Inviting Co-workers (ANYONE ELSE HAVE AN OPINION?)

bride082003 Posted: Jan 03, 2003 10:27 PM

Inviting Co-workers (ANYONE ELSE HAVE AN OPINION?)

I know that this topic has been posted many times but I still don't know what to do!

As of today, I am inviting 2 people from the office (that I am closest to). I also work with 5 other people plus two bosses that I am not inviting. Out of these 7 people, I think that only half will come. Plus my wedding is on a Friday and my WHOLE department cannot be out of the office at once so for obvious reasons they will not all be able to make it.

WHAT DO I DO? Do I just post an invite to the church at work and allow whoever wants to come, to come? Do I give my immediate co-workers and invitation anyways? I dont want any hard feelings with any of these people nor do I only want to invite my co-workers, if I invite them I feel that I HAVE to invite the bosses.

HELP!!!!

DaniRN Posted: Jan 03, 2003 10:31 PM

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This was a hard part of my planning too but all the girls (and one guy) that I work w/ are like my best friends so I ended up inviting all 15 nurses on my floor (along w/ the night supervisor). I can't wait to share my special day w/ them.

bride082003 Posted: Jan 03, 2003 11:20 PM

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bump

susanc Posted: Jan 03, 2003 11:23 PM

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Inviting co-workers to the church is a very nice gesture. I am having similar difficulties. Good luck.

Tammy5-03 Posted: Jan 04, 2003 09:56 AM

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I have a similar problem. Dani, did you invite all 15 w/ spouses. I have about the same number but almost all are married and I've never met one spouse. I know you shouldn't invite married people to come single but I hate for it to turn into 30 people. That's a large percentage of the wedding for work friends

jennbaby Posted: Jan 04, 2003 09:59 AM

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in my dept., there are 33 women. I am inviting like 10 plus their significant others. (includes my bosses).
I just can't have everyone.
Maybe extend the invitation, at least you can say you did.

michele31 Posted: Jan 04, 2003 10:04 AM

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I was very torn about this situation, but I had only been at my company for a year when I got married and I was not super close to any of them. I work for a small company so if you invite a few, you have to invite all. My parents kept telling me I HAD to invite my boss so he would not get offended. So I invite my boss/his fiance and one other person that I am kinda close with and his wife. Guess what? My boss cancelled 2 days before the wedding (his mom got sick in LA) and after weeks of the other guy saying he and his wife couldn't wait to attend and me having to ask for their RSVP card more than 3X 2 weeks before the wedding I got a 'we cannot attend' RSVP card. I never got a gift for either of them.

My feeling is this: If you see the people outside of work, if you would remain friends with them AFTER you left the company invite them. if you are only work-friends then don't.You can ask your 2 friends to keep quiet about being invited so as to not make others feel bad. Have only the people you truly love and care about at your wedding. JMO

yabbobay Posted: Jan 04, 2003 10:31 AM

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Michele is completely right and this is the advice my mother gave me...but I just couldn't...

I work in a department of 10...I invited 5 (plus 2 from another department)...2 weeks later I found out one of the people I did not invite was inviting me...so I quickly mailed the others in my department invites...none of those last 5 came...all of the first 5 did...

Teri Posted: Jan 04, 2003 11:35 AM

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This is always a sticky situation. I didn't want a huge wedding, so we only invited my 2 bosses - no immediate co-workers - this way, no one was insulted. (we're not that close)
I'm also friends with about 5 women in my company, but not in my dept, so I invited all of them to my shower and wedding.

As for the church, I left the date, time and directions with my boss before my last day, and if anyone had any interest in going, they would have asked her for the details.
I remember someone giving me the info to their church, when I hadn't been invited, and I thought it was a little awkward - maybe that's more common though.

christy Posted: Jan 04, 2003 11:53 AM

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I am a teacher and I am inviting at least 10 people from work! I am on the fence about inviting administrators though!

bride082003 Posted: Jan 17, 2003 10:24 AM

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Anyone else? I am STILLLLLLLLL torn on what to do.

THANKS

charliesgirl Posted: Jan 17, 2003 10:26 AM

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I had the same problem. I ended up inviting 5 with a guest from my office and 3 other people who i am close with who left the company. I actaully waited until I got a couple of no's back and then I sent the inviations to some of my co-workers.

alina Posted: Jan 17, 2003 10:27 AM

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I agree with michele's post... I would consider inviting the bosses, but not the other 5 ppl you don't care for... But then again, they may get upset.

charliesgirl Posted: Jan 17, 2003 10:27 AM

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I also only invited my boss to my shower b/c i'm really close with her and two girls that I beacme friends with at work I also invited tothe shower.

MarcellaBella Posted: Jan 17, 2003 10:29 AM

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I am torn about this too.. I am def inviting my direct boss and one of my coworkers.. the other boss could go screw himself.. and I have a supervisor who I really don't feel comfortable having there.. I don't know..I'm torn as well.. I think I'll end up inviting these other 2 co workers and their sig. other.. but not sure yet..

NovemberSue Posted: Jan 17, 2003 10:29 AM

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I didn't know what to do either.I invited the people from my office.I work in a very small office.Half came and the other half didn't.I left the choice up to them.

sept2703 Posted: Jan 17, 2003 10:29 AM

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Me and my FH decided we would not invite any co-workers at all. We are only inviting 1 couple that he works with (both work there) becasue we are friends with them outside of work. I used to work with them also (we met at work). We decided it was just easier to not invite anyone then try and cut it off.
We also have 280 people with just our friends and family and parents friends so we had to draw the line somewhere.
Hopefully no is insulted. I haven't figured how to tell them though? I'm thinking I won't unless someone asks.
Any suggestions?

slpbridetobe Posted: Jan 17, 2003 10:31 AM

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I'm really stressing out about this topic. I am close to the girls I work with, but not everyone in the office- there are only 9 of us! However, I live in Maryland, and the wedding is (obviously) on LI, so there are 2 problems... to I invite them, and expect them to schlep to NY, and 2, if invited, will they even have any fun b/c they won't know anyone else!! I recently went to a baby shower for a work friend, and felt really out of place, b/c I only knew my 2 coworkers who were there!! Have no idea what I will do about this either!!!

nrvbrd Posted: Jan 17, 2003 10:32 AM

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I guess I am in the minority here.

I am not inviting anyone from work. I have been with my company for 5 years. I am a very friendly person and I have great working relationships with my co workers. I have hung out with them outside of the job but ,they were work related occasions.

I am friendly with these people but not close.

I am paying for my wedding myself and it is costly.
I am of the belief that a wedding should be comprised of your nearest and dearest, and these people do not fit the bill.

With that being said I think you have to determine what YOU envision your wedding to be.

zac1228 Posted: Jan 17, 2003 10:39 AM

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This is really going to be a personal decision for each person based on the type of wedding you are having and the number of guests. I have some of my co-workers on a 'B'-list, but I don't know if I'm going to invite them. I do feel bad about it since we work pretty closely together and go on business trips, but I am limited in the number of people so I have no choice. I think that people understand that the cost of a wedding prohibits inviting too many people and if you decided not to invite them, they will understand.