Invites and rsvps question

Beautyconsultantbk Posted: Apr 04, 2012 12:09 PM

Invites and rsvps question

I was searching wordings on invites and rsvps and i saw some people rsvps said the obvious if the person declines or accepts but also asking what dish they want? That confused me why would they ask so far in advance

Lilnessa Posted: Apr 04, 2012 12:11 PM

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I think because venues require the number of dishes in advance

jangelz9 Posted: Apr 04, 2012 12:13 PM

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Posted by Beautyconsultantbk

I was searching wordings on invites and rsvps and i saw some people rsvps said the obvious if the person declines or accepts but also asking what dish they want? That confused me why would they ask so far in advance

that confuses me too...i dont want to include that! But i wanna know how to word it so people know the invite is either for that one person ONLY or so that they know they can only bring ONE guest! im on a tight budget!!! lol

Yankees2323 Posted: Apr 04, 2012 12:18 PM

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only some venue's require to know that 90% of them dont so its usually if the guest is declining or coming

PSP Posted: Apr 04, 2012 12:19 PM

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___ seats have been reserved in your honor..

you fill in the blank I think that is what some girls have done.

Rivera2be Posted: Apr 04, 2012 12:49 PM

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There are some venues that require the count of meal types ahead of time. Most do not, but there are some that do.

Jax1127 Posted: Apr 04, 2012 01:26 PM

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On an unrelated note or perhaps partially related?... how are you deciding who gets to bring a date and who doesn't? I don't really want to invite like my mom's friend's son's girlfriend and people like that.

Courtz Posted: Apr 04, 2012 01:29 PM

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Posted by Beautyconsultantbk

I was searching wordings on invites and rsvps and i saw some people rsvps said the obvious if the person declines or accepts but also asking what dish they want? That confused me why would they ask so far in advance

Only if your venue requires it... I haven't come across one that does.

Courtz Posted: Apr 04, 2012 01:31 PM

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Posted by Jax1127

On an unrelated note or perhaps partially related?... how are you deciding who gets to bring a date and who doesn't? I don't really want to invite like my mom's friend's son's girlfriend and people like that.

HELL NO!!! Only engaged or really 'really' serious relationships are people allowed to bring a guest!
Also, you can put an age cape on guests.
A 21 year old family friend does not need to bring a date.

Beautyconsultantbk Posted: Apr 04, 2012 01:32 PM

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Im deciding that upon if they are married/ engaged/serious relationship i would prob invite them Also if you know the person. I had to do cuts cause my room is small and budget tight

device1334 Posted: Apr 04, 2012 01:35 PM

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I think the option of the food thing is weird when ppl do that lol Who knows what they want to eat 2 months in advance? lol but there are certain places who need exact orders but most dont require it, so you don't have to put it on there.

And second part:
That is completely up to you. We gave some people the option of a date and some others we didnt. LIke most of my cousins I didnt give the option but that was only bc we have so many ppl plus all of them are single lol. They are also between 18-23. But I did tell them if we get no's then they can bring ppl. MY FH fought we about this though. He said anyone over 18 should get a guest. I said we dont have space or money for that, so I won lol.

So its completely up to you? INvities were one area we disagreed on certain things, but it all worked out and were both happy with the list now

stormstryker Posted: Apr 05, 2012 01:22 AM

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My hall has told me that they can make accomidations for those people with certain dietary needs... so I just put on my RSVP to 'please inform us of any dietary needs' so that we know if we need gleuten free, or diabetic, etc....

LisaReyes Posted: Apr 05, 2012 06:44 AM

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Posted by Beautyconsultantbk

Im deciding that upon if they are married/ engaged/serious relationship i would prob invite them Also if you know the person. I had to do cuts cause my room is small and budget tight

Yup! I'm doing this. Guests ONLY if I know their names and have met them. There are a few exceptions. For example, my dad has a single brother. I'm obviously going to invite him with a guest.

eck739 Posted: Apr 05, 2012 08:37 AM

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Some venues require it because they want to skip the whole 'taking orders' part and they usually have the food premade so you can eat right away at the beginning of the reception.

I personally think its a little tacky.

tonyjess Posted: Apr 06, 2012 04:22 PM

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As for which guests can bring a guest, I agree that anyone who's married, engaged, or in serious relationship should be able to bring that person. A lot of my younger cousins have bf/gf's - but the only one that gets a date is the one who is living with her bf and they are serious. The rest will have to understand we cannot afford for everyone to bring someone, and I'm sure they will. FH felt weird about not inviting his boss' kids, but I think the bosses and wives will be fine with that and understand. Most people know it costs a lot per person and will respect that.

HurricaneGirl Posted: Apr 06, 2012 04:59 PM

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Posted by Beautyconsultantbk

I was searching wordings on invites and rsvps and i saw some people rsvps said the obvious if the person declines or accepts but also asking what dish they want? That confused me why would they ask so far in advance

Ok, so it looks like this

___ Accepts
___ Declines

___ Chicken
___ Fish
___ Beef

This is a common RSVP in other parts of the country but NOT in NY. Weddings aren't as big in other parts of the country, like they might not blink at a potluck wedding or cash bar, but def don't put food options on your RSVP if you are having a NY wedding. I don't think any catering hall in NY require it anyway.