Inner Envelope Question

PattyK Posted: May 02, 2007 09:40 AM

Inner Envelope Question

I am having a discussion with my MOH (my sister about this). She says the inner envelope should be worded exactly the same way the outer envelope is (Mr. & Mrs. John Doe or Ms. Jane Doe Mr. John Smith). I say that that is acceptible to have the first names only (Mr & Mrs. John Doe.. John & Jane). Which one of us is correct?

TIA

TnOiOnL Posted: May 02, 2007 09:41 AM

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i THINK what SHE said is correct...

I didnt do inner envelopes so dont quote me on this one!

Flutterbye922 Posted: May 02, 2007 09:50 AM

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My invitations came with a 'tips' booklet that suggested the outer envelope and inner envelope read exactly the same thing, the only thing you are dropping is the address:

Outer:
Mr. and Mrs. John Smith
45 W 9th st
Deer Park, NY 11703

Inner:

Mr and Mrs John Smith

If they have children that are not getting their own invitation the child are only listed on the inner envelope.

Inner:

Mr. and Mrs. John Smith
Laura Smith
Denise Smith

imas98 Posted: May 02, 2007 09:53 AM

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I used the first names only but we're having a casual wedding. Doing the Mrs. & Mr. is more formal. Either way you can do whatever you want to do.

dawnbridetobe Posted: May 02, 2007 09:54 AM

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Technically your sister is right, but I didn't follow this. I wrote Mom and Dad, Aunt Cathy, Karen, etc.-to me this seems so much more personal. The only time I wrote the same as the outer envelope is when I wasn't too close with the guests (work associates, extended family I've rarely ever seen).

soon2bmrsdunn Posted: May 02, 2007 10:08 AM

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I have the inner envelopes done with Mr. and Mrs. But you can do it however you want it. I was easier for me to be consistent. And I like the formality of it and lastly I didn't know all of the spouses names and it took long enough to have my FMIL get me the addresses I needed I didn't want to have to wait for spouses name too!

PattyK Posted: May 02, 2007 12:20 PM

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Thank you!!

BlushingBride714 Posted: May 02, 2007 12:29 PM

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I think technically your sister is correct but I printed mine with 'Uncle John and Aunt Mary' - I thought it was more of a personal touch.

jessruth9 Posted: May 02, 2007 12:46 PM

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I am doing less formal inner envelopes but i have seen it done both ways.

brady37 Posted: May 02, 2007 01:01 PM

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I went off of a couple of etiquette websites and they all said that you only use Mr./Ms./Mrs. and their last name, no first names. But I think it's more personal if you use the first names. I don't think anyone is going to be questioning you when they see your invites so your safe either way!

AlmostKulak Posted: May 02, 2007 05:09 PM

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Ettiquette says to use Mr. and Mrs. Smith, but I am using first names with no last names. It is more personal.

Kelly79 Posted: May 02, 2007 05:11 PM

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I believe the inner envelopes should be addressed the same as the outer envelopes.

Mr and Mrs John Doe is the proper/traditional way.

Fall07Bride Posted: May 02, 2007 05:25 PM

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i havent ordered my invites yet (i need to SOON)

stupid question but....what is an INNER envelope?

Heather11207 Posted: May 03, 2007 12:57 PM

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Posted by dawnbridetobe

Technically your sister is right, but I didn't follow this. I wrote Mom and Dad, Aunt Cathy, Karen, etc.-to me this seems so much more personal. The only time I wrote the same as the outer envelope is when I wasn't too close with the guests (work associates, extended family I've rarely ever seen).

This is how I did it too.