Is it bad to say I hate my BMs?

Storyfairey Posted: Feb 23, 2007 11:33 AM

Is it bad to say I hate my BMs?

First I want to thnak everyone for their advice with the BM He!! topic and I took it to heart. I spoke with them and asked if they even wanted to do it because they kept putting off getting their dresses. They were ify about it so I sent out the other girls dress orders so they would have any extra charges. A week later my three wayward BMs call and want to be in the wedding.
We go and order the dresses on Sat., they complain (loudly) about the rush fee (*which I ignored*), then about the dress (should have been their when the others went shopping), then about the color (its burgandy, it looks good on everyone and it my favorite color).
Skip to sunday. They call and tell me they cancelled their orders because they really hate the dress! They want to pick new ones, is that ok?(insert headache from hell here) I flip out; they had two months to go for these dresses and they chose the end of febuary to do it. My fh calls and begs me to work with them because they raised him and he wants them in it.
Skip to a five hour production on tuesday of THREE girls picking out a new dress. I can't switch the others dresses so now my family's in one and his is in another. I can not wait to see these pictures!
Here are the two dresses please honestly tell me how bad this is going to look:

FutureMrs.T Posted: Feb 23, 2007 11:35 AM

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I think they will compliment each other well. Are they both in the same color?

FutureMrs.T Posted: Feb 23, 2007 11:36 AM

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BTW, I really like both dresses, who is the designer and where did you get them from?

JM4EVA Posted: Feb 23, 2007 11:37 AM

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The dresses do go together. They look a little similair in style which is good. Are both dresses in the same color? If they are that will also pull them together. HTH.

MrsQ-in2007 Posted: Feb 23, 2007 11:38 AM

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Ugh, some people are such a$$es!!!! Seriously, why complain when you've had all the time in the world to get things done but you wait til the end?!?!?

Anyway, from the pictures I honestly think they do go well together. If you get them all in the same color then they will coordinate. The back of the 'new' dress mimics the front of your original choice, so I think they will go well. And if anything, your family will stand out a bit more because the front of their dress has more detail, so boop to your FH's girls

Storyfairey Posted: Feb 23, 2007 11:39 AM

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Yes, that was one of my 'rules' as they called them: Same color, same material and same desinger (Jordan makes the dresses)
I got them at Bridal suite in Centereach, but I know macy's carries them. They were both under $150.

Summer07Bride Posted: Feb 23, 2007 11:41 AM

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I think you are in luck because they are very similar styles so I think they should go well together

ali120206 Posted: Feb 23, 2007 11:43 AM

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Although the way they handled it wasn't great, the dresses will look very nice together! My friend gave her girls and designer/fabric/color to choose from and all of the girls did different dresses (a couple had the same) and it looked really nice!

RobbiesGirl Posted: Feb 23, 2007 11:44 AM

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WOW, that's really insensitive of them!

I don't think it will look that bad... at least they both have a V-neck! Will they be the same color?

SoontobeMrsO Posted: Feb 23, 2007 11:46 AM

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They are both very nice dresses and compliment each other.

In the pictures you can have them stand with alternate dresses. (just an idea)

happygirl07 Posted: Feb 23, 2007 11:49 AM

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They do go well together.

imas98 Posted: Feb 23, 2007 11:57 AM

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I was thinking the same thing....alternate them in the pictures or coming down the isle.....people will think you meant to have the contrast ! The do look good together...the neckline & the style are similar.

2009wedding Posted: Feb 23, 2007 12:02 PM

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Those two colors look great together. It looks really nice. You will be happy with it one you see them together

Mssissy Posted: Feb 23, 2007 12:08 PM

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The dresses are very nice.

BTW...you're a better person than me. I would've told them to keep their money and just had the girls who ordered the dresses without complaints in the wedding.

Good luck!

GinaZ Posted: Feb 23, 2007 12:09 PM

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I think the colors will look nice together. It will be different and look really pretty.

But can I say that they had no right to pick new dresses. It is your wedding and your decision. If they didn't want to wear what you choose, they should have said no to being in the wedding. Are they paying for the wedding? If not, then they really had no right to do this to you. JMO.

Kara and Todd Posted: Feb 23, 2007 01:16 PM

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They have no right to pick new dresses and cancel their orders without even talking to you first. Nor do they have the right to invite themselves in (and leave) your bridal party on a whim. Personally, I'd tell them you'd rather not have them in your BP.

It's not worth having people who will cause you grief in your BP if you can avoid it.

I'd tell them that since they cancelled their dress orders, they're not in the BP. Period.

N.Y.bride Posted: Feb 23, 2007 01:33 PM

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I think it will look fine together. Ive seen wedding where they have used all different dresses, but similar by the same designer and it was nice.'

I just hope the color is the same.

Now on to the bigger topic.. WHAT NERVE!! I CAN NOT believe a BM, let alone THREE would have the nerve to actually call the bride and ask her to change the dress!!!! What planet are they from?? I would have told your FH, Im sorry theres no way. Its not possible. A few weeks ago maybe, but now that I have put the other girls orders in --- NO!!!

Im so sorry you are going through this.

BubbasBride Posted: Feb 23, 2007 01:41 PM

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Seriously, I am appalled that these women would behave like this. People straight up baffle me.

You are handling this way better than I ever would.

SchmearandGoose Posted: Feb 23, 2007 01:47 PM

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I can't believe they did that. It's an honor to be asked to be in your wedding and they should have either sucked it up and kept their mouths closed or have no accepted your invitation to walk down the aisle in the first place. You are soooooooooo lucky that the dresses work nicely together. I'm sorry this happend to you. I hope this will be the end of the problems.