Rev. Fr. Joseph N. DeVincenzo. He is wonderful. We had a beautiful spiritual cememony. Darling Husband is Jewish and I am episopalian.
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donegal419
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the main question you have to ask yourself before you should ask for referrals is does the catholic spouse want their marriage to be a valid Sacrament and recognized by the Church? if so, then you cannot go with any of the vendors on this site. you MUST go through your parish church and they will refer you or do the marriage themselves (i.e. a decond or priest from the parish church of the Catholic). Msgr. Lisante from St. Thomas in West Hempstead is AMAZING and has a lot of training in working with inter-faith couples. also, tyhere are many priests that marry inter-faith couples in a way that it is a Sacrament for the Catholic (it may be allowed to be outside, etc. etc.). However, i would talk to the Catholic's priest ASAP and find out more. you have to attend inter-faith Pre-Cana as well as some inter-faith paperwork has to be completed by the priest on your behalf.
any of these vendors on here are not priests. they have left the Church and are defrocked priests. they may do the ceremony in the 'Catholic' tradition, but it will not be a valid Catholic ceremony or Sacrament. my SIL married a Jewish guy and she had a priest and rabbi at her wedding and it was a SAcrament for her and recognized by the Church.
GOOD LUCK!
rmsgirl
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Just checking in to see how you are doing. If you need any help or have any questions, feel free to FM me. We opted to have a deacon and a rabbi do our ceremony. There are a lot of options that are available to you.
erica1980
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I was talking to my sister and she said that i probably shouldn't go with anyone of a religious title. This is so hard. What does that leave me with? Justice of the peace.? I just want it to be more personal than 'I do' and 'I do'. Any other options?
rmsgirl
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Right now, just do your research and see what you and FH are most comfortable with. Try talking to different officiants and think about what your gut is telling you. We were able to do a religious ceremony, but we had to work hard to get the balance right. It was right for us, but not for everyone.
Another rabbi that I talked to was Rabbi Renee Feller. She wasn't available on our date, but I truly enjoyed e-mailing her (and I'm the Catholic one!). She might be able to give you some guidance as to what's best for your unique situation. Her e-mail is [email protected].
A judge or city official is another route that you can follow. Or you can have a close friend or family member do the ceremony. One of the '07 brides (HamptonsBride?) had her ceremony co-officiated by her sister and the town clerk.
An interfaith ceremony can be a lot of work, because you are going off the traditional road map, but in the end, we got so much more out of planning our ceremony than many of our friends.
Hang in there! It's worth it in the end.
PreshusSmurf
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Posted by erica1980
I was talking to my sister and she said that i probably shouldn't go with anyone of a religious title. This is so hard. What does that leave me with? Justice of the peace.? I just want it to be more personal than 'I do' and 'I do'. Any other options?
Why would your sister suggest not having anyone of a religious title perform the ceremony? Honestly, I think it made our families feel more comfortable that we had someone from each of our religions officiating. It brought everyone closer together, and no one felt left out because both religions were equally represented.
Like donegal419 said, its important to figure out if the Catholic person in your relationship wants to have the marriage recognized as a Sacrament.
If the Sacrament isn't important to them, you can use one of the people mentioned above or a vendor advertised on the site ... they will perform a ceremony in the Catholic tradition and most of your guests won't even know the difference anyway unless you have a very religious family.
It was important to my DH that our marriage was recognized, so we went through the paperwork to get a dispensation from the church. It really wasn't a big deal. We used Msgr. Lisante, and he was absolutely wonderful and very helpful.
We did have to attend interfaith pre-cana, but it was just a couple of hours on a Friday evening and then the day on Saturday. But it was a good experience for us to go through together as a couple, and they were not intrusive at all. It was held in the Church, not in someone's home.
There is a lot less paperwork on the Jewish side of things. In fact, the Rabbi didn't even really need to speak with us until we had everything taken care of with the Church first.
And I agree with the PP, I think we got a lot more out of planning our ceremony and going through the process than a couple who doesn't have to 'earn it' We were able to completely personalize the ceremony, and make things up as we went along because there aren't as many strict rules to follow since its interfaith. We were able to include most of my cousins in the ceremony with the 7 Blessings, we had a reading from the Old Testament and one from the New Testament, we lit the Unity Candle & DH broke the glass at the end.
