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OK I'm going to rant. I've had numerous friends come up to me or talk behind my back about the fact that they think they should have been a bridesmaid! Really? I feel like I won the lotto and people are coming out of the woodwork that I haven't hung out with in awhile. Most of my bridal party is my family then I chose 2 of my closest girlfriends. The girls that are complaining I really never see or talk to, just because we were good friends 5 years ago doesn't mean you still get included. I didn't want a huge bridal party so I narrowed it down to who's really there. It's just annoying and uncomfortable!

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I totally understand what your going through! I wanted a small bridal party too & that's what I told everyone. So if anyone says anything to you what I would say is we wanted to keep the bridal party small. I'm so glad I have a small bridal party bc it gets so expensive for limos, bouquets, bridal party gifts & the rehearsal dinner.. Don't let the talking bother you.

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Oh totallllllllly experienced this. The only difference in my situation is my bridal party IS huge. 8 ladies! I unfortunately had 2 friends confront me (months after i chose the bridal party) saying that they were heartbroken that we're not friends any more. I was SO thrown off course by those comments. I didnt realize that not picking them for BMs meant we're not friends at all?! It's since blown over (sort of) but I totally understand how you're feeling.

I think planning this wedding really has allowed me to not sweat the small stuff. I cant stress over how every other person i know will feel with every decision. Gotta shake 'em off girl!

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yep this happened to me too and it's really awkward.. i have a large bridal party (8 girls) and its mostly family (2 sisters, 1 SIL, 2 FSIL, 1 cousin, 2 friends)... There are three friends of mine that I am VERY close with, and have been since grammar school, but I obviously couldn't have them all so i decided not to ask any of them, and just ask my two best friends from high school because I see them the most and they are kinda separate from my 'old friends'... anyway, my neighbor who is one of my old friends asked if she was a bridesmaid after I got engaged and I felt terrible when I had to say no :(

and then my other really old friend from the 1st grade asked me the same question, in front of her mom! Again, I felt terrible and explained that if I asked her then I'd have to ask the other two girls and then I would have had 11 girls...

in the end, you can't make everyone happy and you just have to hope they understand

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I actually am having a very small bridal party. A matron of honor and a maid of honor. When I intially got engaged I was having my best friend as my matron of honor without a doubt. Unfortunately, she was going through a really tough time in her marriage so I did not mention anything until she brought it up in regards of my bridal party. That being said when she asked I mentioned of course I wanted her to be my matron of honor. She said she would be honored and will do her best. None the less, I have not seen her since a month before my engagement and still have yet to see her let alone hear from her since the last time I reached out to her. Everytime we were suppose to meet up, she always had something to do or it wasn't a good time for her and she was very busy, yet on facebook she was every where else. Every time we spoke it was always about her and I was very understanding and sympathetic towards what she was going through. However when it came down to even attempting to discuss the wedding or just to even play catch up amongst friends it was always something. I had to simply put my foot down and with all that she was going through in her life especially now say to her, her main concern should be about her son and herself and she was in agreement and totally understood my decision. We spoke maybe a handful of times after that and that was it. A lot of personal things have happened on my end since then and she has not once reached out so I came to a conclusion it is what it is at this point. I am not going to have someone stand by my side when I consider them a priority in my life and me just their option. It is your day and you should have the ladies you wish to stand by your side on your special day. Not everyone may be happy with your decision but at the end of the day it is what makes the bride happy and that is you = )

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I completely understand. I've been on both sides of this now, and I get it is hard to choose. I am just doing my 2 FSILs, and a friend from grad school. I have old friends from HS but relationships change and I want to look at my pictures years from now and have those people still be around. Do what you want, and don't worry about others. We are incorporating friends that aren't in the bridal party into our ceremony.

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Thankfully, we are only doing a best man (his best friend since childhood, and my fiance was also best man at his wedding) and my sister as the matron of honor (so weird calling my young sister a matron of honor. She's only 25 lol)

If I had more of my friends that lived close, I would consider having more to my bridal party, but at the same time, I consider it more stress.

Bottom line: It's YOUR wedding party, you get to pick who can be in your party.

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Thanks ladies you calmed me down =)

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Luckily we didn't really have any drama. But I can imagine how stressful it would be!