Invitation wording question...

Invitation wording question...

We need to order invitations soon, and I'm having problems on how to word them. I just wanted to word it with just me and my FI name on them. My mom said she wants her name on them. Technically my mom is not paying for the wedding... we might be borrowing money. My FI parents aren't paying for any of the wedding. I just wanted to put our names because personally, I don't want their names on them. Do you have to put their names on them? Is there a rule, or can we do what we want? I really just want our names on them... if we have to, maybe I'll put Together with their parents, etc., etc. etc. What do you guys think? Thanks so much!

Invitation wording question...

We only put our names: 'NA and PM request the honor of your presence at the celebration of their marriage...' But, this is fi's 2nd marriage, we are paying for it, and my mother passed away, my father's remarried but I'm not close w/ my stepmohter...so it was too complicated to put our parents names on it. Also, neither of our parents are involved in any of the planning. From what you said, my opinion is that your mother might be hurt if you don't include her name (is your father around?) What is the reason that you don't want their names? Did your fi's parents say anything about puting their names on? I guess 'together with their parents is fine'. But, unless you have very specific reasons for not putting her name, I would say put it (especially since she wants it). I know since I don't have the best relationship with my parents, I even considered not having my father walk me down the aisle. But when I look at it from his point of view, I don't want to hurt his feelings, and he never did anything that bad that I would do that.

Invitation wording question...

You are not obligated to put their names on them. I have seen invitations with just the bride and groom on them. Or you could just say Together with our parents. It is really up to you espeically since you are paying for the wedding.

another thing to consider

how you write your invitations will determine where the response cards will be sent back to. If the wording is such that your parents are listed as the host, then the response technically should go back to them.

If the invite reads you and FH, then they should be sent to you.

You don`t have to do anything you don`t want too...

That`s the beauty of footing the bill yourself... it`s your decision!! We only put our names on the invites and no one questioned us, so do what you are happy with!

what i did....

Melissa, I am starting to think we are the same person. :) I JUST ordered my invitations last week, and I was having the same dilemma. I ended up writing this:
(some pretty quote)
MC
and MK
together with their parents
request the honor of your presence....

I asked my parents how they felt about not having their names on the invites (they are paying for some of the wedding)...and they said it was up to me. However, the response cards are going back to my parents. That's just how I wanted it. Good luck with your decision. BTW...go to www.verseit.com ...hundreds of ways to word your invitations!!

Love
Melissa

Invitation wording question...

My parents are paying for a lot of my wedding and me and my fiance. I did not put my parents name on them b/c I wanted the focus of the invitation to be who is getting married, not who payed for what.

Invitation wording question...

If your parents are hosting the affair, which can mean $$ or no $$ towards the event, then they should issue the invite. It is not about focusing the attention on or off of anyone. It is a way of letting people know who the hosts of the evening are, which is why all RSVPs go back to the hosts.

It is really a personal decision. If your Mom is requesting her name on the invite then talk to you about it. She may feel that her friends or family except it on the invites and she doesn't want them to think that she is not paying for your wedding. I think a perfect comprise is 'Together with their parents'

Invitation wording question...

As everyone is putting money towards the wedding we put both of our parents name on top. I think it is also a sign of respect towards the parents as well. Plus both parents have their own guests that they are inviting as well. The response cards are being sent back to my address to the attention of myself and my FI though (eg Jane and John). I thought it would be a nice way of including him in this as well and doesn't pin point either set of parents and acknowledges my FI and myself. Yes, this is entirely your decision but I do think though that if you know if it means a lot to someone to have their name included and they are going to be a big part of your life for the REST OF YOUR LIFE..... I think you should include them as well. Including them could be a very touching gesture to them OR not including them could be something that they would always resent. Besides, to me a wedding is not just about the bride and groom coming together but the joining of their families as well and I think it is nice to acknowledge that it is a family celebration. A lot of people don't even know the rule of thumb about whose name is on top is who is helping to pay for the wedding. I think you should include them if it means that much to them.