invitation wording...

how will your invitations be worded?

--together with our parents?
--mr and mrs 'smith' invite you to the wedding of their daughter?
--mr and mrs 'smith' and mr and mrs 'xyz' invite you to the wedding of their children?

what if brides parents are contributing '10,000k' (made up) and the grooms side is only contributing '5,000' (made up) - does the grooms parents still get 'recognition' on the invitation such as:
--mr and mrs 'smith' and mr and mrs 'xyz' invite you to the wedding of their children..
or
--together with our parents..

thoughts -- I'm curious! thanks!

invitation wording... - Long Island Weddings

I would do whatever DOESNT make the other parent family feel inferior or not the same as parent X -

We are doing together with our parents

invitation wording... - Long Island Weddings

ours says mr. and mrs (my parents) along with mr. and mrs. (his parents) request the honor of your presence at the marriage of their children
My first and middle name
His first and middle name

invitation wording... - Long Island Weddings

Mine says our names and underneath together with thier families.

invitation wording... - Long Island Weddings

My parents are contributing generously and FH's parents are just doing the rehearsal dinner and I was thinking:

Mr. & Mrs. My Parents
request the honor of your presence
at the marriage of their daughter
My Name
and
FH's Name
son of Mr. & Mrs. FH's parents
etc., etc., etc.

Etiquette dictates that the invitation should indicate who is hosting regardless of who is paying, so I've found it easier to think of it that way. The RSVP's will be sent to my parents, so I wanted to indicate that, but I thought FH's parents would appreciate being mentioned as well.

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Posted by Belle21

My parents are contributing generously and FH's parents are just doing the rehearsal dinner and I was thinking:

Mr. & Mrs. My Parents
request the honor of your presence
at the marriage of their daughter
My Name
and
FH's Name
son of Mr. & Mrs. FH's parents
etc., etc., etc.

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This is how we did ours. My parents are paying but his family has been very helpful generous and we felt like they should be on there as well.

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Posted by cmonaco10

how will your invitations be worded?

--together with our parents?
--mr and mrs 'smith' invite you to the wedding of their daughter?
--mr and mrs 'smith' and mr and mrs 'xyz' invite you to the wedding of their children?

what if brides parents are contributing '10,000k' (made up) and the grooms side is only contributing '5,000' (made up) - does the grooms parents still get 'recognition' on the invitation such as:
--mr and mrs 'smith' and mr and mrs 'xyz' invite you to the wedding of their children..
or
--together with our parents..

thoughts -- I'm curious! thanks!

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We are doing
'Mr. And mrs. ------- request the honor of your presence at the wedding of their daughter --------- to --------- son of mr. And mrs. -----'

My parents are paying for the reception hall & my fiancé said he wanted the wording like that.

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Posted by Soon2BMrsPortz

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Posted by Belle21

My parents are contributing generously and FH's parents are just doing the rehearsal dinner and I was thinking:

Mr. & Mrs. My Parents
request the honor of your presence
at the marriage of their daughter
My Name
and
FH's Name
son of Mr. & Mrs. FH's parents
etc., etc., etc.

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This is how we did ours. My parents are paying but his family has been very helpful generous and we felt like they should be on there as well.

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I'm doing this too. And the last few wedding invites I've seen have been like this too.

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i feel strongly that i don't want to include FH's parents names on the invite ... they are not helping with anything for the wedding, aside from maybe the rehearsal dinner. my mother is paying for the actual ceremony/reception at the venue and FH and I are paying for everything else. Most likely I will do 'Mrs. X requests the honor of your presence at the marriage of her daughter Jessica Stein to etc etc.' and leave it at that. (but more formally written )

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Posted by MsA2MrsA

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Posted by Soon2BMrsPortz

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Posted by Belle21

My parents are contributing generously and FH's parents are just doing the rehearsal dinner and I was thinking:

Mr. & Mrs. My Parents
request the honor of your presence
at the marriage of their daughter
My Name
and
FH's Name
son of Mr. & Mrs. FH's parents
etc., etc., etc.

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This is how we did ours. My parents are paying but his family has been very helpful generous and we felt like they should be on there as well.

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I'm doing this too. And the last few wedding invites I've seen have been like this too.

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thank you. I also thought this was acceptable - had FMIL at the appointment with my mom and I for the invitations and no one had a problem with them until now. I am being made to feel guilty along with feeling as if I haven't thought about everyones feelings . I don't want to get into the 'who pays for what' topic - but what I will say is now I am getting monetary amounts thrown into my face. A wedding gift (aka money in an envelope day of our wedding) should NOT count towards money in-laws contribute to the wedding in my opinion...it's not money we will have for wedding planning. we have been told its money to start our lives with 'NOT to help us pay for the wedding'. If FH parents gave us a check with X amount and said 'this is our wedding gift to you use it how you would like' I feel like that is a different story. We then could put it towards our wedding, and then I would understand having BOTH of their names at the top of the invitation.

Am I wrong?

Re: invitation wording...

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Posted by cmonaco10

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Posted by MsA2MrsA

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Posted by Soon2BMrsPortz

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Posted by Belle21

My parents are contributing generously and FH's parents are just doing the rehearsal dinner and I was thinking:

Mr. & Mrs. My Parents
request the honor of your presence
at the marriage of their daughter
My Name
and
FH's Name
son of Mr. & Mrs. FH's parents
etc., etc., etc.

