Inviting FH's friends g'fs to the Shower???

Original post by LousBride09

Mar 09, 2009 12:58 PM

So FH has some friends that have girlfriends/wives. We hang out a decent amount in a group/dinners and I am friendly with them. However, I do not hang out with them individually and I am not close with them. Does anyone else have a situation like this and are you going to invite them to the shower? Thanks in advance.

FutureMrsG Posted: Mar 09, 2009 07:02 PM

Re: Inviting FH's friends g'fs to the Shower???

I was just discussing this topic with my mom last night. I am not inviting FHs friend's wifes. I really like them but I have never hung out with them alone and it would be a little weird for me.

2009Bride2Be Posted: Mar 09, 2009 07:56 PM

Re: Inviting FH's friends g'fs to the Shower???

I have the same situation. When we go to dinners or parties I hang with the wives, but they arent my friends. I dont call them for anything. When I have a girls night out I dont invite them. Im only inviting people I am FRIENDS with to my shower. I mean you have to remember you are also asking these people to give you a present PLUS have to put $ in the envelope at your wedding. If your comfortable with that then fine, but if your not then dont. I didnt feel that way right. To invite people Im not friends with to my shower where they wont know anyone anyway.

And FH friends are all married or engaged and now I found out that 1 girl IS inviting me to her bridal shower and to tell you the truth I dont know why. I dont take it as an honor because Ive been accepted from day one so its not about being accepted, she wants the gift. THATS how I feel about it. And THATS how SHE is so I know Im invited for the gift and now Im annoyed that I even have to spend $ I dont have on her. Im sorry if thats rude but its honest. AND moreso she knows I dont get along with her friends (we have history) and that I wouldnt go...

I dont know I just find it awkward to invite people and ask for a present that Im not close with, but Im also having a small bridal shower. I know girls that have 90 people and invite EVERY girl that is coming to the wedding. Im just not THAT girl. Id rather it be special with people that actually REALLY mean something to me and are truly excited to be there.

Mich2585 Posted: Mar 09, 2009 07:58 PM

Re: Inviting FH's friends g'fs to the Shower???

i am in the same boat ... but we decided against inviting them because it was about seven of them! and even tho when we hang out we have fun, we are not that close and there were sooo many people on the list already. i felt bad but they will understand. plus i didnt go to their showers (two of them) so i dont feel so bad.