I'm sad, just had a HUGE fight with FI

the fight started last night and carried over to today. I know he is exhausted and beat from work but he doesnt understand what it does to me as well. He came home all grouchy and I told him something and he got bent out of shape. I fell asleep crying.

Then this morning I got a call from my dad that he is paying the DJ for the e-party. I thought that was really nice of my parents because FI and I were actually going to pay it. Then my dad mentioned to me on the phone about getting new floors and the price of it and I said wow that price is expensive and FI made a comment that I think my dad heard and I got so mad.

So when I hung up with my dad I just started screaming at FI to let it go already, i am physically drained of this arguing, I am getting sick over this, why cant he just shut up. He got mad that I said that and told me I need to put my foot down and I am not and he is going to say something. I said to stop it because I dont want to deal with it. I dont want people hating each other and this is what it is turning into.

He got mad, grabbed his lunch and started to storm out. I yelled thats it, your just going to turn your back and leave. He then said well someone has to around here because you sure as Hell arent helping and stormed out.

I am so upset. I have not stopped crying. I wont speak to him till tonight when he gets home from work at midnight. I know he is beat up from work and he's doing 70 hours a week, but arguing with me isnt going to help. It makes him more mad, makes me upset and nothing gets resolved.

I am just so upset. I hate fighting with him. And more so when I wont speak to him till midnight

relax...take a deep breath...and let the time away from each other heal the wounds. BOth of you are very stressed right now...him with his job and you looking for a job that your nerves are on edge. Remember why you love him and think about all the good things that you 2 have done together and will do. I am sure that his working 12hours will help 'cool' your tempers!!

for you!!

Lisa said it well. But here's some more hugs

You know he's coming home to you
Let it cool down
Just think next weekend is your E-Party it will be wondeful

I know you are upset. I had a big fight with FI the other night also and ended up crying and waking up with 'guppy eyes'. That feeling stinks. Try to keep your mind on other things until you see him. I'm sure he's feeling badly too and it gives him ample time to cool off. The weekend is coming and he'll get a break from work so hopefully he will be calmer and well rested. Then you can sit down and logically talk things over. Tell him how sad it made you when you fought and vow to try and not do that to each other again. I hope you feel better.

Thanks girls

Lisa I think you are right.

I have things I need to do today that hopefully will take my mind off this for a little, I just hate how we left things when he left for work. I always tell him have a great day and that I love him when he leaves and today I called him a lot of names as he was walking out.

I think I just the day to relax and get my mind off things.

Its true we are both really stressed right now, and I hate how we take it out on each other.

had a fight last night too...I was ready to throw my e-ring at him! We've all been there...you know it WILL be ok

Your FI will come around - stress is VERY BAD on a relationship. It's just a hard time for you two. Be stong and it will work out!

Thanks

I've stopped crying (i think because I have no more tears) but I am still so upset. I hope he does have a good day at work and tonight when he comes home we can work this out. Well at least have a whole day to think about it and hopefully cool down.



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I'm sorry Chippa. Take the time now to calm down so when he comes home you can both work it out.
The long hours are probably making him exhausted and I'm sure he didn't mean to snap at you.
He probably feels awful at work today.
I'm sure everything will be better tonight.
You both just have a lot of stress right now so its only natural to have an arguement.

Thanks Sue

I'm sorry Melissa. But don't worry, I'm sure that his time at work will allow him to cool off and think about things. I'm sure everything will be better when he gets home.

Just like Lisa Rose said, take some deep breaths and remember how this is a stressful time for you both. God, my FI and I are so cranky when we both are stressed, and the littlest things can turn into an argument.



Hang in there, he'll be home before you know it. It sounds like you both need a good night's sleep.

Everyone argues from time to time. Just think about how nice it will be to make up.

It'll work itself out Melissa!

Thanks girls

I just spent 2 hours out walking around, doing a little shopping and treated myself to a coolata.

It really eased my mind.

I got home and had a message from my dad that 2 more people are attending the party so now its time to update the guest list and focus on that. I still have to go to the florist but I think that will be tomorrow's task for the day.

I am starting to feel a little better and being out really helped

I'm glad your feeling a little better.