Inviting priest to reception

joan713 Posted: Aug 05, 2007 12:03 AM

Inviting priest to reception

Just wondering if you're inviting the priest to your reception?

MissAngel Posted: Aug 05, 2007 12:16 AM

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We are, but he baptized my FH and has known the family for many, MANY years I do believe that it's tradition to do so, though; even if you haven't known them personally like we have...HTH!

iwannabmrsD Posted: Aug 05, 2007 12:21 AM

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yep will be inviting mine.. my fh will prob invite his as well..

soon2BMrsDee Posted: Aug 05, 2007 08:55 AM

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Are you supposed to? He's not 'our' priest... Wedding etiquette has us at a loss!

kates Posted: Aug 05, 2007 09:05 AM

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I did. I would really like it if he were able to come!

little34 Posted: Aug 05, 2007 09:23 AM

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I don't think you have to invite him...but if you know each other well then I would. But if he is not close to you then I wouldn't.

JACK808 Posted: Aug 05, 2007 11:18 AM

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I will extend the invitation as a courtesy, but I don't expect he will come.

Dee606 Posted: Aug 05, 2007 11:51 AM

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OUr Priest & Rabbi will be attending the cocktail hour.... but when do you extend the invitation to them to stay for the reception?

empressdani Posted: Aug 05, 2007 12:04 PM

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We're inviting ours. He is really close to FH and since he was FH's youth minister they kind of grew up together. If he wasn't a family friend, or just a officiant that was 'hired' I don't think that I would.

cindyandkevin Posted: Aug 05, 2007 01:28 PM

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Posted by soon2BMrsDee

Are you supposed to? He's not 'our' priest... Wedding etiquette has us at a loss!

You don't have to, he's a vendor like anyone else, doing you a service for a fee.

However, we got married at the RH and did invite him to the reception. We didn't know him personally but thought it would be a nice offer, he declined but appreciated the thought.

So basically, if you want to that's ok. But if you don't really want to or don't have the room then you don't have to invite him and that's ok too!

ZKAT22 Posted: Aug 05, 2007 04:34 PM

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we are because my mom works for the church...so we are inviting all 4 that are there

missK Posted: Aug 05, 2007 04:37 PM

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We invited him since he knows FH since he was baptized. And hes fun too.

kns11 Posted: Aug 05, 2007 04:43 PM

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Posted by ZKAT22

we are because my mom works for the church...so we are inviting all 4 that are there

I'm in the same boat, my mother works for the church. FH & I are not marrying in the church but Father Thomas has been beyond helpful. He also married my cousin and knows my aunt rather well. He has two seats in the reception hall should he chose to come.

ChristineAaron08 Posted: Aug 05, 2007 05:15 PM

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I heard somewhere that you are supposed to invite the clergy, but they usually decline and (if anything) attend the cocktail hour to be nice.

jjk1007 Posted: Aug 05, 2007 05:47 PM

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We only know our pastor since we started taking marriage classes with him a few months ago. We invited him and he was actually the first to rsvp back for him and his wife. We dont know him at all personally, but we felt it was the right thing to do to invite him.

donegal419 Posted: Aug 05, 2007 06:25 PM

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Proper etiquette dictates that you do invite the priest or deacon or whatever clergy is marrying you. Reality usually dictates he either won't come (they are either too busy or don't know you well enough to spend 5 hours by himself at a reception where he won't know anyone) or will only come to the cocktail hour only.

Ours attended the whole reception as he is a family friend.

Mizzdimple Posted: Aug 06, 2007 09:25 AM

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he told us he will be thre without us asking.,

we didnt even think of it!

Lemons Posted: Aug 06, 2007 09:55 AM

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we are. He has christened me and confirmed me. So, my mom said its a MUST that he gets an invite

stickymartini Posted: Aug 06, 2007 10:12 AM

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I extended the invitation not expecting him to come but he accepted!! I've heard of people doing it out of courtesy & I didnt want him to think we were rude so we asked....
Might as well throw it out there and see what he says. This way at least you offered (and God will remember that) LOL Good Karma later on!!!

kns11 Posted: Aug 07, 2007 12:29 AM

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Posted by stickymartini

Might as well throw it out there and see what he says. This way at least you offered (and God will remember that) LOL Good Karma later on!!!

Oh thanks this is a perfect way of me to reply to my darling FMIL who seems to think the invite should not be extended. She had the nerve to say it was being wasted on him!!!!! I mean HELLO MC FLY this is not some man off the street. She's just bitter from her own past dealings with the Roman Catholic Church.