Inviting children

latinaj Posted: Apr 15, 2009 09:48 PM

Inviting children

Hi Ladies!
So my FH and i are having a family and bridal party only eparty where we will have all the children in our family present. We are preparing a draft list for our wedding and have decided that it will be an adult only event....now how do we communicate this to our guests?
is this worded on the invites?
whats everyone else doing?

FallBride2010 Posted: Apr 15, 2009 09:50 PM

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I think if you address the envelope...asMr. and MRs...and leave out 'and family' it should be implied.

Jna2010 Posted: Apr 15, 2009 09:52 PM

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Posted by FallBride2010

I think if you address the envelope...asMr. and MRs...and leave out 'and family' it should be implied.

i agree

mzmahagony Posted: Apr 15, 2009 09:53 PM

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I'm making sure to state that it is an adult only even but I am not writing that their are no children invited. I will have that done word of mouth. Between our parents and the bridal party everyone will be informed. I dont want to put it on the invites because I dont want to put anyone off. But I will start that it is an adult affair. When I can to confirm who will be attending the wedding I will make sure that all of my guests who have children understand that. If they care enough about you they will not mind one bit.

latinaj Posted: Apr 15, 2009 09:55 PM

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how about for those family members or friends that just dont understand and need it spelled out...
would it be rude to put on the RSVP card?

Jna2010 Posted: Apr 15, 2009 09:57 PM

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Posted by latinaj

how about for those family members or friends that just dont understand and need it spelled out...
would it be rude to put on the RSVP card?

maybe have family member spread the word to them? im not sure about putting it on the rsvp, i think some might get offended, totally up to you tho

mzmahagony Posted: Apr 15, 2009 09:58 PM

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Posted by latinaj

how about for those family members or friends that just dont understand and need it spelled out...
would it be rude to put on the RSVP card?

My friend printed her RSVP cards with the number of guests that she wanted to attend so that no one could write in there own number. For Example my invite where it said 'how many are attending' already had the number 1 next to it so I knew that I was not able to bring a guest and i was fine with it.. I understood why she did it.

Jna2010 Posted: Apr 15, 2009 09:59 PM

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Posted by mzmahagony

Posted by latinaj

how about for those family members or friends that just dont understand and need it spelled out...
would it be rude to put on the RSVP card?

My friend printed her RSVP cards with the number of guests that she wanted to attend so that no one could write in there own number. For Example my invite where it said 'how many are attending' already had the number 1 next to it so I knew that I was not able to bring a guest and i was fine with it.. I understood why she did it.

what if you invite someone with a guest and theyre coming by themselves?

mzmahagony Posted: Apr 15, 2009 10:03 PM

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what if you invite someone with a guest and theyre coming by themselves?

Then they can just change the number from 2 to 1, it it were me I would call to say that I'm not bringing a guest.

Lsorrent Posted: Apr 15, 2009 10:32 PM

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The number of people invited is generally indicated by the address on the envelope.

Examples:

Mr. & Mrs. Smith means just them
The Smith Family means the whole family
Mr. & Mrs. Smith and Joe means mom, dad, and Joe but no other children
Ms. Smith - ms. smith, no guest
Ms. Smith & Guest - ms. smith can bring a guest

Relish21 Posted: Apr 15, 2009 10:53 PM

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I've seen the reception card have printed ' Adult Reception'

We're doing the same thing... haven't decided how to word it or just let people know verbally.

Nina1010 Posted: Apr 15, 2009 10:55 PM

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I am considering writing
Adult only reception to follow.
(Ceremony/Reception are at the same place, so people will get the hint.)

Also addressing the envelope with guests names only

Our RSVP card will read:

M___________________________

____ Accepts with pleasure
____ Adults will attend

____ Declines with regrets

HTH

MarjorieFrank Posted: Apr 16, 2009 12:15 AM

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I think you should try to let people know via word of mouth. Also, address the envelopes to the adults only, specifically by name. Also, the RSVP card can leave a blank for number of guests attending. That way you can see who doesn't get the hint that their children aren't invited and can do something about it.

Panamasweet Posted: Apr 16, 2009 08:20 AM

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I was wondering the same thing. I dont want children to attend as well. My wedding is on a friday night and its a grown and sexy event. I wasnt sure how to address the no children policy either. I didnt think word of mouth was enough

rocketsummer17 Posted: Apr 16, 2009 08:27 AM

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Posted by Lsorrent

The number of people invited is generally indicated by the address on the envelope.

Examples:

Mr. & Mrs. Smith means just them
The Smith Family means the whole family
Mr. & Mrs. Smith and Joe means mom, dad, and Joe but no other children
Ms. Smith - ms. smith, no guest
Ms. Smith & Guest - ms. smith can bring a guest

ITA
If I recieved an invite that had just my name printed on the envelope, I would know the invite is for just me and no guest. If it said Mr and Mrs Shawn, then it would be me and him...I think anyone with half a brain is able to figure that out!! lol dont stress it, just label your invites like Laura said in her post...