I'm thinking of cancelling my bachelorette party... sorta vent

JimmysBride Posted: Jul 23, 2004 09:52 AM

I'm thinking of cancelling my bachelorette party... sorta vent

I really don't want to whine about this so I'll try to keep it short. My BMs just don't seem to be into it which makes me lose enthusiasm for having a BP at all. One of them already is not coming and made other plans, another one I had to practically twist her arm to agree to come, two others live OOT and I feel bad making them come all the way to NY one month before the wedding for what's starting to look like a pretty beat evening. Funny thing is, the two OOT BMs are the most enthusiastic .

Anyway, the original plan was for Labor Day weekend go into the city, club/bar hop a little, crash in a hotel room (retro sleepover party), and the next day go out east for the BM luncheon.

Now, I totally want to nix the luncheon and tone the BP significantly. The only reason why I have decided not to cancel it alltogether is because I still feel I deserve to have some kind of BP even if most of my BMs don't really care to be a part of it. Why should I spend time with people who apparently couldn't care less?

So my questions to you girls are -- what are YOU doing for your BP, who is attending, and what would you do in my situation? Just grab the 2 or 3 BMs that WANT to do something and go out with them? Do you have any suggestions for what we could do? FH and the GMs are going to VA beach that week.

Thanks for listening.

tourist Posted: Jul 23, 2004 09:55 AM

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Yes, just take who wants to come & HAVE FUN!
My bridesmaids aren't coming because one is in CA & the other is 16 & in MA.

My friends from college want to do something though. Brunch at the Plaza was one idea.

I also thought of a sleepover.

TwoBugs Posted: Jul 23, 2004 09:59 AM

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Posted by tourist

Yes, just take who wants to come & HAVE FUN!

Absolutely!! I only have two BM, so I probably would have cancelled if either of them couldn't make it, but my wonderful MOH is traveling 1000 miles to come. You are right that you deserve something, so go out and have a blast!!

One night we are doing dinner and hitting some bars, and the next night we are staying in and having a sleep over.

james'pokey Posted: Jul 23, 2004 10:31 AM

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I agree that you should just take the ones that want to go and have a BLAST. You deserve to have a good time and not stress out about it. Good Luck!!

chichila15 Posted: Jul 23, 2004 10:36 AM

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6 girls are taking me to Vegas in August ~ 2 BMs could not make it. I was bummed out about those 2, but I let it go. I'm not going to force someone to want to be with us.

I say go with who really wants to hang out with you. I want to hang out, can I come!???

JimmysBride Posted: Jul 23, 2004 10:45 AM

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Posted by chichila15

6 girls are taking me to Vegas in August ~ 2 BMs could not make it. I was bummed out about those 2, but I let it go. I'm not going to force someone to want to be with us.

I say go with who really wants to hang out with you. I want to hang out, can I come!???

LOL! Thanks!! SURE you can come!

Kriss2c Posted: Jul 23, 2004 10:48 AM

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Hit the town with the BMs that want to do something. Try to let the others poor attitudes go, it's not worth getting upset over.

Karacg Posted: Jul 23, 2004 10:51 AM

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My BP will be me and my friend in Vegas --- no one else wanted to cough up the $$, which is fine. Funny thing is, HER friend (whom I have met once in my life) is the only other person coming!!
Ah well..... we can all go to your BP for you if you want!!!! Anyone want to come to mine????

bethsiar Posted: Jul 23, 2004 10:52 AM

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definitly take the two who want to go!!!! There is nothing worse than a mixed crowd of people that want to stay out and people that want to go home, girls can be sooo annoying when they don't want to be somewhere.

Karacg Posted: Jul 23, 2004 10:52 AM

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Posted by chichila15

6 girls are taking me to Vegas in August ~ 2 BMs could not make it. I was bummed out about those 2, but I let it go. I'm not going to force someone to want to be with us.

I say go with who really wants to hang out with you. I want to hang out, can I come!???

Hey Chichila --- when and where?? I am going Aug. 13-16 staying at the Tropicana --- maybe we should combine forces!

nov04LIbride Posted: Jul 23, 2004 11:20 AM

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I am just going with my college friends, 3 or 4 close ones. We are going out in the city, then having a sleepover at one of their apts, then having brunch, manis, pedis, facials...Actually making a whole weekend out of it. I didn't want a big group where the people weren't good friends already--I thought that might be uncomfortable, so I am happy with what we have planned.

bluetank Posted: Jul 23, 2004 11:30 AM

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I am not getting married for a while, but my advice is to take whoever wants to go and your BM's should have set aside time for this. Dont they want to go out and have fun. Who wouldnt? Is it a money issue? They should have been planning this for you. Take the few girls who are definitely into it and have a great time.

PUPADOLCE Posted: Jul 23, 2004 03:44 PM

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I feel the say way, take what ever girls want to go and have fun! Your BP comes only once. take advantage!

MrsTC Posted: Jul 23, 2004 07:04 PM

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i agree whoever wants to come, come and make the best of it - f* the rest of them. In the grand scheme of things, the BP is fun but not the most important event. For my own, i had to throw ideas out to my friends and it was like pulling teeth...they were not very creative. We ended up going to Lucky Chengs and having a blast because we just let go and had fun! One of my BMs even decided not to come because she 'had already made other plans' ...umm...ok, thanks. This is the same person who showed up an hour late to my bridal shower, never gave me a wedding gift and who i had to beg to sleep over my house the night before the wedding (i was nervous about her being late to the ceremony!) Some people just do not want to make an effort.

neesiepie Posted: Jul 23, 2004 07:07 PM

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Posted by JimmysBride

Posted by chichila15

6 girls are taking me to Vegas in August ~ 2 BMs could not make it. I was bummed out about those 2, but I let it go. I'm not going to force someone to want to be with us.

I say go with who really wants to hang out with you. I want to hang out, can I come!???

LOL! Thanks!! SURE you can come!

We should have a LI WEDDINGS BACHELORETTE PARTY! So many of us have deadbeat bridesmaids when there are PLENTY of bachelorettes here just yearnin' for a good time!
I'm IN!

Marisa&Brian Posted: Jul 23, 2004 07:21 PM

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Forget the bridesmaids. -
We're going to Vegas, open invite to anyone who wants to attend, BP, friends, family whatever. - and then just a random Saturday night we'll go out for dinner / drinks so ANYONE can come (I have a huge family and a mixed crew of friends ) it doesn't have to just be your BP. - Invite old college friends you don't get to see often, or cousins you rarely get to hang w/ - People you'll have a GOOD TIME with