i'm so upset...

i'm sitting here crying right now and i can't stop.

my friend just wrote me a really mean email. she asked me why she wasn't invited to dinner the other night w me, FH and his friend and his friend's gf. i jokingly said i didn't want her to feel like the 3rd wheel...and she sent me this email back cursing at me and telling me that i make her feel fat and ugly and to go F myself.

she's one of my best friends. why would she say that to me? i can't believe she took such offense....was it really that bad of me to say the 3rd wheel thing....she says that all the time!!

aww maybe she is upset at something else and then when she wasnt invited it just pushed her over the limit...

u werent wrong...but maybe she does feel sad that you are engaged and she is single?? i dunno..you never kno what is going thru peoples heads u kno?

give her a few days to breathe..and then give her a call to work it out.

here is the last part of her email...i'm sure a lot will be ***ed out but i can't believe she said these things..

'So thanks for that ******* *** comment
below about how I don't want to ******* feel like the ******* third
wheel! Thanks made me feel so ******* *** beautiful today, thank you.
You're such a great ******* friend.'

OOOO Gooodddd......she is clearly jealous if she said u make her feel fat and ugly! ***...

First off I would say dont answer her back in email.
Call her....Emails can make things worse sometimes.

See where this is all stemming from, did something happen?

whoa. do you really need a friend like that?

I have been close with my best friends for years, some of them since the first grade. . . and we have never spoken to eachother that way!

We all have enough stress from our families, work etc. I personally don't think that you deserve that extra headache from a 'friend.'

You know what i'm noticing? When people get engaged, people (especially single people) all of a sudden start treating you different and reading too much into your actions...they think that because you're engaged now, you're gonna feel like you're better than them (that's from their own insecurities and jealousy) and that you're looking down on them...so it's like you have to be extra careful not to make it seem that way...stuff like that has been happening to me too since I got engaged...Every little thing I do is under scrutiny! One day, I was getting into my house and talking on my cell at the same time, and apparently my neighbor saw me because a couple of days later she says to my mom 'you know, since gina's gotten engaged, she doesn't say hi to me anymore' and that was the only time I didn't say hi to her (because I was busy on the phone, duh!) it's like you have to walk on eggshells now..it's pretty sad

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Posted by GinaBambina88

You know what i'm noticing? When people get engaged, people (especially single people) all of a sudden start treating you different and reading too much into your actions...they think that because you're engaged now, you're gonna feel like you're better than them (that's from their own insecurities and jealousy) and that you're looking down on them...so it's like you have to be extra careful not to make it seem that way...stuff like that has been happening to me too since I got engaged...Every little thing I do is under scrutiny! One day, I was getting into my house and talking on my cell at the same time, and apparently my neighbor saw me because a couple of days later she says to my mom 'you know, since gina's gotten engaged, she doesn't say hi to me anymore' and that was the only time I didn't say hi to her (because I was busy on the phone, duh!) it's like you have to walk on eggshells now..it's pretty sad

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Gina!!!!

You said eactly what I was thinking! I think SOME people feel that way. I am not sure about Jeannette's friend in this situatuion, but YES I have noticed this too.

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Posted by Kimbalina

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Posted by GinaBambina88

You know what i'm noticing? When people get engaged, people (especially single people) all of a sudden start treating you different and reading too much into your actions...they think that because you're engaged now, you're gonna feel like you're better than them (that's from their own insecurities and jealousy) and that you're looking down on them...so it's like you have to be extra careful not to make it seem that way...stuff like that has been happening to me too since I got engaged...Every little thing I do is under scrutiny! One day, I was getting into my house and talking on my cell at the same time, and apparently my neighbor saw me because a couple of days later she says to my mom 'you know, since gina's gotten engaged, she doesn't say hi to me anymore' and that was the only time I didn't say hi to her (because I was busy on the phone, duh!) it's like you have to walk on eggshells now..it's pretty sad

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Gina!!!!

You said eactly what I was thinking! I think SOME people feel that way. I am not sure about Jeannette's friend in this situatuion, but YES I have noticed this too.

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MISERY LOVES COMPANY...when others see you happy all the time....they get J-E-A-L-O-U-S.

thanks for all your responses.

she sent me another email that she is sorry for all the mean things she said...but i really can't believe someone who was friends w me would say such mean things and curse at me like that.

it's really an eye-opener.

i guess you guys are right though, from things she said in her 2nd email it does sound like she thinks that i think i'm better b/c i'm engaged. but sometimes i feel like they TREAT me different. and they always give me a problem if i want to leave early to be home at a normal hour when we're hanging out. but i can't help it, i have FH to consider now. he doesn't want me staying out till all hours like i'm single and why should he have to put up w that?

anyway, thanks for listening!!

ok so she just emailed me and it all came out that what she's really upset about is that i chose family instead of friends to be in my wedding party.

seriously.

i can't even.

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Posted by misskitty08

ok so she just emailed me and it all came out that what she's really upset about is that i chose family instead of friends to be in my wedding party.

seriously.

i can't even.

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WOW...thats is pretty bad. I mean one of my BF's chose family only...and I didnt even think twice about it.... The good thing is that you know why she is acting like this and she wants to talk to you about it.

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Posted by misskitty08

ok so she just emailed me and it all came out that what she's really upset about is that i chose family instead of friends to be in my wedding party.

seriously.

i can't even.

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That is exactly what happened to me. My friend since kindergarten got mad because i wasn't putting her in my bridal party. She flipped out on me and cursed at me and now we are no longer friends.

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Posted by Kimbalina

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Posted by GinaBambina88

You know what i'm noticing? When people get engaged, people (especially single people) all of a sudden start treating you different and reading too much into your actions...they think that because you're engaged now, you're gonna feel like you're better than them (that's from their own insecurities and jealousy) and that you're looking down on them...so it's like you have to be extra careful not to make it seem that way...stuff like that has been happening to me too since I got engaged...Every little thing I do is under scrutiny! One day, I was getting into my house and talking on my cell at the same time, and apparently my neighbor saw me because a couple of days later she says to my mom 'you know, since gina's gotten engaged, she doesn't say hi to me anymore' and that was the only time I didn't say hi to her (because I was busy on the phone, duh!) it's like you have to walk on eggshells now..it's pretty sad

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Gina!!!!

You said eactly what I was thinking! I think SOME people feel that way. I am not sure about Jeannette's friend in this situatuion, but YES I have noticed this too.

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Yep, i'm telling you, it's an epidemic! When you get engaged, that's when all of the drama starts!

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Posted by misskitty08

thanks for all your responses.

she sent me another email that she is sorry for all the mean things she said...but i really can't believe someone who was friends w me would say such mean things and curse at me like that.

it's really an eye-opener.

i guess you guys are right though, from things she said in her 2nd email it does sound like she thinks that i think i'm better b/c i'm engaged. but sometimes i feel like they TREAT me different. and they always give me a problem if i want to leave early to be home at a normal hour when we're hanging out. but i can't help it, i have FH to consider now. he doesn't want me staying out till all hours like i'm single and why should he have to put up w that?

anyway, thanks for listening!!

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trust me, it's not you! They are treating you different because they view you differently....you're 'one of them' now