inviting childhood friends you havent spoken to in years

Original post by VeggieBride

Jan 13, 2009 03:12 PM

So let me know if this is weird?

I havent spoken to my best best best friend from 5th grade up until we graduated high school in like 4 years. I was out in my old neighborhood one day with another school friend and we were like 'lets go to lisas house!! see if shes there!' She was there and so excited to see us and we caught up.
We kept in touch for a few months and then stopped talking because i guess life just got in the way...this was 4 years ago.

As kids we always talked about being in each others weddings and what our weddings would be like. I started thinking about her last night and i got so sad that shes not in my life anymore. I want to invite her to the wedding but its not like im just going to send her an invite out of the blue, ya know? I dont know her phone number but i figured maybe i could write a letter and send it to her parents house...i know she prob doesnt live there anymore but it would get to her eventually. Is this weird?

I know i cant be the only one in this situations. We were best friends for so long...slept over each others houses every weekend, inseperable and then college happened. We're both very different people into very different things now but i cant imagine this special day without her there. I dont know what to do.

mohajeriny Posted: Jan 13, 2009 11:28 PM

Re: inviting childhood friends you havent spoken to in years

i think everyone goes through this in one way or another- as many others- i have a similar situation, LOL.

as for the girl who has lost her childhood friend, i am SO sorry. as something similar happened to me and i know it can be extremely upsetting and painful to think about with all the what if's and what coulda been.. but if you want to invite the parents- then do it. if they regretfully decline though- take no offense as it's probably because they are grieving.

for the original poster of this ... def try to invite her- trust me i really think she would be pleasantly surprised that you went that far to include her in your big day. i know i would be for sure.

sharivera Posted: Jan 14, 2009 06:27 AM

Re: inviting childhood friends you havent spoken to in years

I have a few childhood friend sthat i grew up with..we spent lots of time at eachothers houses - considered eachother sisters. My mother was good friends with their parents.. without a doubt i want my oldest friends at my wedding...but if i was having a bridal party, they prob. wouldn't be in it...it would just be my current closest friends and cousins.

bride2binli Posted: Jan 14, 2009 07:39 AM

Re: inviting childhood friends you havent spoken to in years

I only am inviting the 1's I am still close with up to this day. Im sorry, times change and I sure theres a bunch of other people your close with now that you would want to invite. But honestly its up to u