Fh and i got into the discussion of invitation wording. We are paying for this wedding ourselves so I said that our parents should not be mentioned on the invitations. He thinks that it would be nice if we worded it as together with our parents..... but I think it would be nice if our parents gave us money towards the wedding! I just feel like it's giving them credit when neither sets of parents are paying for anything. Am I being ridiculous?
Espo22
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Posted by perfectpair
This is a difficult topic for me FILs ar paying for a lot of the wedding (pracicaly the whole thing) and they want their names on the invitation like:
Mr & Mrs _____________ invite you to the wedding of their son _______________ to _________ME
w/ no mention of my parents , but my parent sare helping w/ what they can (our familes have a very financial status), so I want both names on the invites,
I think I'm doing the invites as a DIY so I'll put my parents on as well if FILs aren't ok w/ it that's ok. My parents did raise me. Just b/c they don't have an extra $30k for the wedding is no reason that their names shouldn't be on the invites, IMHO!!!
I think yous hould do what worls best for you.
Yeah I agree, they might not be able to do it now but you def should put your parents names on the invitations even if FIL's are paying for alot of it...Just like you said, maybe they are not putting in money now but they did support you for how many years, raised and all that good stuff lol.
Personally I think both parents should be on invitations for that reason, even if they are not helping now they still have spent alot on us over the years and supported us.
SoontobeMrsH
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Re: invitation wording discussion!
Posted by Espo22
Posted by perfectpair
This is a difficult topic for me FILs ar paying for a lot of the wedding (pracicaly the whole thing) and they want their names on the invitation like:
Mr & Mrs _____________ invite you to the wedding of their son _______________ to _________ME
w/ no mention of my parents , but my parent sare helping w/ what they can (our familes have a very financial status), so I want both names on the invites,
I think I'm doing the invites as a DIY so I'll put my parents on as well if FILs aren't ok w/ it that's ok. My parents did raise me. Just b/c they don't have an extra $30k for the wedding is no reason that their names shouldn't be on the invites, IMHO!!!
I think yous hould do what worls best for you.
Yeah I agree, they might not be able to do it now but you def should put your parents names on the invitations even if FIL's are paying for alot of it...Just like you said, maybe they are not putting in money now but they did support you for how many years, raised and all that good stuff lol.
Personally I think both parents should be on invitations for that reason, even if they are not helping now they still have spent alot on us over the years and supported us.
thanks for understanding me, I hav;t even told my parents, b/c I feel weird talking about the wedding . I am really happy my mom came w/ me to TWOTY! It's the first wedding experience we shared thus far!
Chrissywish
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In my case my parents are helping us..so they will be the 'hosts' persay. I will also put FH's parents on there (they are doing the rehersal dinner) out of respect not because they are paying. It's something I want to do, because he wouldn't be the man he is today without them, and even though it is OUR day, in a way it's every parent's day too because its the day they see their children truly take that step towards a family of their own. So I am doing it because it's almost like a right of passage I guess you could say for parents.
Now as far as the divorced and whatnot. FH's mom passed on and his dad is since remarried. I want to put his father's name and his late mother's name on the invite. His step mom will be in the program and announced and all that, but that is how I plan on doing that.
thanks! I always thought the parents aren't mentioned if they're not paying, I was actually a litlte shocked by FH's counterargument. Sometimes he forgets that it's only 40% his wedding
