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THE OUTER ENVELOPE
This is where you write the recipients' full names, official titles, first names, and the rest. It's where tradition is upheld, decorum celebrated; that means no cutting corners with abbreviations like Dr., NY, or St. (Mrs., Mr., Ms., and Jr. are the only acceptable shorthands). Some examples:
SINGLE RECIPIENT
If the single guy or girl is bringing a date who is someone you know, get the individual's address and send a separate invitation because '& Guest' on an outer envelope can be impersonal. Roommates who aren't honeys should each receive their own invite.
Ms. Abigail Ansch
44 Acorn Drive
Houston, Texas 11111
MARRIED COUPLE, TRADITIONAL
Mr. and Mrs. Harold Paris
92 Pacific Avenue
New York, New York 11111
MARRIED COUPLE, MODERN
Harold and Emma Paris
92 Pacific Avenue
New York, New York 11111
MARRIED COUPLE, DIFFERENT LAST NAMES / UNMARRIED COUPLE, LIVING TOGETHER
Always list the names in alphabetical order.
Connie Chideya & Dr. Darren Duncan
18 Blueberry Road
Boston, Massachusetts 11111
INVITED WITH KIDS
Names of children under 18 years old need not appear on the outer envelope, but over-18-ers who live at home should either appear on their parents' envelope or, preferably, be sent their own invitation.
Mr. and Mrs. Ebert Estonia
& Farrah Estonia
195 Oak Boulevard
Chicago, Illinois 11111
THE INNER ENVELOPE
Formal invitations are always slipped into an unsealed inner envelope to be placed inside the outer envelope. They are addressed in a more informal fashion -- typically only title abbreviations and last name -- and include the names of all invitees at the address, including children.
SINGLE RECIPIENT, TRADITIONAL
Ms. Ansch
SINGLE RECIPIENT, MODERN
Abigail or Aunt Abigail
MARRIED COUPLE, TRADITIONAL
Mr. and Mrs. Bailey
MARRIED COUPLE, MODERN
Ben and Tamika
MARRIED COUPLE, DIFFERENT LAST NAMES / UNMARRIED COUPLE, LIVING TOGETHER
Ms. Chideya & Dr. Duncan or Connie and Darren
A FAMILY
Mr. and Mrs. Estonia &
Farrah, Gilbert, and Harriet
