Inviting a coworker

I am inviting coworkers to my wedding as we have been close for years now. My question is this: How do I handle the new people in the group? There a couple new coworkers, who have lunch with us everyday, and hear all about the wedding details as my friends want daily updates. I told one friend that I feel I should invite the others, as they sit there everyday and hear about the wedding and have been kind and supportive, too. Unfortunately, my friends don't like the new people too much, and don't feel I should invite them to the wedding. I know...it is MY wedding. So I am torn. I like the new people, but am not close to them. We are having a small wedding, but 2 or 4 more people are not going to make or break the budget. I think I want to invite them, not that they may even want to come, just to avoid any awkward feelings after the wedding. Anyone else having this problem? Diana

Inviting a coworker

I am kind of in the same situation...I work in an office of about 40...I am only close with about 10 co-workers -- some closer than others. I plan on inviting the 10 of them, and as for the rest, I will put up an inviation to the ceremony on the company bulletin board for the whole office should they want to attend (highly unlikely that anyone else WOULD COME) but atleast the invite was offered.... Since these newcomers havent been there that long, you can extend the invitation to the ceremony and tell them that you wish you could invite them to the reception however your numbers/budget has already been reached/met. Good Luck...

Inviting a coworker - what I did

I had a similar situation. I had invited most of the people from my department, but there were several new people, and I wasn't sure what to do. I found that since I wanted to be able to talk about the wedding plans freely beforehand and have people around me who were truly excited about it, I found it was best to invite those newer people as well, and that way, I could talk about it with everyone. And, as it turns out, the office was so excited to be going that it was twice as exciting for me (as well as for them). So, although that might not be the best reason to invite someone, it made me feel more relaxed and excited, and that was REALLY important to me. So, I would invite them. Good luck.

What I am doing

I am in a bit of a different situation. I started my new job in Sept. and commute into NYC. I have decided not to invite any of my co-workers. No one is really close to each other, and getting to LI will be a pain for most of them anyway. In your situation, I would invite the new girls though. Since you have lunch with them everyday and discuss the plans they may feel bad if left out. I would just ask your other friends to understand that you want this to be a joyous occasion and not hurt anyone's feelings. I am sure that they will respect your decision. If you were talking about a large number like 10 or more I would say you don't have to include everyone but for a few people it makes sense.

I agree with PrincessBride!

I would invited the 'newer' people to the ceremony. You are not obligated to extend a reception invite. They can still be part of your day at the ceremony. I believe that's a good compromise. Good luck!

Invites to ceremony only

I know I'm going to get a lot of flack for saying this, and I REALLY don't mean to insult anyone, but I don't like the idea of inviting someone for the ceremony only. First, it automatically says that they can watch you get married, but they're not close enough to you to celebrate with you at the reception. Second, it also puts someone in the awkward position of having to give a gift when they can't share in the wedding festivities. And third, it's really disappointing to go to only the ceremony, and know that most of those people get to go to the reception, but you didn't make the cut. Again, I deeply apologize if this offends anyone. It's just how I feel.

Thank you for all the food for thought!

I think I will just invite everyone to avoid any uncomfortable feelings. I appreciate everyone's input on the subject.