Most of you know I miscarred in December. Well, during the week that I miscarried, one of my friends, actually, one of my bridesmaids, emailed me asking me to do her a favor (background info: ever since I passed the bar, she has sent me numerous emails asking me for legal related favors, like, sending threatening letters to her apartment complex, her son's school, and the latest, to her dentist). I was having a rough week, so I emailed her back saying, I don't have the mental capacity or time right now because I'm going through some personal stuff, and asked her to email me again in a few weeks if it hadn't resolved herself. She didn't ask what was wrong, and just wrote back 'ok'.
So, fast forward to yesterday. She emails me, and says happy new year. I'm sure she wanted to ask about the favor, but didn't want to blatantly ask, so she says happy new year. I wrote back and apologized for being so abrupt the last time she emailed, and explained to her the situation (that I had a miscarriage). And, this was her response:
'I understand. I'm sorry about what happened. Hope you feel better.'
And that's it. I'm fuming that this is the best she can give me. Am I overreacting here, or was this a really hurtful, lame response?
cluelessbride
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Re: I'm so hurt... am I overreacting? (long)
I am so so sorry for your loss
I think your friend's response was cold, not the kind of reply I'd expect from a close friend. From a close friend I'd also expect a phone call soon after that email. I'd want to give all my love and support to a friend who miscarried.
