Is anyone having a hard time. . . . .

Can't wait to change my name to FH's! I love his name and how it sounds with mine.
Maybe if I was very established in my career with my last name, I'd have more of an issue but sadly, that is not the case

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Posted by itbroi805

it doesn't bother me...i mean even though I've been one person my whole life, after we get married I will essentially be a new person....I will be a wife with my own family to start as well as being part of my other family.

in fact I'm excited...it makes us an official family!

plus i wouldnt want my kids to have a hypehnated name or different name

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i feel exactly the same way.

My FH actually doesn't care whether i change it or not...
I am going to hyphenate it becuase if i translate it to English my last name will be the Cross of Jesus Christ. ha! and i think its actually funny.

YES!!!!!!

It makes me very sad.

I have a couple issues with the name changing situation
1.) I going from a 6 letter name that is constantly spelled wrong, to a TEN letter name is constantly spelled wrong and PRONOUNCED wrong.

2.) I will be in the first semester of my program (hopefully) in school when I get married- I foresee ALOT of paperwork and confusion if I try to change it during the program....but FH doesn't want me to wait the 2 years until I am done with school to change it

nope, i love FH's last name! and i've never been a fan of mine-ppl can never pronounce it (even though I think it is so simple).

the only problem i'm having is how to write my new signature? lol...i'm not good at writing capital script 'S's!

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Posted by sjr385

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Posted by Chanwich

I'm in the same boat. FH's last name is Smith I feel like being Mrs Smith is so generic. Plus my last name is MY name, why should I change it? FH wants me to hyphenate, but I'd rather just keep mine. I'm guessing in the end he will win this battle

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As a scientist, are you worried about changing your name? I keep threatening FH that if I publish before the wedding, I'm keeping my name. He just says that I should publish in my future name. Oy.

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YESSSS. I already have a bunch of papers published under MY name, which is another big reason I don't want to change it. And if we do change it in science, it will definitely have to be hyphenated so that people know the work was ours. SO annoying! I have a friend from grad school who changed her name after her wedding and just hyphenates it on her papers now. Its just a pain in the butt.

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Posted by Chanwich

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Posted by sjr385

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Posted by Chanwich

I'm in the same boat. FH's last name is Smith I feel like being Mrs Smith is so generic. Plus my last name is MY name, why should I change it? FH wants me to hyphenate, but I'd rather just keep mine. I'm guessing in the end he will win this battle

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As a scientist, are you worried about changing your name? I keep threatening FH that if I publish before the wedding, I'm keeping my name. He just says that I should publish in my future name. Oy.

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YESSSS. I already have a bunch of papers published under MY name, which is another big reason I don't want to change it. And if we do change it in science, it will definitely have to be hyphenated so that people know the work was ours. SO annoying! I have a friend from grad school who changed her name after her wedding and just hyphenates it on her papers now. Its just a pain in the butt.

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i am in the same boat... it drives me nuts that i will have to hyphenate professionally and then just have his name personally- i think it will get confusing and annoying

don't mind at all, moving up in the alphabet though. ahaha from P to D.

I decided a long time ago that if I had established a career that I wouldn't change my name.. . . . .that hasn't happened yet. ha

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Posted by suzie411

let me add this . . .I will be going from:

Flinn
to
Sevdinoglou

yea! haha. I'm sad, but it'll be kinda fun (i guess).

It'll be a lifetime of, 'whhhat?? Sevdino what??'

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Woah. I totally get how you feel now.

You are now going to be 'Mrs. S'!

omg .... i love my FH last name.....

I have no problem changing it...but if i did he would be so upset.....

you do what you need to do ....be honest with him...


have you spoken about ...to you FH of course