Is it FMIL or you and FH that decides . . .

Original post by 12-3Princess

Jan 27, 2005 02:45 PM

who sits where on his side of the family?

I would think that would be up to FH and I - but yesterday she made a comment about where SHE was going to put people . . .

Someone let me know how this goes so I know how to react next time? I'm under the impression that we can ask for her opinions and run stuff by her, but that seating is up to US in its entirety.

girlygrl33 Posted: Jan 27, 2005 03:59 PM

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My FH mom is deceased but I am def going to ask his aunt for help in sitting who with whom on his side I think its only fair.

eogara Posted: Jan 27, 2005 04:03 PM

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Oh, I am TOTALLY not doing that. I'm her her list of yes responses with the tables she has for her family and am doing the same for FFIL (they're divorced) - they can do it. I don't even know half of these people (neither does FH! ) so they can deal with it. They're getting a deadline too of like 3 days after because I'm doing the vellum placecards and can't do them until all the seating is done!

Bebalina Posted: Jan 27, 2005 04:03 PM

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in my case, it'll be FH and I

CJStein Posted: Jan 27, 2005 04:03 PM

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Posted by FrescaBride

I must say that I'm very fortunate that my FMIL and I are very close. It will be up to my FH and I to arrange seating but I think I would want her input for her guests. I think it will benefit everyone as they will be seating with those people they enjoy the most and have a more fun time.

Same for me...also, I think I'd definitely want her input and help...the seating chart is a HUGE job.

LuckyMe Posted: Jan 27, 2005 04:22 PM

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I would say its you decision but I know my FMIL wound up telling FBIL when he got married were everyone should sit and I know that since we are not talking to her anymore she influenced her nephew to put us way in the back at his reception with people we didn't know!(We fooled her though we had a great time with these people despite her). I mean if it's gonna cause problems let her seat her family and if you dont like where she's seating them then change it and tell her the hall screwed up!

traceyd Posted: Jan 27, 2005 05:20 PM

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Dont get me started on the FMIL-I'd say YOU decide its your wedding.

(sorry I get heated when the FMIL thing appears!)

nferrandi Posted: Jan 27, 2005 05:43 PM

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Posted by Stacey04

What we did, which I thought was great. She put her tables together, like who will be sitting with who, and DH and I decided where in the room the table will go.

I could care less if cousin A wants to sit with Aunt D, thats up to her, but I might not want them sitting next to ME. That was more important to us.

Good Luck!

That's exactly what we did. I gave my MIL a list of all of her guests that had responded yes amd she grouped them. DH decided the actual layout of the tables though.