Invitation dilemma suggestions needed

KathleenG Posted: Jun 17, 2003 10:50 AM

Invitation dilemma suggestions needed

I am having major issues with invitation wording! My mother passed away in 99' and I would really love to include her on the invite in some way. I know proper 'etiquette' says in that case that you only include the father's name. I do, however want to include my mom because I know she would love it. Did anyone else have a similar dilemma with a deceased relative? Any suggestions would be appreciated!

nrvbrd Posted: Jun 17, 2003 10:52 AM

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You can do:

Mary Smith

Daughter of Mr John Smith and the Late Mrs Jane Smith

and

Peter Jones

Son of

Mr and Mrs Michael Jones

something like this.

endlessluv429 Posted: Jun 17, 2003 10:53 AM

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I think it's so nice that you want to include her. I have seen wordings such as daughter of 'Mr. John Smith & the late Jane Smith' i guess it depends on who the invite is coming from--you guys or your dad- hope i helped a little!

endlessluv429 Posted: Jun 17, 2003 10:53 AM

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hahah-nrvbrd-we used the same names! lol

wacky Posted: Jun 17, 2003 10:54 AM

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OH HOW ABOUT DAUGHTER OF NAME AND NAME

nrvbrd Posted: Jun 17, 2003 10:55 AM

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Endless- LOL

Such generic names.

sanmik Posted: Jun 17, 2003 10:56 AM

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Word it as

Your name,
daughter of [father's name] and the late Mrs. [mother's nam].

I had same issue with FI father. I think it's wrong not to add the name, they are your parent whether alive or passing.

My FMIL really appreciated it and so did his father's side of the family. Do what makes you feel good and what you think is right.

KathleenG Posted: Jun 17, 2003 10:58 AM

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Thanks for the suggestions! Great ideas! I am also wondering if mentioning a deceased relative is too sad for some people or if they think it is inappropriate cause I have never seen it!

KathleenG Posted: Jun 17, 2003 10:59 AM

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I agree sanmilk it is extremely important!

sanmik Posted: Jun 17, 2003 11:04 AM

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Honestly, we're doing a Memory Lighting at the ceremony and I think that is a little more 'sadder' than mentioning his father's name as his father on the invitation. It's an emotional day to begin with, nothing wrong with respecting someone you love or their memory. Like I said, do what makes you feel complete doing.