I'm so bored today I wish there was some...

if you want i can start some

I got a few axes to grind today....

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Posted by KatieG2010

if you want i can start some

I got a few axes to grind today....

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i dare u

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Posted by KatieG2010

if you want i can start some

I got a few axes to grind today....

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Do it!

i am ready!!!

Ok... let me think....

I can give you a little of my own personal drama.

My BF is going through some martial problems and today while she is venting pauses and say 'You can't relate because you and FH are there yet! *** is that supposed to mean!?!? She just had another baby and both her and husband are unemployed and possibly going to lose their house. I listen because that it was a friend does and give little advice because it is all about her venting. She calls me non-stop at work when she is out running errands to complain then has the nerve to say I can't relate. CALL SOMEONE ELSE!!!!

Ok spinning from that vent:::

When you get married, will you keep what goes on in your house between you and your husband or will you air out your troubles to others?

If you have marital problems, to what lengths will you go to make the marriage work?

Be honest- don't be 'O i love my FH to death and , roses are red daisies are yellow nothing will ever come between me and my fellow...' Let's be real everyone...

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Posted by MrsC2010

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Posted by KatieG2010

if you want i can start some

I got a few axes to grind today....

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i dare u

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I double dare ya!

we keep everything between us. unless we are fighting in front of friends or our parents, we work everything out together. we are the only people who are going to look out for whats in our own best interest.

my brother on the other hand, e-mails me or my sister every time him & my SIL has a little disagreement. its actually really annoying because he never listens to our opinions. and it has cause my sister & I to look at our SIL in a different light.

Right now we keep our problems to ourselves. Now if I had the problem my friend is having I might confide in my mother and sister and keep it there. I am not a big fan of listening to my friends trash talk their husbands or listening to money problems.

As for working on problems in my marriage, we have discussed this and will do whatever we can. Counseling, retreats etc.. FH since this is his 2nd marriage there is no way out for me no matter what. In all serious we would try to do the best that we can to make it work and last.

To answer your first question: I have a close friend who is about 15 years older than me. He's also friendly with FH. I turn to him at times for advice, since he's kind of 'been there' and has some life experience with marital issues. I've taken his advice and he's always insightful and to-the-point with things. So while I wouldn't call it 'airing out' my problems to other people, I do look to him sometimes for help, as he is not a family member and therefore unbiased in his ideas. Venting, sure - I'll vent with my girlfriends...but for hardcore advice, this person has helped before.

As for what I'd do to make the marriage work...if it came to it - though I sure hope it doesn't - I'd be open to counseling, retreats, speaking with spiritual leaders, etc. And while separating for awhile would probably be awful, my parents had to do that for about a month or two while I was in high school and that, coupled with counselling, helped them. They're still married to this day. I wouldn't rule that out as an option if it came to it.

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Posted by KatieG2010

Ok spinning from that vent:::

When you get married, will you keep what goes on in your house between you and your husband or will you air out your troubles to others?

If you have marital problems, to what lengths will you go to make the marriage work?

Be honest- don't be 'O i love my FH to death and , roses are red daisies are yellow nothing will ever come between me and my fellow...' Let's be real everyone...

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I'm sorry, I'm a sharer. I'll b*tch to my bff (minus all the gory details), but that's it really and only to get it off my chest and get a . Other than that, it'll be between us.

I would go to any lengths to make my marriage work- couples counseling, kinky stuff in the bedroom , hypnosis, anything! No one ever said you'd get married and that's it- it's sunshine and roses from then on. It's hard work and it won't be easy, but hopefully it'll be worth it.

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Posted by KatieG2010

Ok spinning from that vent:::

When you get married, will you keep what goes on in your house between you and your husband or will you air out your troubles to others?

If you have marital problems, to what lengths will you go to make the marriage work?

Be honest- don't be 'O i love my FH to death and , roses are red daisies are yellow nothing will ever come between me and my fellow...' Let's be real everyone...

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I dont air my relationship throubles out to anyone as it is... so i doubt i would do it once were married...

ohhh believe you me i know hes not perfect, but I do love him to death... and i'll do whatever it takes to make it work...

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Posted by KatieG2010

Ok spinning from that vent:::

When you get married, will you keep what goes on in your house between you and your husband or will you air out your troubles to others?

If you have marital problems, to what lengths will you go to make the marriage work?

Be honest- don't be 'O i love my FH to death and , roses are red daisies are yellow nothing will ever come between me and my fellow...' Let's be real everyone...

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I am a firm believer that including other people in my and FH business is a big no no. Ive noticed that if i vent fh and i issues people take the initiative to tell us how to fix the problem. therefore turning a possibly small issue into a major one. I believe what goes on between us should stay between us. Ive learned that the hard way. IMO i think fh and I will continue to maintain and discuss our own issues in private no need to air personal stuff out in front of people to gossip about.
and I adore and truly love FH and would make sure that it works as long as he is willing to continue to make it work.

I share with my mom everything, we talk about everything and she always has a good advice or just listens. she never tries to but in or to force her way of thinking, so I will def continue talking to my mom.
I also share big things with my bff and a childhood friend.
I am the kind of person that needs to talk things out.

I did and would do anything to keep us whole. what we went thru the 1st year of being together not many ppl go thru in 3-4 yrs. that made us stronger and shows that we can overcome anything

ehhh this wasnt sooo I talk a lot of smack!!!

Isn't it bad- I am at work and dont want to do anything...

Sitting here looking at all my work.....and doing none of it!

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Posted by jilliibabii

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Posted by KatieG2010

Ok spinning from that vent:::

When you get married, will you keep what goes on in your house between you and your husband or will you air out your troubles to others?

If you have marital problems, to what lengths will you go to make the marriage work?

Be honest- don't be 'O i love my FH to death and , roses are red daisies are yellow nothing will ever come between me and my fellow...' Let's be real everyone...

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I'm sorry, I'm a sharer. I'll b*tch to my bff (minus all the gory details), but that's it really and only to get it off my chest and get a . Other than that, it'll be between us.

I would go to any lengths to make my marriage work- couples counseling, kinky stuff in the bedroom , hypnosis, anything! No one ever said you'd get married and that's it- it's sunshine and roses from then on. It's hard work and it won't be easy, but hopefully it'll be worth it.

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I totally agree! I am the same way!