Is it bad...

adelz Posted: Jan 28, 2011 10:27 PM

Is it bad...

That days before we need to send out our invites, we're re-evaluating our list again and possibly changing up the guest list?

This should be fun...

Im getting Married Posted: Jan 28, 2011 10:31 PM

Re: Is it bad...

Better now than later

adelz Posted: Jan 28, 2011 10:33 PM

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Posted by Im getting Married

Better now than later

Hah, I guess - unless we end up not being able to invite people that we originally were going to, or people that were expecting it.

But you're right, better now than later :)

Im getting Married Posted: Jan 28, 2011 10:34 PM

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Are you reducing or adding different people?

adelz Posted: Jan 28, 2011 10:35 PM

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Posted by Im getting Married

Are you reducing or adding different people?

Both...We might need to reduce some people to add others (i.e. some unexpected family members that now might be able to come)...

I just don't know how to handle in the case that we have to tell some people we can no longer invite them. Blah.

Soon2bMrsB91511 Posted: Jan 28, 2011 10:37 PM

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That's a great question! I think a re-do is only worth it for reductions, not additions! (We've been feuding with my fam about this topic pretty much since we got engaged, so I know how rough the guest list compilation can be)

The way I see it, if you couldn't think of them right off the bat, and they didn't make the first list...they probably don't need to be invited...Otherwise, it's just gonna become wayyy bigger than it needs to be, and before you know it, you'll be second guessing yourself for the third time!

lisam1113 Posted: Jan 28, 2011 10:38 PM

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No not bad it's definately better to do it now before there out.. Just one thing.. Did you send out STD's bc if you did everyone you sent one gets an invite.. A few people I'm unsure of I'm not sending STD's for that reason..

adelz Posted: Jan 28, 2011 10:38 PM

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Posted by Soon2bMrsB91511

That's a great question! I think a re-do is only worth it for reductions, not additions! (We've been feuding with my fam about this topic pretty much since we got engaged, so I know how rough the guest list compilation can be)

The way I see it, if you couldn't think of them right off the bat, and they didn't make the first list...they probably don't need to be invited...Otherwise, it's just gonna become wayyy bigger than it needs to be, and before you know it, you'll be second guessing yourself for the third time!

Totally agreed about the last part - but the additional people we might be adding are family members from FH's side that we didn't anticipate would be able to get visas to come and now they might be. And having more of his family there is very important to both of us...

Im getting Married Posted: Jan 28, 2011 10:38 PM

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Posted by adelz

Posted by Im getting Married

Are you reducing or adding different people?

Both...We might need to reduce some people to add others (i.e. some unexpected family members that now might be able to come)...

I just don't know how to handle in the case that we have to tell some people we can no longer invite them. Blah.

Is it a lot of people. Maybe you will get more NO responses and you can still invite them

adelz Posted: Jan 28, 2011 10:39 PM

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Posted by lisam1113

No not bad it's definately better to do it now before there out.. Just one thing.. Did you send out STD's bc if you did everyone you sent one gets an invite.. A few people I'm unsure of I'm not sending STD's for that reason..

I didn't do STD's, but when I asked for people's address for the invite they knew why I was asking...

lisam1113 Posted: Jan 28, 2011 10:40 PM

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Posted by adelz

Posted by lisam1113

No not bad it's definately better to do it now before there out.. Just one thing.. Did you send out STD's bc if you did everyone you sent one gets an invite.. A few people I'm unsure of I'm not sending STD's for that reason..

I didn't do STD's, but when I asked for people's address for the invite they knew why I was asking...

Oh okay so your good then!!

Soon2bMrsB91511 Posted: Jan 28, 2011 10:41 PM

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Ahhh, I see...well, in that case, go for it! It's gonna suck to get back at it, especially after thinking you were done and in the clear, but if it is close family and they are coming from far away to be there, it is definitely important to include them.

adelz Posted: Jan 28, 2011 10:41 PM

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Posted by lisam1113

Posted by adelz

Posted by lisam1113

No not bad it's definately better to do it now before there out.. Just one thing.. Did you send out STD's bc if you did everyone you sent one gets an invite.. A few people I'm unsure of I'm not sending STD's for that reason..

I didn't do STD's, but when I asked for people's address for the invite they knew why I was asking...

Oh okay so your good then!!

Even though the people I got addresses from know that I was going to invite them? lol. I just can feel the drama coming on

adelz Posted: Jan 28, 2011 10:42 PM

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Posted by Im getting Married

Posted by adelz

Posted by Im getting Married

Are you reducing or adding different people?

Both...We might need to reduce some people to add others (i.e. some unexpected family members that now might be able to come)...

I just don't know how to handle in the case that we have to tell some people we can no longer invite them. Blah.

Is it a lot of people. Maybe you will get more NO responses and you can still invite them

'

It's a bunch...Maybe what I'll do is the people I might have reduced, put them on a 'B List' for now instead of A list and wait until I get some NO's from before sending them out. Is that bad etiquette?

Im getting Married Posted: Jan 28, 2011 10:45 PM

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Posted by adelz

Posted by Im getting Married

Posted by adelz

Posted by Im getting Married

Are you reducing or adding different people?

Both...We might need to reduce some people to add others (i.e. some unexpected family members that now might be able to come)...

I just don't know how to handle in the case that we have to tell some people we can no longer invite them. Blah.

Is it a lot of people. Maybe you will get more NO responses and you can still invite them
'

It's a bunch...Maybe what I'll do is the people I might have reduced, put them on a 'B List' for now instead of A list and wait until I get some NO's from before sending them out. Is that bad etiquette?

I know a lot of girls talked about having B lists so I don't think it's bad. I'm sure people would understand if they were getting bumped for family. It's not like it's some random person

adelz Posted: Jan 28, 2011 10:47 PM

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Posted by Im getting Married

I know a lot of girls talked about having B lists so I don't think it's bad. I'm sure people would understand if they were getting bumped for family. It's not like it's some random person

That makes me feel better - thank you - I feel terrible about it, but I really want more of FH's family to be there, that's the most important right now - having most of our family there :)

lisam1113 Posted: Jan 28, 2011 10:53 PM

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Posted by adelz

Posted by lisam1113

Posted by adelz

Posted by lisam1113

No not bad it's definately better to do it now before there out.. Just one thing.. Did you send out STD's bc if you did everyone you sent one gets an invite.. A few people I'm unsure of I'm not sending STD's for that reason..

I didn't do STD's, but when I asked for people's address for the invite they knew why I was asking...

Oh okay so your good then!!

Even though the people I got addresses from know that I was going to invite them? lol. I just can feel the drama coming on

well if it's not in your budget. there going to have to understand Just remember that EVERYONE will have an opinion.. I've heard A LOT of them unfortunately.. But another thing to keep in mind is that I've heard about 20% of your guest list will not come... so it may not be that bad..