I'm sorry... I have to vent also - update 3/31/05

Ok - first item for this morning...

My FSIL calls to tell me that my sister (MOH) sent my shower invites to people who AREN'T being invited to my wedding The reason she has these additional names is because FMIL gave her HER list - 90% of the people my FH doesn't want invited to our wedding because he either doesn't know them or doesn't like them. But since FMIL gave my sister all the names, she sent out all the invites. So now, we have to invite an additional 14 couples to our wedding, pushing our invite list to over 150.

Then, after I vent about that to FSIL, I canll the seamstress who is supposed to alter my gown - which is scheduled to arive Wednesday, and I speak with her husband who informs me that she may not be up to doing any work since she just had her kidney replaced and she's going to the doc's 2x's a week.

I feel terrible that she's not well, but OMG she could have called and told me she was having surgery and that I should possibly look for someone else. Now, her husband told me to call back later and talk to her myself, but I'm freaking out over all the bad news this morning.

Now I've already told FH about the additional people being invited to the shower and he is dead set against inviting them to our wedding. I know we HAVE to invite them but he says that because his mom intervened again, that he doesn't care and doesn't want to invite them - period. What do I do?! Obey common coutesy and invite them - hoping they don't show, or obey FH's wishes and not invite them?! I'm so confused!!!

And in case my seamstress can't alter my dress... PLEASE PLEASE PLEASE recommend someone else to me so my dress looks pretty for my day.

OMG - I wanna cry right now!

Sorry it's so long.