Interfaith Wedding on a Friday night??? (long)

I am having an interfaith ceremony, on the premises at my catering hall. We are having a Rabbi preform the ceremony (I am Jewish, FH is Catholic). We were looking at Sunday evenings only, b/c a Sat. was to expensive, and didn`t think an interfaith ceremony could be preformed on a Friday night. As it turns out, a Friday evening has become available, and the Rabbi said it would be no problem to perform the ceremony then (6:30pm during the summer, therefore before sundown). I was thrilled, b/c I would really prefer a Friday evening. Now here`s the problem: my MOM is against a Friday night ceremony.....she is not ultra religious, but does have strong beliefs. I thought that since the Rabbi said it was not a problem, then she would feel the same way! Now I feel terrible, b/c I said the Sunday was fine, but my FH and I really want the Friday night. I am going to talk to the Rabbi, and ask him his thoughts on it and see if Mom would be willing to discuss it with him. So my question (finally), is has anyone had an interfaith ceremony on a Friday night, and if so, did you have any problems like this when planning it? Thank you in advance for your responses!!

Interfaith Wedding on a Friday night??? (long)

We were married on a Sunday with a RC Priest and Rabbi. We (I) never even considered a Friday night, not because of my husband's feelings or finding a Rabbi (that was easy!), but because I knew that we`d offend his mother, sister and several other relatives of his. So much so that they probably would not have attended our wedding. Frankly, a Sunday wedding was at my insistence and I`m the Catholic! Ultimately, it`s a decision that you and your FI need to make, but, since it`s a sensitive topic, I think it`s important enough to consider the feelings of others. Good luck!! :)

I hate to say this, but...(somewhat long)

my personal opinion is NOT to have it on a Friday night. I don't know how many older relatives you're having, or how religious your family is, but to any older relative, this will seem like a travesty, even if sundown isn't until later. The wedding reception would still be on Shabbat, and that's not 'the right way'. I faced the same situation (I'm Jewish, my now-husband is Catholic), and we had a Sunday afternoon wedding. We also couldn't afford a Saturday night wedding, but even though our main ceremony (we actually had three ceremonies that day) was a civil ceremony, I still wouldn't have considered a Friday night. (By the way, in case you're wondering, the three ceremonies were this - the first, the main ceremony that everyone attended was a civil ceremony; the second ceremony was the Catholic ceremony, attended by the two of us, the priest, and my husband's parents; the third ceremony was the Jewish ceremony, attended by the two of us, and my parents and brother only). We had the two private ceremonies during the cocktail hour, and it worked out really well.

We're marrying on Sunday

We couldn't find a rabbi to perform a ceremony on a Friday night regardless of when sundown is. We are having our ceremony at 6:30 on a sunday night to accomodate both religions!!!

We`re marrying on Sunday

We are having an interfaith wedding on a Saturday night. Friday was out of the question and we really did not want Sunday. We even had to tell a reception hall no thanks when they told us we couldn't have the ceremony there on a Saturday night. They said we could do it on a Friday or Sunday but Saturday was out of the question because they were to busy.

Interfaith Wedding on a Friday night??? (long)

I had somewhat of the same situation...only the person not happy with a friday night wedding was my grandmother! I was raised jewish but had to go to a reformed temple since my mother was catholic and never converted! well, my grandma was not pleased with a friday night reception but me and my father talked to her about it. I looked at it as it's not just my wedding...it's my husbands wedding also!!! and if my grandma and the rest of the family was ok with my dad marrying out of faith and they are ok with me marrying out of faith the day of the week should not matter!!! We had our ceremony before sundown and in the end no one had any comments about it being on a friday night!