forget the PC crap and give me your honest answer.
did you invite anyone you knew wouldnt come for the potential of a gift? ETA worded better below
AngnShaun
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There is only 1 person that I anticipate not coming because she ruined her relationship with my parents and didnt come to my brother or sisters weddings... and thats my dads sister... i dont know if she sent my sisters or brother a gift or not...
Rosie0613
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Yes but no intentionally. A friend of my dad is marrying his son the day after my wedding. So we sent a save the date to him before we knew about his son's wedding. We will still be sending him an invite knowing he won't be coming. Whether he sends a gift or not, I don't know.
christine2010
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nope
however, i am being forced to invite aunt so & so, who wont come & my mom says, 'well at least you may get a $20 gift out of it.'
yeah $20 will go really far:
cost of invite: $5 postage on invite: $0.44 postage on response: $0.44 cost of shower invite: $3 postage of shower invite: $0.44 postage for shower thank you: $0.44 cost of wedding thank you card: $3 postage for wedding thank you: $0.44 cost of favor: $4 postage to mail favor: $6
all of that will cost me $25 already!!
i don't know how i am going to make it past the next 165 days with my mother.
sugarnspice
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i want to re-wrod this....
there are people i know will not show. but i also know that inviting them isnt out of the norm eithjer.
im not looking for a hand out, but i know they would be fine without the invite, and i know i would be fine without the gift...
i guess my question is do i invite them anway?
Lsorrent
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Posted by APastries2010
i want to re-wrod this....
there are people i know will not show. but i also know that inviting them isnt out of the norm eithjer.
im not looking for a hand out, but i know they would be fine without the invite, and i know i would be fine without the gift...
i guess my question is do i invite them anway?
Yes, I have people that I am inviting that I know will not come, and they may not even actually respond. And believe me, I don't even want their gift.
But I am inviting them because they are family and I must.
Ray8183
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Posted by Lsorrent
Posted by APastries2010
i want to re-wrod this....
there are people i know will not show. but i also know that inviting them isnt out of the norm eithjer.
im not looking for a hand out, but i know they would be fine without the invite, and i know i would be fine without the gift...
i guess my question is do i invite them anway?
Yes, I have people that I am inviting that I know will not come, and they may not even actually respond. And believe me, I don't even want their gift.
But I am inviting them because they are family and I must.
ITA 100%. My mom is #9 out of 10 and my dad was #9 out of 11, so I have no choice but to give them an invite.
I think a lot of us are in the same boat.
MrsHazel2B
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I have to disagree here. I have an aunt on my dad's side who I am not inviting. We've never, ever gotten along and she doesn't get along with many of my other relatives. I simply don't want her there with her drama, screw a gift! And since it's my wedding and no one else's, not to be a brat, but it's my choice!
On a more positive note, I am definitely inviting people that are so-so with me but I feel like I should still invite them out of courtesy...I'm not a complete beeyotch!
Iluvpoodles
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Yup. And the people that aren't coming I don't expect a gift either.
pipermaru
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i invited people i knew wouldn't come but not for the gift, mostly because they had to be invited (like relatives, family friends, etc who live out of town)
DaniandKen2010
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Posted by Lsorrent
Posted by APastries2010
i want to re-wrod this....
there are people i know will not show. but i also know that inviting them isnt out of the norm eithjer.
im not looking for a hand out, but i know they would be fine without the invite, and i know i would be fine without the gift...
i guess my question is do i invite them anway?
Yes, I have people that I am inviting that I know will not come, and they may not even actually respond. And believe me, I don't even want their gift.
But I am inviting them because they are family and I must.
