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Interfaith weddings

GroomsMom Posted:

Interfaith weddings

In an interfaith wedding, if the groom is the catholic one, does he have to wear a yarmecule(spelling may be wrong). Should he wear one?

newbie Posted:

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I'm also having an interfaith wedding and my fiance is wearing a yarmulke. I'm not sure if he has to but I think it would be a sign of respect if he did.

I think the officiant could tell you if it is required.
Sweetness Posted:

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I am the opposite, my FH is Jewish and I am Catholic. He is going to wearing one of course but since no one in his BP is jewish, he was going to give them a choice. I wouldn't want anyone to feel forced to wear it. It is a very sensitive topic in my house, but I am not going to force him to make the sign of the cross he should not force people to do things that are a part of his religion. Of course out of respect for him, his groomsmen have agreed to wear them, except my brother.

marymoon Posted:

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It depends on where the ceremony is being held. If it's being held in a synagogue, definitely he should wear one, if not, then it's a toss up. He definitely doens't have to wear one outside of the synagogue although his FW may want him to.

nferrandi Posted:

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My FH made it very clear that he was NOT going to wear one. I really don't care if he does or not, so I didn't bother argueing.

JenniferLee111204 Posted:

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Hi.. I am catholic and my FH is Jewish. Of course, he will be wearing one, but i figured i would just tell you a little about our ceremony. please FM me if you have any other questions.

We will be getting married at Woodbury Country Club - by a priest and a rabbi. my FH has 6 groomsmen, 4 Jewish, 2 Catholic. (my brother is one of the catholic ones and will not be wearing a yarmulke, however, his other friend will) I ordered a few dozen yarmulkes that will be in a basket at the door, that way if anyone wants to wear one, they can.

Jennifer
alexlynn7 Posted:

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Posted by JenniferLee111204

Hi.. I am catholic and my FH is Jewish. Of course, he will be wearing one, but i figured i would just tell you a little about our ceremony. please FM me if you have any other questions.

We will be getting married at Woodbury Country Club - by a priest and a rabbi. my FH has 6 groomsmen, 4 Jewish, 2 Catholic. (my brother is one of the catholic ones and will not be wearing a yarmulke, however, his other friend will) I ordered a few dozen yarmulkes that will be in a basket at the door, that way if anyone wants to wear one, they can.

Jennifer



my situation is basically the same, and we will be doing the same thing.
holly231 Posted:

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Posted by JenniferLee111204

Hi.. I am catholic and my FH is Jewish. Of course, he will be wearing one, but i figured i would just tell you a little about our ceremony. please FM me if you have any other questions.

We will be getting married at Woodbury Country Club - by a priest and a rabbi. my FH has 6 groomsmen, 4 Jewish, 2 Catholic. (my brother is one of the catholic ones and will not be wearing a yarmulke, however, his other friend will) I ordered a few dozen yarmulkes that will be in a basket at the door, that way if anyone wants to wear one, they can.

Jennifer




Mines abuot the same situation, except only the jewish Groomsmen will be wearing the yarmulkes....

BTw, where did you order them from and how much do they cost??
sophie78 Posted:

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I think it is up to you. My FI is jewish and he is not wearing one. We are also not handing them out.

monters Posted:

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I think it is up to you. My FI is jewish and he is not wearing one. We are also not handing them out.




same here...thats why we chose to have an interfaith minister..as not to promote one faith over the other..
marymoon Posted:

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I don't feel that having yarmulkes at the door or having the GM wear yarmulkes is promoting one faith over another. Talk to teh couple and the officiant and find out how they all feel.

mushsgrl Posted:

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I am Jewish and FH is catholic, he is not wearing won, we are getting married at the catering hall by a cantor and a minister. The only ones wearing one are my dad and FH best friend because they are jewish

JenniferLee111204 Posted:

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i bought the yarmulkes from Zion Lion in Woodbury. i bought 3 dozen for 68 dollars

the ones that i got werent satin, they were moire (sp)

FM for #

Jennifer
eogara Posted:

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Posted by GroomsMom

In an interfaith wedding, if the groom is the catholic one, does he have to wear a yarmecule(spelling may be wrong). Should he wear one?



Not unless he wants to. FH is Jewish, I was raised Catholic. He wants to wear one during the ceremony, which of course is fine, but we will not be giving them out.

IMO, handing them out at the ceremony does promote one faith over the other. You're not handing out rosary beads or crosses so why would you hand out yarmulkes?
JenniferLee111204 Posted:

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we will be having a rabbi and a priest - being that we have both catholic AND jewish guests, they will be there if anyone of jewish faith wants to wear them. if you go to a church wedding, do you hand out rosary beads? i am catholic and i have never heard of that. we are not promoting one faith over the other, at least not in my opinion. i just want our jewish guests to have the option

Jennifer
sjm71505 Posted:

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We are having an interfaith wedding too. I'm Jewish, he's Catholic and he is not wearing a yarmulke by his choice, but I also never even thought to ask him if he wanted. IMO, if it is interfaith and we are supposed to be acknowledging both equally, it wouldn't be fair to him for it to look like Jewish ceremony with the groom wearing a yarmulke while we are standing under a Chuppah.

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