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Inviting FH's friends g'fs to the Shower??? (09 board)

LousBride09 Posted:

Inviting FH's friends g'fs to the Shower??? (09 board)

I wrote this on the 09 Board but I'm so torn I would love to get other peoples opinions...

So FH has some friends that have girlfriends/wives. We hang out a decent amount in a group/dinners and I am friendly with them. However, I do not hang out with them individually and I am not close with them. Does anyone else have a situation like this and are you going to invite them to the shower? Thanks in advance.
lori7570 Posted:

Re: Inviting FH's friends g'fs to the Shower??? (09 board)

I would

RitasEngaged Posted:

Re: Inviting FH's friends g'fs to the Shower??? (09 board)

I would ask FH what he thinks - if you don't hang out with them individually I wouldn't

little j Posted:

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as long as you have MET them before...and more than once...i would invite them

20mrsc10 Posted:

Re: Inviting FH's friends g'fs to the Shower??? (09 board)

i prob would unless its a huge amount of people--but if its just a few it might help build relationships

Lsorrent Posted:

Re: Inviting FH's friends g'fs to the Shower??? (09 board)

If you hang out with them often, even in groups, I would.

FutureMrs.M Posted:

Re: Inviting FH's friends g'fs to the Shower??? (09 board)

depends on the situation depends on if i hang out with them as well

SoontobeRoma15 Posted:

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I would for the simple fact that when I first started dating my FH I was invited to his friend's Bridal Showers

FutureMrsKuehne Posted:

Re: Inviting FH's friends g'fs to the Shower??? (09 board)

anyone female who is invited to the wedding (like their name on the invite, NOT 'and guest') is being invited to my shower...

if the 'and guest' is a girlfriend that i know personally and have met/hung out with at some point, then i will invite them too
Jna2010 Posted:

Re: Inviting FH's friends g'fs to the Shower??? (09 board)

what does your fh say?

i would also look at the # of other people im inviting.... but i would lean more towards the 'yes you should' side
AdriandSteve Posted:

Re: Inviting FH's friends g'fs to the Shower??? (09 board)

My friend and I (another 09 bride) are in similar situations... we are with them every weekend but they are our FH's wives/gf's... but they've been with their husbands and bf's for like.. lol 7+ years (most since HS). Neither of us are really close to them individually but we are inviting them to our bridal showers...

LousBride09 Posted:

Re: Inviting FH's friends g'fs to the Shower??? (09 board)

Posted by Jna2010

what does your fh say?

i would also look at the # of other people im inviting.... but i would lean more towards the 'yes you should' side


He is no help lol....he thinks that it would be nice but I definitely dont have to ugh. Like FH has a big group of friends and when the g/fs/wives come out we definitely hang out with each other.
CloudNine Posted:

Re: Inviting FH's friends g'fs to the Shower??? (09 board)

i would invite them. i plan on inviting them also since i went to theirs. sometimes its more out of respect of the guy friend meaning if John is good friends with Mike for 10 years then Mike's GF is invited to the shower and will go out of the respect of john and Mike's friendship..you know what i mean?

MikesBride2B Posted:

Re: Inviting FH's friends g'fs to the Shower??? (09 board)

My friend was in a situation like this and she invited the girlfriends. I think its a nice gesture since they keep you company when the boys are being boys.
LousBride09 Posted:

Re: Inviting FH's friends g'fs to the Shower??? (09 board)

Posted by CloudNine

i would invite them. i plan on inviting them also since i went to theirs. sometimes its more out of respect of the guy friend meaning if John is good friends with Mike for 10 years then Mike's GF is invited to the shower and will go out of the respect of john and Mike's friendship..you know what i mean?


Yea I totally understand what you mean. And these are his really good friends (groomsman) wives and g/fs that I would be inviting. I think I am leaning towards inviting them. I guess they can always say no right?
LousBride09 Posted:

Re: Inviting FH's friends g'fs to the Shower??? (09 board)

Posted by MikesBride2B

My friend was in a situation like this and she invited the girlfriends. I think its a nice gesture since they keep you company when the boys are being boys.


Thank you so much! It seems like more people have invited (or would invite) them. I mean I feel like I have seen them a good amount of times too. Plus it's only 3 more girls I would have to invite.
AdriandSteve Posted:

Re: Inviting FH's friends g'fs to the Shower??? (09 board)

Posted by MikesBride2B

My friend was in a situation like this and she invited the girlfriends. I think its a nice gesture since they keep you company when the boys are being boys.


haha i'm that random girl that is with the boys when they are being boys and stay away from the girls when they are being girls.
I'll choose video games over idle chit chat anyday lol
Trose Posted:

Re: Inviting FH's friends g'fs to the Shower??? (09 board)

I have the same situation (girlfriends - not wives) and asked FH about this and he said I don't have to invite them. We are facebook friends and say hello and are friendly. Def have a good time when we go out, however none are close enough to either one of us to be invited. My opinion is that the bridal shower should be intimate and not include every female that will be invited to the wedding.

jussie82 Posted:

Re: Inviting FH's friends g'fs to the Shower??? (09 board)

Posted by CloudNine

i would invite them. i plan on inviting them also since i went to theirs. sometimes its more out of respect of the guy friend meaning if John is good friends with Mike for 10 years then Mike's GF is invited to the shower and will go out of the respect of john and Mike's friendship..you know what i mean?


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CloudNine Posted:

Re: Inviting FH's friends g'fs to the Shower??? (09 board)

oh and i wanted to add..i know that since the shower is focused on the bride since she is the one there...its not gifts just for her. the gifts you give at the shower are for the COUPLE'S new life together. so yes it may be a little weird to have people there that the bride doesnt know but if they know the groom then that is reason enough for them to be there. i will have some of FH's family members there that i dont know or met once but its respect of the couple as a whole not just the bride

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