Immediate family not getting along--should make for an interesting reception! vent

Maybe I'm worrying about this too much and too early. I've got two brothers who are causing chaos within my immediate family. One isn't speaking to my father and one of my sisters and her husband. The other brother isn't speaking to another one of my sisters and her husband. I can't seat them ANYWHERE near each other! I've already put the rest of the family on notice--anybody who acts up at my reception gets escorted out! I was worrying about the RD (Budget getting tight)but my mother said not to have one. She doesn't want FH and I stressed about this. I thought that by May maybe some of the bad feelings would be smoothed over but I swear they keep on fanning the flames! Thanks for letting me vent. Anybody else have a crazy family?

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I don't have a crazy family, but the future inlaws are driving me nuts! The best man shaved his head and now refuses to grow it back, and my future mother in law not only bought a blue dress (after I asked her to wear silver and she agreed), but it is about 2 sizes too small. They also have a habit of constantly telling us that we are doing everything wrong. I am just praying that they don't drink too much and get sloppy at the wedding! i know how you feel - just remember - it's YOUR day, and keep smiling!

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I am sorry you are having such family stress during such a wonderful time. Hopefully, this will blow over by your wedding date, or better yet, your family members will just put their differences aside on your wedding day to at least be civil for your sake. Can you ask them to all do at least that much?

I understand family stress. Due to circumstances beyond my control, my father and one of my brothers missed my wedding day. Sometimes things happen that we cannot control. It is unfortunate, but it is very important that you do not let these battles spoil your day. Keep smiling!

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I am in your shoes to an extent. FH's family is a little out of whack. Not like mine is perfect.
But I have learned to do one thing. And that is to not let other people's problems get to me. If I am not a part of the problem than why work myself up over something that in a sense is none of my business. Why stress myself out over something I cant' control. So what we do is not include FH's sister (she is the problem) in anything. I can't stand the sight of her. I cringe when I hear her voice. So I avoid her like a plague. And I have learned that I don't need to get along with everyone in FH's family to be happy. He is what brings me complete happiness. And no one in his or my life can change that.

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My family is by far the craziest...I can make you feel better about yours anytime! My own mother wont be at my wedding! Forum mail me, if you ever need cheering up!

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may...don't feel bad...i have a crazy family...and after years of worrying, we have all decided to make light of it....my family is full of little 'cliques'....anytime you mix too many different types of personalities together and especially when there are so many people involved, there will be problems...

for the wedding me and my mom are having a grand ol' time trying to find ways to seat people so that they are not close to those they don't get along with....

if you ask me, life is too short for that nonsense...

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everybody's nuts. that is my conclusion. i am learning so much about how I NEVER want to be! We are going to have to hang tables from the ceiling at the rate we are going....

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You guys are funny. I think everyone has a crazy family. As long as you and you FH love and respect eachother, screw everyone else. (can I say that?) At my cousins weddings he and his wife were having a fight about their families (something about her mom stopped home with a limo and the limo company charged them a bundle) and she walked out of her own wedding. My dad chased her down the block (from Leonard's) and brought her back. But they laugh about it now, she was just so stressed. They're very happily married. Their families don't get along like the Brady Bunch, but whose does?

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Keep your head-up about everthing. And try not to stress over the situation although I can understand how it may seem like there's one explosion after another. Like the others said, it is your day, and regardless of how stubborn or thick-headed family members can be, it's not about them, it's about you and your FH, the love you both have for each other, and the new lives you're going to be starting together. Once the wedding gets closer, if things haven't settled, I'd just tell everyone that it is you & your FH's day, and that you would hope their fighting won't be reflected, demonstrated, or insinuated in any way on your day. That you hope they could be on their best behavior, etc... Good luck, and vent anythime you'd like, that's what we're all here for!
*edited to fix a typo!!

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Thanks ladies. I'm going to take the advice. Reading others responses makes me feel like I've got a really minor problem. Besides, I've got other fish to fry...for instance finding a photographer, a headpiece, the perfect invitations...