incredibly rough night... sorry long... UPDATE!!!!!!!!
ETA: this is the cliff's notes version ...crazy..
fh and his dad have been having some issues lately.... fh's siblings and fh's now stepmom have had some issues in the past year. they have all been disrespected by her. even after all of this, its been very important for FH to find out what was going on and try to repair some of the issues.... and until tonight, i was a spectator in the whole ordeal, hearing things from the side and getting somewhat involved when she took away the excitement of our engagement for a little while...
sooo... tonight... about a week ago they invite us to dinner. i'm nervous but we think this is taking a step to making things better.. we had a great dinner, and right when we get some tea (and i almost think 'this wasn't that bad!!!) FH's dad starts talking about clearing the air and blah blah blah... SOO the stepmom turns to me, and begins to ATTACK ME. asking me all these things, and what i feel about certain things... telling me that i can't be selfish meanwhile the whole thing was about her..
moral of the story, FH's dad sat there and let her talk to us like we were 5 and was so mean to me. so... as of right now, she is not invited to the wedding, which means he won't come![]()
that makes me SOOO sad for FH. but FH has tried SOOOO much over the past year, and tonight made him realize that this isn't going to change, and she is a controlling selfish, vindictive REALLY BAD WORD!!!
i was hysterical crying after the way she spoke to me, and i feel sad for FH....
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UPDATE: FH saw his dad last night and FH pretty much flipped out on him about how he stabbed him in the back by the two of them doing what they did to me and in turn to him. His dad was completely oblivious and said that his wife felt like she accomplished something the night before.
so... they are not welcome at our wedding or anything else for that matter. his dad completely confirmed the fact that he is being controlled by his wife and isn't concerned about his kids... really sad, but i think this is a big thing for FH. he really needed this to happen and for US, it was a big thing. this is the first real issue we have faced 100% TOGETHER. ***** that it happened the way it did and with this outcome, but there's nothing we can do but move on.
thanks for all the support girls... xoxoxoxo![]()
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fh and his dad have been having some issues lately.... fh's siblings and fh's now stepmom have had some issues in the past year. they have all been disrespected by her. even after all of this, its been very important for FH to find out what was going on and try to repair some of the issues.... and until tonight, i was a spectator in the whole ordeal, hearing things from the side and getting somewhat involved when she took away the excitement of our engagement for a little while...
sooo... tonight... about a week ago they invite us to dinner. i'm nervous but we think this is taking a step to making things better.. we had a great dinner, and right when we get some tea (and i almost think 'this wasn't that bad!!!) FH's dad starts talking about clearing the air and blah blah blah... SOO the stepmom turns to me, and begins to ATTACK ME. asking me all these things, and what i feel about certain things... telling me that i can't be selfish meanwhile the whole thing was about her..
moral of the story, FH's dad sat there and let her talk to us like we were 5 and was so mean to me. so... as of right now, she is not invited to the wedding, which means he won't come
i was hysterical crying after the way she spoke to me, and i feel sad for FH....
sorry so long...
UPDATE: FH saw his dad last night and FH pretty much flipped out on him about how he stabbed him in the back by the two of them doing what they did to me and in turn to him. His dad was completely oblivious and said that his wife felt like she accomplished something the night before.
so... they are not welcome at our wedding or anything else for that matter. his dad completely confirmed the fact that he is being controlled by his wife and isn't concerned about his kids... really sad, but i think this is a big thing for FH. he really needed this to happen and for US, it was a big thing. this is the first real issue we have faced 100% TOGETHER. ***** that it happened the way it did and with this outcome, but there's nothing we can do but move on.
thanks for all the support girls... xoxoxoxo
