Is anyone living with family to save for the wedding?

Is anyone living with family to save for the wedding?

JT and I are in the planning stages of what we will do when he moves back to LI in December. We can't afford to pay rent, etc AND save up for the wedding, so we are considering two options. One is for us to live with his sister and her husband where we would help them out a little financially since they are having difficulties with money and have a HUGE house, and the other is for him to live with his parents and me to live with mine. My parents would love to have us both, but their place is too small, and well, you've all read the stories about JT's mother! It would only be for a year TOPS just to save, but I was wondering if anyone else is doing anything similar and how it is working out. We just won't be financially stable for another year or so, so rent AND saving is out of the question. It's one or the other unfortunately. Thanks ladies!

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me and fh are living with his parents to save for the wedding. i just would never be able to afford paying rent and saving for a wedding right now.

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Do you feel like it's the right decision Chrissy? I mean, I have a feeling that we will end up living separated-him with his parents and me with mine, only because his sister lives out east in the middle of nowhere. It will just be weird because we have lived together over a year now, and separating is just not right. But it makes it easier that I am living in NY now because it won't be AS weird if we do that when he moves home. I dont know. I just like to plan ahead, and I can't stop stressing over how much we have to save.

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I live with my FH and we have both taken on second jobs to pay for the wedding

i say, save the money and live with your 'rents!

i wish i could

GOOD LUCK TO YOU!

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i think you should stay together, live with his sister for a while until you save enough for your own place. thats what i'm doing and it's working out great.

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FH lives with his parents and i live with mine...i cant tell you how much $$ we are able to save by doing this! and we are also saving for a house in addition. of coure it is hard to not be able to see each other all the time and i do miss him (though he lives less than a mile away!) the main thing is that this is a temporary living situation. this is a sacrifice to have the things we want for the future. you won't be living with your parents forever. i say a year is not a long time to live apart. think of how much $$ you'll save and you'll be happy you did! it is your decision of course! i am just speaking from my own experience! good luck!

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Thanks for being a sounding board ladies. Sometimes I get these ideas that I THINK are good ones, yet, they aren't really, so it's nice to get outside feedback!

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Think of all the good things about living apart but close to each other! You haved your own space for just a little longer, you will still miss each other, when you finally do move in together.....you will appreciate each other more!

Good Luck with whatever you decide!

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rachel. i would say for you two to live with the sister.... mike and i both live at our own houses and its a pain in the a s s picking me up and driving me home each night... the sisters would definately be betteer

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We are planning on staying at his parent's house until we can afford the down payment on our first house, especially with him going back to school this fall.

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we are living seperatly until the wedding to save money. it was the only way that we could save enough money to buy a house after we are married. it isnt always the best but it works and it will make the day we move in together that much more special.

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we lived with his mom the entire time because rent is outragous and actually we are still living here.

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not only are we paying for our own wedding, but I am also in school full-time & FH wants to buy a house within 6 months of wedding, so yes, we are stayin in the old apartment in my house. My mother has since moved back in to my house to help us out. She sold her condo & will probably retire right after the wedding.

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FI and I are living with my father in their basment apartment ( rent free) to help save for wedding and to buy a home.
I say do what you have to do. We all gotta make sacfrices.

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we both lived with family to pay for our wedding. We pulled it off, but it was so hard. We still live with my family, but will be moving soon. It isnt the end of the world if it helps you to pay for your dream wedding!