Inviting coworkers - now a sticky situation

I brought my wedding notebook to work because I wanted to show it to a friend after work. One of my coworkers saw it and was like Oh let me see let me see. I wasnt thinking of the stuff in there, and I let her look through it. I had a draft of the invite list, with my boss (whom I have known for longer than any of the coworkers), but noone else from my office. Then my boss walked by, and SHE joked 'you guys will have to wait for some No's to get an invitation'. I felt bad for showing them my book, when they werent invited, but I cant invite them now just to make them feel better.
Right?

ed: Ive only worked here for about 4 months, so if they expected to be invited, thats kind of weird, right?

Re: Inviting coworkers - now a sticky situation

I wouldn't worry about it, they shouldn't be expecting an invite, very rude. BUT If I were you I would pull your boss aside and tell her you are not planning on inviting anyone one else from the office to keep wedding comments to a min around other people.

ETS: NO one from my office showed up either, and I only work with 6 other people.

Re: Inviting coworkers - now a sticky situation

Let me just say...it was pretty tacky for your boss to say that...

AND, I did not finalize my guest list until we actually purchased the invitations. Even then, we ordered a few extras and kept adding on additional people as the time when by.

(and, then we added a bunch more and had to order more invites, but that's a whole different story)

At this point, there is no need for you to have a final guest list. My experience with inviting coworkers was terrible. None them attended. I had to hunt them down for RSVPs. My BOSS never even RSVP'd.

And, having only been there for 4 months, it is strange to me that they'd expect to be invited. But, it sounds more like they may have gotten offended by your boss's comment...

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I wouldn't worry about it either. A friend of mine at school is getting married in Dec., and so I swap wedding ideas with him ALL of the time. B/c they have big families, he was only able to invite 2 law school friends...both people who he has been friends with for longer than me. I was TOTALLY NOT UPSET, b/c I understand...and I plan on sending them a gift off of their registry anyway.

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Don't worry aboutit. If you were my cowrker, I'd understand. You are sort of 'supposed to' ask you boss anyway, so most peopel will probably get that. My husband was new & he didn't invite anyway either.

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It's rude of them to assume. Don't feel bad.

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Don't feel bad at all. I've been at my job for over 3.5 years and I didn't invite anyone, I just didn't have the room. My DH has been at his job for 2 years and didn't invite anyone either. We both told the people that we work with taht we would have loved to invite them, but we were already over the amount of people my parents would pay for- and that was the truth. Noone was upset. When i retunred from the HM I brought them all favors from my wedding and showed them my wedding pictures. Noone was upset or offended.

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Do not feel bad. They can't expect to be invited after only working with them such a short time.

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I think in alot of offices it is understood that although you spend alot of time with these people, they are not expected to be invited.

A girl in the office got married recently and invited about half of the office - the people she had relationships with (I was not one of them) but no one was offended and everyone understood. No one who went to the wedding came back on that monday and talked about it - that would have been rude.

If anyone doesn't understand, they are socially inept.

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Your boss shouldn't have said that. If you worked at a place for four months no one should expect an invite. I teach in a fairly small high school but don't expect to get invited to anyone's wedding the way costs are these days.

You did nothing wrong. They were the nosey ones.