I agree. What else can you do? You've given them more than enough opportunities.

I agree with all the people that said that YOU should first tell FH to get it from them

if that doesn't work -- you should say 'I'm mailing out my invitations on Friday April X, if you're invitations are here I'd be happy to mail them out together, but if not then I'm sorry we'll have to do it seperately.'

HTH!

good luck and lots of

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Just forget it. Send invitations to your guest list and those of their side that you know, and send them early.

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I say go with this and then let FH get his job done. He has duties to in all this!