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This is how we did ours. My parents are paying but his family has been very helpful generous and we felt like they should be on there as well.

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I'm doing this too. And the last few wedding invites I've seen have been like this too.

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thank you. I also thought this was acceptable - had FMIL at the appointment with my mom and I for the invitations and no one had a problem with them until now. I am being made to feel guilty along with feeling as if I haven't thought about everyones feelings . I don't want to get into the 'who pays for what' topic - but what I will say is now I am getting monetary amounts thrown into my face. A wedding gift (aka money in an envelope day of our wedding) should NOT count towards money in-laws contribute to the wedding in my opinion...it's not money we will have for wedding planning. we have been told its money to start our lives with 'NOT to help us pay for the wedding'. If FH parents gave us a check with X amount and said 'this is our wedding gift to you use it how you would like' I feel like that is a different story. We then could put it towards our wedding, and then I would understand having BOTH of their names at the top of the invitation.

Am I wrong?

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i don't think you're wrong at all.

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Posted by cmonaco10

thank you. I also thought this was acceptable - had FMIL at the appointment with my mom and I for the invitations and no one had a problem with them until now. I am being made to feel guilty along with feeling as if I haven't thought about everyones feelings . I don't want to get into the 'who pays for what' topic - but what I will say is now I am getting monetary amounts thrown into my face. A wedding gift (aka money in an envelope day of our wedding) should NOT count towards money in-laws contribute to the wedding in my opinion...it's not money we will have for wedding planning. we have been told its money to start our lives with 'NOT to help us pay for the wedding'. If FH parents gave us a check with X amount and said 'this is our wedding gift to you use it how you would like' I feel like that is a different story. We then could put it towards our wedding, and then I would understand having BOTH of their names at the top of the invitation.

Am I wrong?

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I don't think that your wrong. I've seen it so many times written that way and no one I know of was offended by that wording. My fiancé's parents aren't.

Your future in-laws names are on the invites in some way. I think that's ok. But, in all honesty, this isn't something that should cause friction. Can their names be written on the rehearsal dinner invite? So they get recognition for hosting that (if they are paying for it).

invitation wording... - Long Island Weddings

thanks guys for your input! appreciate it.

i am so over it - stressed all day, but i am going to keep the wording how it is:
mr and mrs X request ...... blah blah ... wedding of their daughter
X
to
X
son of mr and mrs X

invitation wording... - Long Island Weddings

Your hypothetical situation is exactly mine. I wish I could give my parents more recognition but we all agree its not worth the potential drama. My invites will read Together with their families, 'Bride' and 'Groom' request your presence...etc.

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Posted by guitarstikibars

i feel strongly that i don't want to include FH's parents names on the invite ... they are not helping with anything for the wedding, aside from maybe the rehearsal dinner. my mother is paying for the actual ceremony/reception at the venue and FH and I are paying for everything else. Most likely I will do 'Mrs. X requests the honor of your presence at the marriage of her daughter Jessica Stein to etc etc.' and leave it at that. (but more formally written )

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I am right there with ya! FH has no relationship with his dad and his mom isn't helping at all and might not even be coming to the wedding. My mom is paying for the bulk of everything and FH and I are just paying for some of the little extras we (I) want.

My biggest issue was that I wanted to recognize my father somehow, but didn't want to make it weird by saying, 'Mrs. Mom and the Late Mr. Dad invite you to their daughter Me's wedding...' I remember reading an etiquette piece somewhere that said, in this situation, it's ok to use Mrs. [Dad's First Name] Parents' Last Name as the host. My mom said she's ok with that too, but I'm still not sure if I want to go that route. All I know for sure is that I'm not mentioning FH's family at all.

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Posted by simba301

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Posted by guitarstikibars

i feel strongly that i don't want to include FH's parents names on the invite ... they are not helping with anything for the wedding, aside from maybe the rehearsal dinner. my mother is paying for the actual ceremony/reception at the venue and FH and I are paying for everything else. Most likely I will do 'Mrs. X requests the honor of your presence at the marriage of her daughter Jessica Stein to etc etc.' and leave it at that. (but more formally written )

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I am right there with ya! FH has no relationship with his dad and his mom isn't helping at all and might not even be coming to the wedding. My mom is paying for the bulk of everything and FH and I are just paying for some of the little extras we (I) want.

My biggest issue was that I wanted to recognize my father somehow, but didn't want to make it weird by saying, 'Mrs. Mom and the Late Mr. Dad invite you to their daughter Me's wedding...' I remember reading an etiquette piece somewhere that said, in this situation, it's ok to use Mrs. [Dad's First Name] Parents' Last Name as the host. My mom said she's ok with that too, but I'm still not sure if I want to go that route. All I know for sure is that I'm not mentioning FH's family at all.

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you know ... I was thinking of this, too because i'd really like to mention my dad without being morbid. this is definitely an idea that i need to consider and speak to my mom about. i wonder if she'd feel comfortable with it. thanks!!

both of FH's parents are coming to the wedding, but have been uninvolved in the wedding planning process. sigh.

invitation wording... - Long Island Weddings

I think the way you have it worded is fine. Etiquette does say that it should read whoever is hosting, so I think you're good. Just keep in mind, everyone is going to have an opinion and you can't please everyone. Don't stress it!

FH and I are paying for the wedding entirely ourselves so our invites are just going to say that we request the honor of your presence. Easy, simple.