My fiance and I are having a major dilemma! My family is very big and all of my cousins have children, ages ranging from a few months to 17 years old. Some are on my mom's side and some on my dad's. My fiance has one cousin who has 3 kids. That's it. I'm extremely close with my MOH's daughter, 9 years old, who is going to be my JBM. She is the only child I want to invite. My mom's side doesn't want their kids invited because they want a night out, plus their kids aren't the most well-behaved children so I'm totally fine with that. My dad's side is smaller and I'd love to invite those kids but that wouldn't be right so I am not. The problem is my fiance and his mom really wants to invite his cousins kids. They live a few hours away and he says they won't come if kids aren't invited. I don't feel that is our problem. It's putting me in a really awkward spot because I have out of town cousins too and am not inviting their kids. Even though most of my cousins don't want their kids invited, I think they will be a little offended if they see other kids there. I have 20 kids on my side, he has 3. I really don't want to offend either of our cousins. Shouldn't it be all or none? What do we do?? These are not nieces and nephews, their our COUSINS kids!! Help!!
We are having kids, but only because there are so few really left in my family and the ones that there are, are really important and we couldn't imagine them not being there. Friends were not invited with kids. I say either no one under 21 or just close family bring their kids.
