IS ANYONE EMOTIONALLY OR PHYSICALLY DRAINED???? VERY LONG SORRY

as1inmay Posted: Aug 28, 2004 10:46 AM

IS ANYONE EMOTIONALLY OR PHYSICALLY DRAINED???? VERY LONG SORRY

I STILL HAVE 9 MONTHS LEFT TILL MY WEDDING DAY BUT I JUST FEEL SO STRESSED OUT. ITS PROBABLY BECAUSE I HAVE BEEN PLANNING FOR SO LONG NOW. I DONT KNOW WHAT IT IS BUT LATELY I HAVE BEEN RECONSIDERING MY RELATIONSHIP WITH MY FH. I LOVE HIM TO DEATH I DEFINATELY KNOW HE IS THE ONE FOR ME BUT ALOT OF THINGS BOTHER ME. I DONT KNOW IF ITS JUST JITTERS OR STRESS BUT ALL ME AND FH DO IS GO TO THE MOVIES OR OUT TO DINNER OR RENT MOVIES AND STAY IN. IM NOT SAYING THATS A BAD THING BUT I WOULD LIKE HIM TO BE SPONTANEOUS SOMTIMES.I LOVE TO GO DANCING BUT HE WON'T GO WHEN I ASK HIM BUT IF HIS COUSIN AND HIS COUSINS GIRLFRIEND ASKS HIM TO GO HE IS THERE IN A SECOND. GRANTED HE DOES INVITE ME TO GO WITH HIM BUT WHY CAN'T WE DO ANY OF THOSE THINGS ALONE. FOR INSTANCE LAST NIGHT WE GOT INVITED TO GO TO A BAR WITH SOME OF HIS FRIENDS TONIGHT. OF COURSE HE AGREED TO GO BUT IF I WAS TO BRING UP THE IDEA TO GO WITH ME ALONE OR EVEN WITH SOME OF MY FRIENDS HE SAYS NO. I DONT KNOW WHAT TO DO???? I KNOW I AM DEFINATELY GOING TO DISCUSS IT WITH HIM. HAS ANYONE BEEN THROUGH THIS?

suven Posted: Aug 28, 2004 10:49 AM

Re: IS ANYONE EMOTIONALLY OR PHYSICALLY DRAINED???? VERY LONG SORRY

All I can offer is

We both pretty much don't like clubs or bars, so we're very compatible in that area. And, I'd say that we're both very willing to hang around each other's friends. It's family that brings us the most grief...

JimmysBride Posted: Aug 28, 2004 11:01 AM

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First off

I don't think you are really having compatibility issues with your FH, just something that needs to be discussed. Also, if you can afford to out to the movies and dinner and clubs and bars while planning your wedding, hey, good for you because I know me and FH surely can't!!

But I know where you are coming from. I love dancing, going out dancing, anything to do with dancing and most of the time it's difficult for me to get FH on board. But I'm sure there are things that your FH likes to do that you probably aren't crazy about. These are just thing you two should discuss and find a way to work with.

Good luck and I'm sure you will find a way to work this out!

as1inmay Posted: Aug 28, 2004 11:03 AM

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ITS NOT THAT I DONT LIKE GOING OUT WITH HIS FRIENDS THAT ARE COOL PEOPLE I JUST DONT GET WHAT THE PROBLEM IS. SORRY THAT I KEEP VENTIG

as1inmay Posted: Aug 28, 2004 11:05 AM

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THANKS FOR THE ADVICE GIRLS I REALLY APPRECIATE IT

suven Posted: Aug 28, 2004 11:05 AM

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Maybe he's just too tired? But, when is friends call, he feels like he has to see them? I'm sure that you 2 can work it out!

2003OCT10 Posted: Aug 28, 2004 11:07 AM

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Before our wedding we had a very similar incident... I told him that I want him to be more spontaneous, and it worked for awhile...

Thats one of my DH's quirks... When he does things spontaneous, he does them well.. (two dozen roses)... But RARELY ever a night out. I go out with my girls or to my girls' apartment and hang out with them for a little wine and vent!! THAT ALWAYS WORKS!! LOL

butterfly20 Posted: Aug 28, 2004 11:26 AM

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i think a wedding is emotionally and physically draining.... and I have my fh telling me to be more spontanious and all but after working all day, and the stuff to do when i come home sometimes i just want to relax....