I'm thinking of moving in with fh...

thanks for all the advice girls

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Posted by FutureMrsLehmann

It's really a personal decision you'll have to make. BUT, I've lived with my FH for over a year now and it's really shown me a lot. Living with someone vs. dating someone is a lot different. You see a lot of things you probably didn't know before. I know some girls don't agree with living with the boyfriend before marriage, which is totally fine, but I feel like you should know all parts of this person that you plan on spending the rest of your life with! I don't think it will make getting married any less special now that we live together.

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I completely agree. FH and I have been living together for about 3-4 yrs lolz..I don't even remember when he moved in. We're living in my parents house though, a few months before we get married we'll get our first apt together...and I know that will be a little differant also. It's definately a big step to take, but I think if you are planning on getting married, you should definately go for it. It will save money and you'll be able to adjust before all the wedding hectic-ness takes place! hehe

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Posted by FutureMrsLehmann

It's really a personal decision you'll have to make. BUT, I've lived with my FH for over a year now and it's really shown me a lot. Living with someone vs. dating someone is a lot different. You see a lot of things you probably didn't know before. I know some girls don't agree with living with the boyfriend before marriage, which is totally fine, but I feel like you should know all parts of this person that you plan on spending the rest of your life with! I don't think it will make getting married any less special now that we live together.

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I agree... I think a marriage will always be special but, you learn a lot about yourself and your partner when you live together and FH was renting and I owned a co-op which is similar to you and we figured why pay rent when we can share a mortgage that will build equity and save for our house.
I was completely against it in the beginning but, it all worked out for the better and I'm really happy

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Posted by FutureMrsLehmann

It's really a personal decision you'll have to make. BUT, I've lived with my FH for over a year now and it's really shown me a lot. Living with someone vs. dating someone is a lot different. You see a lot of things you probably didn't know before. I know some girls don't agree with living with the boyfriend before marriage, which is totally fine, but I feel like you should know all parts of this person that you plan on spending the rest of your life with! I don't think it will make getting married any less special now that we live together.

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well said... it is alot different... although fh & i dont offically live together yet... we have started to get our apartment together and he will be moving in a few months before were actually married.. I personally dont feel it will make anything 'less special' but it's your decesion and dont let anyone pressure you into anything you dont want to do.