FH and I are discussing having an interfaith ceremony. We will have a monsignor and a rabbi. Have any of you gone through interfaith precana? Could you tell me a little about your experiences? We are a little nervous about it, since neither of us is religious. Thank you!
Wow, I didn't even know there was an interfaith precana. Thats interesting, we'd definitely be interested in that too.
I don't know anything about it either but good luck!! We're having an interfaith minister, maybe that's why we don't have to do it? We'll be meeting with her a bunch before the wedding though so it's probably a less formal form of precana.
Thanks for replying. I spoke with a friend of mine who is going to interfaith precana this weekend. She told me it's Friday night and all day Saturday. One day focuses on marriage, the other on interfaith issues. It's through the church. I think it's healthy to hash out issues like this early on, but I'd be lying if I said all of it doesn't make me nervous! Many of my friends have married interfaith, but haven't tried this.
Posted by David'sbride
The term pre-cana refers specifically to the Catholic churches preparation of couples for marriage. According to one of the books (it escapes me which gospel) of the New Testament, Cana was the town that Jesus traveled to to attend a wedding and performed one of his miracles. Catholics believe that when the host ran out of wine He turned water into wine so as not to embarrass the bride's father. This is strictly a New Testament belief and therefore, not believed by Jewish people who are still waiting for their savior. Cana was the marriage town therefore Cana=marriage, so pre-cana is marriage preparation in the Catholic Church.
Any interfaith marriage preparation is just called 'pre-marital counseling'
You can thank all of my Catholic education for that... and yes, i am marrying a Jewish man![]()
are you using monsignor lisante? That is who we had for our interfaith ceremony. We went to interfaith precana. We thought it was lame, but other people seemed to enjoy it. DH is a divorce lawyer and I am a therapist, so we are used to talking about things that interfere in a relationship. But if you are the type of couple that doesn't discuss stuff like that, you might like it.
Yes, we are using Monsignor Lisante and Rabbi Block. Our friends are using them, so they came recommended to us. I think it may be interesting. My friend told me that these two officiants are terrific because they work together, and eventually when we have kids, they can perform a ceremony together for the naming/Christianing, so both families will be included. That's a big reason why we went this way....we feel like we are trying to be responsible for the future. Kinda scary, when we are mostly planning flowers, music, dresses, etc! Thanks for your input!
we had interfaith counseling and it was really less then one hour and it needed to be fulfilled for the marriage to be legal in FH religeon. it was very basic and we discussed all the necessary values needed in a marriage
